Do you let your son be who he is?

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   Penny Gposted 9 years ago

   Do you let your son be who he is?
   
   Are you OK with your son, a pre schooler to play with, wear, and associate with whatever gender he is comfortable with. By this I mean, do you let him wear a princess dress to the play ground if he wants. Do you buy him things he chooses, not things because they are for boys. My Grandson is the most well adjusted little boy I think I have ever known, he is sweet natured, loves to dress up and many times prefers princess gowns, and plastic high heels. They make him so happy. He does like other costumes, but these are his favorite. He has many dolls from the Disney shows.
   
   

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   Ashleystestimonyposted 9 years ago

   Hey Penny G , hope you doing good today. Now first im going to say i truly feel that no matter what your grandchild choose for a sexual orientation that having his family support and comfort him with love is going to be the best acceptence you can give him as of now and is very important for his life as he is becoming to know who he is. I would like to also add that its none of my concern but to sit down and make it easy to open up about why he likes to choose those set of costumes over all others it can be a phase he going through he may like the bright colors or the sounds of the click the heels. All options should be open has he been touched has anyone bullied him to make him choose those options these are questions that may should be asked , but truthfully i feel he is young and is just getting into things as of now who to say he may grow up and never want these things metioned infront of women dates but either way yes it is okay to let your grandchild be who he is around family. Some people may not agree or except it but forcing things on him and then him growing up actually having this sexual orientation willcause him to push away from family and have to deal with alot of hardships of life on his on . So just be there for him let him play have fun and stay with him throughout his growth .

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      He is will be 4 in November, and he is very happy in his own skin, comfortable with himself. His parents have done a great job with learning, his safety, and so on.He is sensitive and happy, and these are part of what makes him who he is.

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      Ashleystestimonyposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thats Great and with that continued support from family he is going to continue to be very upbeat . im glad i helped. have a great day.

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   jlparkposted 9 years ago

   Yes, you do. At least in my opinion - as it's exactly how I plan to do things with my daughter - gender non-conforming or not.
   The knowledge that he is accepted for who he is, what he likes, and how he feels comfortable - means he will grow up to feel secure in himself - something that a lot of teenagers and adults struggle with.
   
   What he does now does not necessarily mean he always will or even anything to do with his sexual orientation (when he's old enough to understand what that is) - he's just comfortable with it now. If he does eventually figure out he isn't straight - then he won't struggle to accept himself as many do because he was accepted right from the start. And if he grows to find he is straight - he'll feel secure in himself and confident in whatever he's wearing!
   
   Society puts gender things out there - clothes are for covering, not identifying gender.
   
   Good on you for thinking on it and accepting him for the way he is at the moment.

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      Penny Gposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Great  thinking.  Of course some of the older people think we shouldn't buy the things he loves. Thats old thinking. Parents of today are so such further ahead than when I grew up. The children now will benefit from the new thinking nowadays.

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