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10 Ways to Relax and Free Your Mind

Updated on October 8, 2015

Make lemonade...

Our minds get very cluttered with life's daily tribulations. Each and every day a dilemma could enter our personal space and create havoc on our peace of mind.

Our mind eventually gets exhausted. We get burned out. Run down. Similar to a roller coaster ride, life has its ups and downs. As does our peace of mind.

It's how we deal with our journey that determines our strength or weakness. I'm not implying that we need to wear a suit of armor to protect ourselves from what life tosses at us.

We could choose to either make lemonade with the lemons or allow the lemons to knock us down.

When is the last time you allowed yourself a nice, tall, cold glass of refreshing lemonade?

Peace of mind is a gift you give yourself


1- Accept What Is

Is it what it is. If there isn't much you could do about it, try to stop dwelling. I'm not suggesting by any means to just "accept" something that you don't feel comfortable "accepting."

In the long run if there is truly nothing you could do about a situation then just do the best you could to "make do."

"Everything happens for a reason." How many times have you heard that expression? Is this saying in existence to just offer comfort and solace because we will never, ever know why something happened?

We will never know the real reason or if there was ever a reason. Either way I've learned to appreciate this saying. I've learned to accept that "yes" everything does happen for a reason. My acceptance could be because I've actually witnessed a reason or two along my path.

2- Be Kind To Yourself

Who will always be there for you? Who could you always depend on? Who will always have your back? Who could you talk to and know that they are really listening to you? YOU.

Yes, You. You are the most important person. You could never abandon yourself. You are basically stuck with you. So you need to take care of you. You need to be kind to you.

You need to know that even if you were stuck on a deserted island out in the middle of no where, you still have you. You have to like you. You have to appreciate you.

You could never be lonely when you have you. Take the time to show yourself some love. Treat yourself to some TLC and find ways to relax and unwind your mind. Be nice to you.

Repeat after me: You are important. You are special. You are amazing. Keep on shining!


3- Release Your Guilt, Fears and Regrets

We all suffer through bouts of guilt, fears and regrets.

  • What If?
  • Why did I?
  • Maybe I should have?
  • Why wasn't I there?
  • I can't do it!

The list is endless of questions that randomly pop into our heads and allow us to feel guilt, fear or regret. It's up to us to keep these thoughts at bay. We could allow them to consume us and eat away at our mind and bring on depression, anxiety or illnesses. Does this really help you or the situation at all?

We can't go backwards and undo something that's been done. What's done is done. The only way to go now is forward. Torturing ourselves with endless, thoughts that poison our mind and way of thinking is basically pointless. Null and void. We must put a halt to negative thinking.

We live and learn. For each mistake you think you might have made learn from it and consider it a life challenge, not a regret, fear or guilt. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on for a greater future.

4- Let Go of Control

Do we always have to be in control all of the time? Do we always have to be the one in charge? How about we allow others to do for us some of the time?

How about we don't always expect perfection and allow room for imperfections? A thought to ponder...Peace of mind comes from not wanting to control others.

Being in control adds worry, stress and burden to our minds. Our minds could use that space to further improve our own personal ways of thinking.

The most important day is today. We have no control over tomorrow. Free your mind of the yearning to control your surroundings and those around you. Your anxiety level will appreciate it. You are going to want to give up and gain back control. Don't.

5- Visualize What's Important To You

Take the time to remember what's important in your life. Not what's important in other peoples live's. Remember we are working with the theme that you are the most important person.

What's important to you? Take this time to think only of the best, work towards only the best, and expect only the best that life has to offer you. This method might take much practice if you are accustomed to do only for others.

In order to free your mind from clutter you can't carry the baggage of others. Your shoulders could only carry so much of a load. Eventually your shoulders will give and you will collapse. Focus on your sanity. Focus on how you could be a better person with a healthier mind.

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!


6- Focus On Your Peace of Mind

A healthy mind is vital to your overall health. A mind filled with clutter and negative thoughts will only bring you down. This lifestyle will also bring others around you down. Who wants to be around a debbie downer? Life is too short.

Focus more on looking on the sunny side of everything and you could make optimism your new way of thinking.

I find humor in just about everything. There have been times when my humor was out of line, but it's who I am. Humor is my way of dealing with a failing peace of mind. This practice works most of the time, but heck there are even times when I can't laugh. Yet, I never give up! Because without laughter, life could be so dull.

Discover a method that works for you that gives you peace of mind.

7- Appreciate Lessons From Those You Meet

People come into our lives for a reason. They also leave for a reason, but let's focus on the reason they enter our lives.

I strongly believe that each and every person we encounter has something to teach us.We might not realize it at the time, but slowly and surely you are learning something new that will enhance your life.

Whether this person you meet is while you are standing in the check-out line at a grocery store or in a waiting room of a doctors office, this person will teach you something you didn't know. Chances are you will also teach this person something they don't know.

Savor this new found knowledge. Pay it forward. Appreciate it. Allow it to help with achieving your peace of mind.

8- Discover What Doesn't Interest You and Let It Go

It's OK to "just say no." If you are requested to participate in something that doesn't interest you, just say no. There shouldn't be a need to create an excuse. Excuses are transparent.

We shouldn't feel obligated. Obligation serves no purpose. Unless you are doing something from the heart it only hurts you and doesn't help anyone.

In the long run learning to let go of what doesn't interest you will help free your mind of clutter. A thought to ponder...The world is on your side as long as you are true to you.

If you don't like it, let it go. It's that simple. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure that out.


9- Don't Judge Others

We are all unique individuals. Rare specimens of human nature residing on the same planet. We might not all agree or see eye to eye. We differ in our appearance. We differ with our thoughts. We have all been through some traumatic event that defines the person we are today.

What we don't have is the right to judge one another. In no way, shape or form do any of us have the authority to ridicule another person because they differ from us. It's our unique individuality that help create this magnificent melting pot that we reside on together.

No one person is better than another because they make more money or are a different color. We all still bleed red. If we learn to allow more time to improve ourselves we would have less time to criticize others. Something for you to think about when you feel the need to say you are above someone else because they are different.

10- When Something Bad Happens....

You have three choices that you have the power to commit to for your own personal peace of mind:

  • You could allow what happened to define you.
  • You could allow what happened to destroy you.
  • You could allow what happened to strengthen you.

The situations I've encountered during my lifetime have defined me. Yet, they have also temporary destroyed me. When all is said and done I've realized that these events have strengthened me more than damaged.

Promise yourself that no matter how difficult things might be that you will be so strong that nothing could disturb your peace of mind. Wishing you many glasses of lemonade.

When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade?

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What you could do to Free Your Mind...

Journal your emotions, thoughts, fears, anxieties and concerns.

Writing them down and emptying your mind of your worries leaves room for more pleasant thoughts.

You could write on a napkin or in fancy journal, it doesn't matter. All that matters is that you allow your mind to be unburdened and find tranquility.

You could keep what you write to read on another day or you could write and toss it in the trash. You could also burn it. You could also rip it into shreds.

The choice is yours. I've heard endless stories of what friends and family have done after they emptied out their mind. Whatever allows you to free your mind is the way to go.

© 2012 Linda Bilyeu


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    • Sunshine625 profile imageAUTHOR

      Linda Bilyeu 

      4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      I hope your brother is doing well, Nell.

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      Nell Rose 

      4 years ago from England

      Great ideas and tips Linda! I for one need a few of these at the moment, long story, ill brother, stress etc!

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      5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York


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      5 years ago from London, UK

      Very useful and promotes good karma too. Thanks. :-)

      (I'm glad Nithya Tweeted this)

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      Cynthia B Turner 

      5 years ago from Georgia

      What a great hub to share with the rest of us. It is so true, you have to deal with what you are given and not lament what could be. I know it's easier said than done, but as you said, we can't control everything that happens in our lives and it's best to learn a positive way to deal with the negative and worrisome. Well done.

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      Audrey Howitt 

      5 years ago from California

      Just a wonderful point of view here--this made my day and made me smile!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 

      5 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Wonderful and positive thoughts to free the mind.

      And yes, I do have Lemonade everyday!

      Thanks for sharing the interesting suggestions!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      6 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thanks y'all for sharing your thoughts and this hub! :)

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      SEM Pro 

      6 years ago from North America

      Love this Linda! Well done!!! Sharing on fb :)

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      Martie Coetser 

      6 years ago from South Africa

      I needed another read.... :)

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      Maria Jordan 

      6 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Free your mind...the perfect song to accompany sage words that are just what the doctor ordered...

      Thanks to Michelle for the share that brought me here and to Linda for these suggestions.

      I feel calmer just being here...may I have some lemonade, girlfriend?

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      Michelle Liew 

      6 years ago from Singapore

      Sharing again these positive ways of dealing with stress!

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      Michelle Liew 

      7 years ago from Singapore

      Comin' in again to say thanks for the stress relievers!

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      7 years ago

      A lot of good things to strive for and do...I am ready to "Accept What Is"! I think this is a good hub for me to save when things aren't so good. Love it Linda!

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      7 years ago from Guildford

      What a brilliant hub, so full of very useful information. Voting up and pressing your buttons too.

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      Christina Lornemark 

      7 years ago from Sweden

      I knew I would find some uplifting advice and some sunshine here, this is such a great list! I wonder why we tend to make life so difficult for us and have to struggle and think twice for making it easier. A love lemonade after reading this:)

      I hope you have a fabulous weekend Sunshine! Voted up, useful and more.


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      Martie Coetser 

      7 years ago from South Africa

      Oh, this is the ten best ways to free oneself of a negative attitude and approach to life.

      Sunshine, you are too smart for your shirt! I just love these lists of yours!

      Voted up, awesome and pimped!

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      7 years ago from Houston

      Very good article in such a stress driven world. Thanks.

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      7 years ago from Loserland

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      Devika Primić 

      7 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      You amaze me with such helpful Hub titles you have shared. another good one, and every individual should make note of this Hub a way of having a free mind

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      Victoria Lynn 

      7 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      I needed to read this. I wish I had your attitude, even in the midst of hard times. I love what you said about depending on "you." You will always have you! Right! I need to accept that I am important and special. At least I have myself, right? And I enjoyed reading about accepting things, that there's a reason. I don't always know if there's a reason for everything, but accepting helps.Wonderful hub. Glad I read it. Every vote but funny!

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      7 years ago

      Awesome and inspirational! If we all followed these tips we would be so much happier. It took going through a serious illness to decide to really make myself important which doesn't mean I became crazy selfish but I do think about myself every day which is a new experience. Thanks for the reminder!

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      7 years ago

      Awesome Hub, Linda! I definitely have to free my mind before I go to bed and on my day off or else I'l just go crazy lol :) Voted up and sharing!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you Mary and TT ... Y'all rock!

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      Terrye Toombs 

      7 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Came back for a re-read and to smear all over the net :)

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      Mary Hyatt 

      7 years ago from Florida

      You packed a lot of wisdom into this Hub! I voted this UP, etc. and will share.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Thank you Love Doc!

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      7 years ago

      Fantastic hub! Vote up awesome & sharing

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

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      I hope you found ways to relax and free your mind from this hub! :)

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      7 years ago

      Always think too much is my weakness. I wish I could stop thinking for just one minute. Thanks for your article. It is a great help for me. Great job!

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      Olde Cashmere 

      7 years ago

      Phenomenal hub Linda, this is so inspiring and is getting some gears turning for me. Thank you so much for this. Voting up, sharing, and rating useful, awesome, and beautiful :)

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      Terrye Toombs 

      7 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Sunshine, these are exceptionally wise words, my friend. :) Loved it. Voted up and sharing.

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      7 years ago from Virginia

      Excellent tips, thoughts and suggestions in this hub. I like all ten suggestions but the ones that really stick out to me are numbers one and seven. I think you must have mastered these steps as you always seem to have a positive vibe about you.....which I do not think would happen if your mind was not free. So I will take the advice of #7 and follow your tips. Voted up and useful.

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      Nithya Venkat 

      7 years ago from Dubai

      Awesome hub!! Oh yes when life gives lemon make lemonade. Loved your hub, every word. Words of wisdom in every word that you have written. A lot to learn from your hub, thanks for this awesome hub. Voted up and shared.

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      Aurelio Locsin 

      7 years ago from Orange County, CA

      Some excellent tips, Linda. I think my worst violation of your suggestions is being too hard on myself. When acting in a play, for example, I can forget a couple of lines in an otherwise flawless performance, and remember only that mistake at the end of the play. Then I beat myself for it over the next few days. So much better to just be kind to myself and let that pass. Voting this Up and Useful.

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      Mohan Kumar 

      7 years ago from UK

      I'm glad I came here today.. I've had a run of three very busy days at work and this is like a nice, tall, cool, glass of lemonade. In sunshine yellow! I love your insights, your ebullience and your energy. You always talk sense- common sense- and your energy and sheer bravery is so inspiring. thank you sunshine for another great hub! shared/tweeted.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Graham, Well said. Thank you for sharing your two cents :)

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      Graham Lee 

      7 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Linda. I agree with you all the way. Whenever we have had any situation to face, I have always said 'we start from here'. Acceptance is the key to what we all seek. Peace of mind.


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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

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      Thank you for your comments, visit and for being you! Wishing you many moments filled with positive thoughts.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      7 years ago

      I needed to hear this today. Thanks for the suggestions. I think that all the points are needed, but like your last one best: don't let it define you! Voted up!

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      Marvin Parke 

      7 years ago from Jamaica

      Very relaxing and calm to read. I can feel the serenity.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      7 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Linda, This is an awesome hub. This is like 10 steps to personal happiness. They are all important. Voted up and shared.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 

      7 years ago from Nepal


      There is so much pessimism around and we need someone like you to block negative energy.

      Thanks for these amazing points.


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      7 years ago

      Awesome blog I am so reading this one each day as a reminder to relax.Don't worry be happy!Thanks Linda you are the best!:)

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      Rosemary Sadler 

      7 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      A fabulously positive article. I agree with everything you've written and especially #9 & 10. I too am a great believer in 'everything happens for a reason'

      Thumbs up and sharing

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      Margaret Perrottet 

      7 years ago from San Antonio, FL

      Lots of great advice in this hub. I especially like the part about not being judgemental. Voted up!

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      Christy Birmingham 

      7 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I absolutely agree not to judge others. It is not good to be on either end of judgement and says negative things about the person who does it. You have many great points here my friend. This hub is a keeper.

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      Ruth Pieterse 

      7 years ago

      Good advice! Especially about trying to control things. Voted up and useful.

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      Tim Mitchell 

      7 years ago from Escondido, CA

      I liked this bunches! In fact this hub is my theme hub for the day. The video deserves a hub just to discuss its social implications. Well chosen! I think after the last phone conversation(s) this morning this hub hit home. I believe I will be going to work later shaved at lease with a spark of enthusiasm. Okay, I'll take a shower too - lol.

      Great article Linda . . .


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      Mike Robbers 

      7 years ago from London

      Nice hub Linda, apart from loving lemonade and now i feel like drinking some more to tell you the truth, I will surely keep the 'try to visualize what's important to me' . I liked that!

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      Mary Hyatt 

      7 years ago from Florida

      What can I say? I agree with your philosophy completely. We should never dwell on the bad things, just look forward to the good things that will come out way.

      I voted this UP, will share, Pin and Tweet.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

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      Thank you all for your comments! I'm so glad you could relate in one way or another on ways to free your mind. Eliminate the negative and accentuate the positive, is there really any other way? Oh and a nice tall glass of cold lemonade! ;)

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      Ruchi Urvashi 

      7 years ago from Singapore

      Great hub. It is informative and interesting too. I tend to wonder why some people come into our lives or certain things happen that were unexpected. You are right. All things and all people that come into our life are for some reason. We learn something from them and maybe they also learn something from us. I like the lemonade part too. Very well written and extremely useful article.

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      Injured lamb 

      7 years ago

      Guess what Linda, I have bookmarked this and would print it out for sure as I really appreciate every sentence and every word of yours that is so true and so positive...thanks for sharing with us your well done job, accept my "UP" here for this great and useful hub that you deserve blessed...

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      Poetic Fool 

      7 years ago

      Hi, Linda! This is, IMHO, one of your best hubs ever. So many people need to hear and take this advise. I know for me #2 and #8 are problem areas. I tend to be a service-oriented person and end up being too busy and constantly tired as a result.

      I would add one more item and that is don't compare yourself to others. It's human nature but the problem is we do mostly it when we are down on ourselves comparing whatever we are down about to the best in others. We invariably lose when we compare ourselves to others. It's a bad habit to start and even harder to break.

      Great job, Linda! Voted up many ways and shared.

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      Alecia Murphy 

      7 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

      I was hoping you would put En Vogue at the end! I agree- life is too short to be bogged down in negativity. It's hard at times to declutter your mind but in the long run you benefit from learning from the hard times and moving on. Awesome hub!

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      Stephanie Henkel 

      7 years ago from USA

      What a wonderful philosophy for living life to its fullest! I also believe that making lemonade is the key to happiness and peace in your life. Beautiful hub, Linda! Voted up and Tweeted. :)

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      Life Under Construction 

      7 years ago from Neverland

      I love it Shine!! These are very good tips and things to do to free our mind. Shared!

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      Movie Master 

      7 years ago from United Kingdom

      I agree with everythng you have said, especially #10, great information and excellent hub, a big vote up from me, thank you.

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      7 years ago from India

      great information,linda. enjoy reading it and i like to include yoga too for refreshing mind....

      voted up and sharing

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      Audrey Hunt 

      7 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Thank you Linda for these 10 ways to free your mind. This is so important. Meditation helps too.

      Knowing how to free the mind slows down the internal dialogue which helps with focus and concentration as well.

      Giving a thumbs up and across. Sharing all over the place. Great stuff!

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      Michelle Liew 

      7 years ago from Singapore

      A great lesson, Linda. We all need that breath of fresh air and free our minds by doing things that come from the heart. Then we will not worry over the needless or things we cannot control anyway!! The positivity shines through. I needed this today, and it comes at the right time for me! Will share all over!

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      L.L. Woodard 

      7 years ago from Oklahoma City

      What a breath of fresh air this hub is! As someone with panic and anxiety, I've learned to practice each of these ideas. I still require more practice in some areas, but it's all part of the journey.

      Great hub; voted up and Shared.

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      7 years ago from Seattle, WA

      I like your list especially #9. Great job. Voted up and interesting.

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      Esther Strong 

      7 years ago from UK

      Whilst reading I found myself constantly nodding my head in agreement with everything you said. Life is indeed what you make it. Big thumbs up.

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      Heaven L Burkes 

      7 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      Thank you for sharing YOUR wisdom! So much to think on - and implement to make our worlds better places (the worlds inside our minds are the perfect places to start). This really helped me! :)

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      Sasha Kim 

      7 years ago

      This is a fantastic hub!! I love every single point you made and will most certainly practice them. Voting this a bunch and sharing!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Jordan! How are you? Thank you for stopping by. Enjoy that lemonade! :)

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      7 years ago from NC

      Once again you provide a great hub for all of us to enjoy! Thank you. I really enjoyed this one, now I am thirsty for some lemonade.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Amen GiblinGirl. Amen! :)

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Heavenleigh, Always a pleasure when you stop by for a visit and share your wisdom. Thank you very much! :)

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      7 years ago from New Jersey

      Great hub. We could all let go of more negativity to make room for the positives in life. Thanks for sharing these great ideas.

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      Heaven L Burkes 

      7 years ago from The Invincible Heart of Neverland

      :) Yes this is the goal - with humor and acceptance of "failure" - learning to let go and let others do their thing is a great suggestion! The day I started to laugh at myself and all the pressure I put on myself to "succeed" is the day things started to turn around. Great thoughts!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Drbj ~ Rajan ~ Carol

      Wishing y'all many glasses of ice cold lemonade while enjoying the sunshine.

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      carol stanley 

      7 years ago from Arizona

      Good rules to live by all the time. After all life is a short journey and we may as well enjoy the time we are here.

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 

      7 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA.

      Just like you, Linda this hub is awesome. Really useful ideas.

      Voted up, useful and interesting.

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      drbj and sherry 

      7 years ago from south Florida

      Thank you, Linda, for these 10 great lemonade-making tips. May your lemonade always remain sweet.

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Jenny, Enjoy your lemonade! :)

      Hi lyric, Your points have been heard loud and clear. Thank you for sharing!:)

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Hi Nell, Great minds think alike :) Thank you for your comment and shares!

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Yes Effer you repeated that correctly. You are awesome!!!! I don't think it's possible for me to tell you that enough times, but I will always continue to tell you so :)

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      Richard Ricky Hale 

      7 years ago from West Virginia

      Sunshine, very useful and valuable information. Voted this up, useful, awesome, and interesting. Shared as well. Very true, you can't change what is going to happen. You have to learn to deal with. I also believe that everything happens for a reason. What is done will be done. Your "release" method is true also. You kno what you are writing about for sure Sunshine. Class "A" article for certain. Awesome work.

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      7 years ago from Somewhere in Michigan

      You know "lemonade" can be the most refreshing thing you ever make...I'll have to keep that in mind! :) Thanks for sharing!

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      Nell Rose 

      7 years ago from England

      Hi Linda, great hub, with loads of positive ideas, and yes the best one being let some stuff go, I think we all hold on to things like automatically running around after people who just don't appreciate it, done that myself! and other things too, loved it, and votes all the way!

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      7 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Oh yes, GF...this is another of your dynamite hubs full of encouragement and wisdom...Love it!

      "I AM important, I AM special and I AM amazing." and I'll keep on shining.....did I repeat that correctly? YOU are all of the same and more.

      Thanks, dear woman.....Voted UP and all but funny.......PLUS, UNIQUE

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      Linda Bilyeu 

      7 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Tills ~ Jools ~ Janine ~ Bill

      Your comments are appreciated. I can't get En Vogue's song Free Your Mind out of my head. My mind isn't free at the moment. Keep on shining!

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      Bill Holland 

      7 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great suggestions Linda and I completely agree. I passed this quiz with flying colors. :)

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      Janine Huldie 

      7 years ago from New York, New York

      Linda this Hub article was amazing and must tell you I agree with all your points especially #10 and do believe that everything I have gone through in the end had made me a stronger better person for it even if at that time I was going through it, it seemed to hard to possibly overcome or even as you put about to destroy me. Couldn't have said it better my friend and have of course voted up and shared all over too!!

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      Jools Hogg 

      7 years ago from North-East UK

      Linda, great hub with lots of great advice. Letting go of control is something hard to imagine but I am learning that it is a very freeing experience once you start to do it. The writing has enriched my life and I have considered a journal recently so was pleased to see it in this hub. Writing as 'therapy' - you know it makes sense :o)

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      Mary Craig 

      7 years ago from New York

      Another awesome hub Linda! It can "define you, destroy you, or strengthen you" powerfully true words. We so often have to learn to let go and focus on what matters.

      Of course we all know how therapeutic writing is!

      Voted this up, useful, awesome, and interesting....and I think I'm the first one to read I get extra points for that ;)


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