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" The Constant Mental Pains And Anquish Of Cancer Victims"

Updated on December 19, 2009

"The Constant Mental Pains And Anquish of A Cancer Victim"

I'm sure a doctor's diagnosis of any form of cancer; whether it's terminal or not, it is a very debilitating prognosis. I have had two friend die this year with cancer, of one form or another. I recently found out that my uncle has lung cancer; that has spread, he's is still up beat and talking positive about it even though the prognosis is grim. God has put it on my heart to keep him encouraged with the bible and my daily words of encouragement to help him stay encouraged. I was talking to my husband about it, when I realized he's a colon cancer and prostate cancer survivor and he told me about all the stages that the cancer victim goes through, while fighting cancer. They go through all kinds of mental anguish, because of the cancer prognosis. He said you go through disbelief and anger and periods of feeling sorry for yourself; he said that fear was a factor also.

I told him about my feelings on cancer, if I was a victim. I think I would be scared almost to death; and I would wonder why it happen to me. He said that cancer victims ask themselves these same questions. I also think if I had cancer; it would be like having a nightmare in the day time and not being able to wake up out of it. I'm sure depression also plays part in having cancer and I know it would for me. Even though reading the bible, praying and trying to keep positive, I would still be battling depression. I think most people that have cancer is fearful of dying, because they don't know which day, will be their last. Being a victim of cancer would turn every day living into a frightening life of chaos. I think any form of cancer is a disease; that no one want any part of, because of all of the debilitating handicaps that goes along with it.

My uncle has a very strong faith and attitude and hope of defeating this cancer; I'm not sure he will make it, but he's giving all that he has. Even the strongest of us have our weak period to muddle through, so I have appointed myself his encourager and lifter of spirits, because I love him and want him to make it, I'm not sureĀ  that he will, but I'm going to do everything in my power to keep himĀ positive and encouraged. I want him to be so close to God, That he will have a blessed transition; if he has to go, to the other side. I want him to know that I 'm here for him, I love him, and care about him. I want him to know; if he has to go , that there will be a new beginning for him , with Christ right by his side. I want him to know we don't live alone and Christ want let us die alone, because we die unto him.

I pray each and every day that God blesses him to make it through this, and I keep encouraging him to keep fighting, because he told me he can't give up. Only God knows which way it will go, but I want him to know he has fought a good fight, if he has to leave us. My heart hurts me,because I can;t do anything more but wish, pray and hope he can over come this terrible attack on his life. These are just some of the things that would be going through my mind if I was a cancer victim; but we never know what we will do, until we're face with the problem ourselves. My husband told me that when you're on chemo, and radiation that these treatments, and the pain and after effects or so bad; until you almost wish your were dead. I do believe that some of the cancer victims; do exactly that, they just give up and die, because trying to live is to hard, that they 're tired of going through all the hassles that they encounter to turn the cancer around or just kill it dead.

Benny Faye Douglass


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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much Lady D for your encouraging words and bless wishes. I hope you know how much, I appreciate you. thank you so much. God bless you and yours. creativeone59

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 8 years ago

      Creativeone, A cancer diagnosis is not what anyone wants to ever hear really? I hope your Uncle is encouraged by the wonderful testimony of your husband, God is able!

      My father passed away a while ago from Melonoma. Yet it still seems like only yesterday! The Lord Blessed Him to stay on this side of heaven longer than they thought... In spite of it all he had a peaceful passing. I'm thankful that the Lord was gracious to him...

      Don't hestitate to earnestly pray and anoint him asking the Lord to touch him in a way that only He can, In Jesus name... Thank you for sharing my prayers are with you and your family. Love & Blessings!

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you dahoglund for you sharing your cancer experience to the rest of us, I appreciate your honesty and candor. Godspeed. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      You are welcome Micky Dee and thank you for stopping by. Godspeed.creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you Hello for your words of encourgement, I truly appreciate you for caring. blessings to you. creativeone59

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      thanks istwritten for your comment and feeedback, Thank you for stopping my hub. blessings to you. creativeone59

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      Don A. Hoglund 8 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      Cancer is indeed scary. My father died of it when I was a teenager. My brother had cancer treated in his sinuses. I myself have survived cancer twice. In 2000 I had a colonoscopy and they found a large tumor in my colon. I chose to go directly to the hospital and have surgery as soon as possible. I really didn't have time to think much about about it except to get through the surgery. About two years ago they found a large tumor in my right lung. It was successfully operated on. In both cases I had chemotherapy. While waiting to see the doctor one day I overheard a woman say she asked why her. And then said why not me? Maybe the reason I am writing on hubpages is to keep from dwelling on such things.

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      Micky Dee 8 years ago

      Thank you Creativeone

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      Hello, hello, 8 years ago from London, UK

      I am so sorry to hear the bad news. Whichever way God decides; he will give you and your family the strength to get through. I send you my best wishes for all of you.

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      Itswritten 8 years ago from Detroit, Michigan

      Its sad to hear about Anquish Of Cancer Victims but thanks for the information.

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      benny Faye Douglass 8 years ago from Gold Canyon, Arizona

      Thank you so much sweet lady, you know I appreciate you efforts, your prayer and thoughts. thank you for your comment and feedback. blessings to you. creativeone59.

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      Veronica Allen 8 years ago from Georgia

      Although this must be very painful for you and your family, I thank you for sharing this with us creativeone59. We none truly know what others go through until we've experienced it ourselves. Since your husband is a survivor of cancer, he can give you some insight into that world. I think that you, your husband, and your uncle are all courageous to put on such a brave face and keep such a positive outlook on life - that helps as well. I will defintetly keep you all in my thoughts and prayers, I hope the best for your uncle.