Do you come from a household of divorce/separation or marriage?

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   baybpnkposted 9 years ago

   Do you come from a household of divorce/separation or marriage?
   
   Marriage and divorce can be hard on any child- What is your specific experience? What type of household do you come from? In either situation, do you think the relationship your parents have has effected your life? If so, in what ways?

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   Kirsty Oposted 9 years ago

   A bit of both, my parents divorced when I was in my late teens. Their relationship absolutely affected me. All the arguing made me want to run away although I had nowhere to go really so only actually did that once. I have a poor relationship with my father to this day because of it.
   
   I am only 28 but I remember when I was really young the boy that lived next door's mum was remarried and he only saw his dad every few weeks. To me that was strange because everyone else had a mum and dad at home. Fast forward to my teens and I was probably one of only a handful of people whose parents were still married, then mine divorced too.
   
   I wish my parents had split up earlier, I know that might seem weird to people who didn't live through it but it would have prevented a lot of what I went through and perhaps I would have a better relationship with dad now.

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      baybpnkposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you! My parents are still married and I have no idea how they did it. The majority of my friends' parents are split and I have heard the horror stories, and I just can't imagine having to go trough some of those things. I appreciate your answer

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      Kirsty Oposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I think everyone's experience is different, my parents didn't have a happy marriage so I was more relieved than anything else. The other half's parents didn't split till he was in his mid 20's and it was a more difficult experience for him

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   My parents were divorced when I was 7.
   It wasn't the end of the world nor did I ever feel unloved.
   The only effect if there is one was my not buying into the "happily ever" fairytale. I understood that sometimes couples grow apart and everyone has their own "deal breakers". I was proud of my mother for not settling and being independent. Oftentimes people say getting a divorce is an "easy" out. Usually they've never done it!
   It's a lot easier to get married than it is to go through a divorce!
   It takes courage to admit a mistake was made and then make a change! Not everyone hits the lottery when it comes to choosing a mate. A divorce is nothing more than a public admission that a mistake was made in the mate selection department of one's life.

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   connorjposted 9 years ago

   
   
   My parents never divorced. They were together and in love until "me fadder" died at age 66. Me mother lived until 91, 46 years after me fadder's passing. "Me mom" never remarried, lived a most wonderful, selfless life and died with a smile on her face. I was blessed with two parents who were deeply in love with each other until death; well maybe even to the other side and beyond. I wrote a hub about how "me mom" seemed to be taken care of so profoundly after " me fadder's" death. Believe what you must...

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   Angel Van Attaposted 9 years ago

   My parents were divorced when I was very very young. My mother died soon after and I grew up bouncing back and forth from my father and family. Sometimes even just his random friends. It was hard on me for a while, but now that I am in my thirties my life is less effected by that.

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