Men...What is it that makes you fall in love with a woman?

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   savvydatingposted 6 years ago

   Men...What is it that makes you fall in love with a woman?
   
   Perhaps you love a woman because of her character traits, or maybe you love her for reasons that seem almost intangible. What makes you love a woman? I call upon all honest answers. I'm not here to judge.
   Women also have their own individual perspectives, fair or not!
   
   
   

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   Ken Burgessposted 6 years ago

   Two things I really have had no choice in, who my family was, and who I fell in love with.
   
   It would have been wonderful if there was a rational checklist to go off of, I have had relationships that were thrilling, easy going, convenient, but when you really fall in love with someone you will know it, because you can't get free of it, and you will put your interests aside because of it.  It can be great, it can be tragic, but its not something you can just choose to be.

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      savvydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Awesome answer! Still, are you willing to put that intangible into about words. Specifically, a whisper of 'something' must come to mind. I'd like it if women could begin to appreciate the perspective of men. I've no doubt you can contribute more...

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      Ken Burgessposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      You cannot not care about what happens to that person.
         
      In my experience the connection is immediate and unexpected between two souls, I wasn't looking for it, didn't want it or have time for it, but it is what it is.  When it happens it happens.

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      savvydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Ken, love is a mysterious thing, yet you got to the core of the matter. Sometimes it's about really caring despite ourselves.  BTW, thanks for ignoring my typos.

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      gregasposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      True, I told the Lady I am with now that I wasn't going to fall in love again. That was 3-1/2 years ago. It didn't take long and I was in love with this woman, like it or not.

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      savvydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Lol. Love is thoroughly sneaky that way. Great story, gregas.

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   gregasposted 6 years ago

   I believe it is mainly the way she makes me feel in my heart about life and confidence in myself.

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      savvydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Another great answer, gregas. believe that women who back up a good man understand what life is all about. Your answer reminds me of the song, "Simple Man." Appreciate your answer!

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      tithi5683posted 6 years agoin reply to this

      you r right

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   Perspycaciousposted 6 years ago

   
   
   It was said many years ago (in the 1950's) that "A man will meet 150 people in his lifetime that he could be happily married to for a lifetime."  I suspect that, with the advances in social media, that number has skyrocketed.
   
   Some men fall in love more easily and readily than others, and some might even disdain it, if it were to actually happen to them.
   
   I believe in "love at first sight."  But that "falling in love" that way is rare, unless it is mutual from the start.  Could it be that we knew that person in a preexistence?
   
   I think men and women at some point have their "ideal mate" in mind before they even meet such a person, and if that "click" is there, some guardian angels may have been hard at work arranging their "chance" encounter.
   
   There are millions (and more) "fine" people of both sexes.  Of the 150++ we will surely meet many in whom we finally  recognize those fine qualities.  With a shared mutual appreciation of each other's qualities and acceptable limitations (read that part again) a "match of destiny" can be fulfilled somewhere, sometime.
   
   The idea that something "makes" a person fall in love, sounds more like what is far more likely to be seduction rather than "falling in love."  If that is what happened, the morning after (and a pill of the same name) ought to occasion second and third thoughts, if that is all it meant.
   
   Fan worship doesn't hack it, nor does simple giddiness (one definition of which is "promoting or inducing inconstancy, fickle, flighty, heedless responses" clearly not something permanent and lasting.
   
   There are countless books, poems, and romantic novels written on this subject, including wonderful love poems by Shakespeare...or were they by Bacon?
   
   In any case, if you are open to real love happening to you, be the tall tree in the "Open" field and love's lightning will be more likely to strike almost without notice.

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      savvydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      The "tall tree"...."loves lightning." Your answer reads like a poem, Demas. I'm not surprised. Thank you!

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   jonnycomelatelyposted 6 years ago

   Yves, you are asking for honest answers.
   I have never fallen in love with any woman; never had or desired a sexual relationship with one.
   Through the experiences of life, free of those distractions of attraction, I can have respect for a woman if I feel she deserves it, yet without desiring her.
   Yes, I am free to make my inner judgement, as others of your readers will now feel free to make their inner judgement of me.
   Just wait and watch!

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      savvydatingposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      We have a number if people on HP who don't desire women or men, for that matter. No big deal, as far as I'm concerned. You probably save a lot of time. Lol. Thanks for being honest, Alan. I appreciate it.

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      Ken Burgessposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Alan the only thing I can say is that a part of me envies you.

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