Would you disown your child for religion purposes?

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   DDEposted 9 years ago

   Would you disown your child for religion purposes?
   
   Many families in different cultures choose to disown their children if they marry someone from  another religion. I don't think religion should be a priority in any relationship. Do you think it is a right way to disown ones child because of religion issues?

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   Snøwmanposted 9 years ago

   No, it's not right. Jesus taught us to love everyone, even members of other religions. Even when family is in another religion. Disowning children isn't love. Think of the prodigal son in The Bible. He was never disowned. It is appropriate to discourage marrying someone of another religion, but you have to let them make their own choice.
   
   Religion should be a priority in a relationship. You always put God first.

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for answering here it is interesting to read the different opinions. Very thoughtfully mentioned.

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   Aime Fposted 9 years ago

   There is nothing in this world that would make me disown or turn my back on my child. She has my support to associate, love, and be with anyone she chooses as long as they treat her well; their religion isn't even a blip on my radar.
   
   Likewise, she is free to follow, or not follow, any religion that she wants. It's her choice entirely and I will support her no matter what.
   
   The thought that someone puts religion before their own child absolutely blows my mind. My daughter is my number one priority and I can't imagine putting anything else first.

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you I feel the same way

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   MG Singhposted 9 years ago

   It is a very difficult question. Gandhi also disowned his son when he converted to Islam. For me I would accept conversion to any religion except Islam

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hmm then you do have a problem with religion not every individual  will have the same thought about religion and I respect your decision thank you.

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      Chasing Wordsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I understand your concerns surrounding Islam; especially, for women. A woman who marries a Muslim male is expect to convert along with any children; otherwise, there are serious consequences.

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   peeplesposted 9 years ago

   My kids could blow a thousand people up and I would still love them. I would never disown my child for something so unimportant. If it makes them happy great! I am not required to agree with every thing they do. We are a family of atheist, Jewish, Buddhist, and Christians. They are free to use their own brains to make adult decisions.

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      peeples your answer is so perfect. i understand your views here and i feel the same. Thank you.

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   bethperryposted 9 years ago

   I could never bring myself to disown one of my children, and I agree that religion shouldn't be a priority in any relationship. It may seem easy to some to disown a child that doesn't conform to our belief system, but this is cowardice and it is arrogance. Besides, when follow our spiritual beliefs even if our loved ones do not share them is a far greater testament to devotion and our Deity than any arrogant, vengeful behavior.

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      bethperry thank you I feel the same. I will not disown my child for religion purposes or any other.

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   Chasing Wordsposted 9 years ago

   Religion plays a major role in how people and cultures view relationships. If people marry from different religions there is usually conflict once the honeymoon phase wanes, because the baseline for their relationship has many variations.  Without a solid baseline the foundation becomes weak unless they find a middle ground. It is best if individuals from different religious belief systems negotiate their viewpoints prior to marriage to avoid serious issues following marriage. Do I believe inter religion relationships work if both parties are committed to making it work? Yes. Do I feel that a parent should disown their child for marrying someone from a different religious background? Never.

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi thank you and so right on never disown your child for religion purposes. Thank you.

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   Sparkleaposted 9 years ago

   Never, ever! 
   
   That being said, my son has disowned me for religious purposes.
   
   I was a total fool when raising my son and daughter, I shoved Christianity down their throats.  I knew no different back then.  I went to a very strict fundamental church.  I put my children in a ridiculous Christian school, signed permission forms for them to be spanked...one day they refused to let my son attend school because his hair touched his ears, and he could not return until his hair was cut.  Very damaging.  I finally took them out of Christian school.
   
   My husband and I left the church years ago...but it was too late.
   The aftershocks continue.
   
   Yes, I am still a Christian.  But I will not go near a church.  My testimony is no longer my talk but my walk...I never preach nor dump my beliefs on anyone.  If I want to share the wonderful things God has done for me I do it in writing.
   
   I remain close to my daughter, she survived the misdirection I pushed on her and her brother. 
   
   However, I live in heartbreak and I have frequent weeping periods for what religion---not God---did to my relationship with my son.  He is such a wonderful person, husband and father to his four children.....We text, he says he loves me...but  he lives nine minutes away and I never see him.  I have not spent time with his children for over 2 1/2 years. 
   
   I may write a book about this some day to encourage parents to let their child make their own decisions about choosing their own beliefs.
   
   This is a good question.  Thank you.  Blessings, Sparklea

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Sparklea this is sad your son disowning you even vice versa as the questions applies.    Life is too short and  forgiveness is the answer here.  I couldn't do what you are doing..  Write that book it would encourage others. Thank you.

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   agusfananiposted 9 years ago

   Our religion plays very important role in my family's life. I can't imagine it if my child has another different religion from the one I embrace but that won't make me disown her since my belief says when one has grown up and become adult, all responsibilities regarding his/her interactions with God is in his/her own hand. I think that will really make me so sad.

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      DDEposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Hi agusfanani , You have your reason about religion but would not disown your child well said, thank you.

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    Ozonenrhiaposted 9 years ago

    I love this question! This is something I have touched on many many times and I get to do so again. Being a parent is the most important, sacred job you will ever have in your whole life. It is the very essence of life itself, as we virtually give it to another.
    
    My answer to this question is no. However, I do not follow a religion. I am very very spiritual but religious no. Religion is man made and men have screwed things up from the beginning of time. I am also not a Christian. I think that Jesus was an amazing teacher and the epiphany of what love should be. I view him much like I do all the great teachers of the world. I find it sad, that so many have twisted his message to hurt others. I have many amazing Christian friends that walk the walk he taught and for that I respect them. Sadly, there are not enough that do.
    
    I have 5 amazing children. I do not care what they grow up to believe as long as they believe in something and have hope. Religion does not make someone a good person, they either are or they are not. I do not care who my children grow up to love. I do not care if they are black, brown, white, yellow or purple. I do not care because if they are happy, treated well, built up and loved I could not be happier. I do not care if my children fall in love with, date or marry a man or a woman. Love is love regardless of what package it comes in.
    
    Anyone who disowns a child based on their religion really needs to evaluate what they believe in. You cannot disown and claim to follow Christ. If you do so, you need to reread his teachings as his friends were the outcasts. His friends were the lepers, prostitutes and thieves. Remember also that to disown based on religion is not a valid reason. Jesus himself was not a Christian. He was very much Jewish.
    
    Brightest Blessings my friends.

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    lone77starposted 9 years ago

    Absolutely not. The True purpose of religion is to bring us closer together. But ego destroys religions just as it destroys governments, businesses, etc.
    
    God is Love. So, if my son or daughter were to marry a non-Christian, I would welcome them into the family as a new, cherished loved one.
    
    I've studied many religions. I started as a Southern Baptist (Christian). I studied Scientology, Buddhism, Taoism, Judaism, Christian (non-denominational) and now Kabbalah (which is, as I found out recently, not a religion at all, but spiritual science).
    
    http://perceivingreality.com/
    
    God's purpose is to bring all His children back together into one being. We can't do that if we use Ego (evil) to keep us separate.

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    Penny Gposted 9 years ago

    Absolutely not! God wants us to love everyone and withhold love for no reason. We should as he does us love unconditionally , no matter what the situation. I'm sure glad or there would be an awful lot of unloved people.

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    passionatelearnrposted 8 years ago

    No ofcourse not.but if my child does serious harm to someone then i'd be very unhappy with him.

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