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10 Proven Ways to Overcome Fear of Failure

Updated on July 29, 2017

“Wear your fears like a crown on your head, Conquer the kingdom of failures and success is just a step ahead.”

It is said by the legends that failure is the pillar of success. But no one knows how high the pillar should be, and in the midway of the pillar, fear appears like black clouds. The ‘fear of failure’ or the Atychiphobia. The fear of not making it to the actual destination. And the fear drags us into a pit where we do not want to continue building our pillars anymore.

At first, we use the failure as a ladder, but soon it turns into a pit of fear, a pit of illusions and mirages that make us believe that we are not going to make it. But in order to fly, first you have to fall a little. And after reading all these, the question may come, “Is it essential to fail? Is failing something to be proud of?”

Well, no absolutely not. Neither it is important to fail, nor does everyone fail in order to succeed. It is the expectation that makes us believe that we will never fail. And when this expectation crashes into the wall, it turns into a perpetual fear. This fear stops us from making another move because it keeps us telling that we will fail again. So we stop trying, stop moving and round us up in the corner. We shut the world up, and still, the fear nudges us.

This is the fear of failure, and we need to experience failure to overcome this fear. And if you are too in the process of shut everything up because you are too tired of being a failure, just don’t! Be it your career, your relationship, your family; always remember that failure is just a phase and phases are temporary. As you know that before the dawn the night is the darkest, so is the failure. So don’t be caught up in the state of fear, instead open it up.And if you cannot open up, just read on because we know your problems even when they have not been said yet

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Find the roots, conquer loneliness

The fear of failure doesn’t just come along. It always has a root. And mostly this fear stabs us along with loneliness. The fear of failure may originate from your career or family life, but it stays with you because of the loneliness. We, humans, are social animals and we cannot live without interactions. So, do not embrace the dull loneliness because it will never help you to overcome your fears rather it will help you to cherish them, and it will make your fears deep embedded in your soul. Always try to keep the feeling of loneliness away.

Simplify and be confident

Can we ever pinpoint the moment from when the fear of failure embraced us? No, we cannot. But we can certainly pinpoint the causes. Complications and insecurity are the best enemies, a person can ever have, and in most of the cases, this leads to the fear of failures. So, if you have ever been in a complicated situation, try to resolve it first. And to simplify it, you have to be confident. You have to believe in yourself, “I can do it!” Stop bothering yourself with unnecessary thought and focus on what you want. Confidence is the key to resolving every problem.

Accept the failure

Like every other unfortunate thing on earth, failure is inevitable too. Failure and success are like the two sides of a coin; one cannot exist without the other. So, do not build up the expectation that you will not ever fail. You will fail, everyone does. Accept it and deal with it. You cannot run away from failures because failures are there to make you stronger than before. Don’t mourn over the occurrence of the failure, rather accept it with grace. And once you accept a thing the way it is, you don’t need to overcome it anymore because you are already over it.

Maintain the balance

Why we often fail? Because we often lose the balance, the balance of life. Mostly, the balance between our work and family life. So don’t forget your existence and always maintain the essentials balance in your life.

Shift your perspective

From where does our fear originate? From the assumption that something bad is going to happen to us. To overcome this, try to shift your perspective first. Why we always think that failure is bad? Take failure as more like a phase of transition when you touch the ground in order to swing higher. In this way, you will not ever be swallowed by the fear of failure.

Take action

Just do not mourn over your failure that is the worst thing one can ever do. Get up, be confident and be prepared for the next possible move. Once you start being sad over your failure, the fear of failure in life will creep into your heart. So do not give up and pull yourself up for the next challenge, always.

Do not lose hope

If success is the opposite of failure, hope is the opposite of fear. So, try to contradict your failure with a ray of hope of ‘Something good will happen’. For overcoming failure, hope can be a strong healer. So always keep the healer by your side and never lose hope.

Imagine the future and stay positive

Do not ever convince yourself by saying that there is no future. Future is always there, and it is full of unpredictability. You never know what is going to happen in near future unless you experience it. What if the failure, you experienced, is the first step to deal with your future in a better way? Always stay positive, because fear is a negative energy and positivity will always kill the fear of failure in life.

Ask for help

And when you are paralyzed by the fear of failure in life, the best thing you can do is to seek for some help. There are people who will always listen to your story, and this discussion will give you some feasible solution to overcome this Atychiphobia.

Follow your passion

And the last but not the least, always follow your passion. When you are following your passion, you will find it easier to overcome the fear of failure than doing something you don’t love. Whenever you decide to follow your passion, you are more likely to blast through your fear like a warrior.

It is not that tough, is it? “Don’t let your fear of what could happen, make nothing happen”. Just do not give up, rise to your expectation and goal and nothing will ever stop you. ‘Fear’, ‘Failures’ are just some words in the disguise of success and achievement. Don’t be fooled by the disguise, tear it up and enjoy the truth!

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      Pam Morris 4 months ago from Atlanta Georgia

      I enjoyed reading this article; it gives excellent advice. I especially approve of the beginning statement, "“Wear your fears like a crown on your head, Conquer the kingdom of failures and success is just a step ahead.” I agree with it entirely. Thank you for sharing

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      Louise Powles 4 months ago from Norfolk, England

      There's some good advice here. It's very easy to lose hope and give up, but I've learned to stay strong and overcome my fears. Thanks for the article. =)