- Mental Health
10 Ways to Relax and Free Your Mind
Our minds get very cluttered with life's daily tribulations. Each and every day a dilemma could enter our personal space and create havoc on our peace of mind.
Our mind eventually gets exhausted. We get burned out. Run down. Similar to a roller coaster ride, life has its ups and downs. As does our peace of mind.
It's how we deal with our journey that determines our strength or weakness. I'm not implying that we need to wear a suit of armor to protect ourselves from what life tosses at us.
We could choose to either make lemonade with the lemons or allow the lemons to knock us down.
When is the last time you allowed yourself a nice, tall, cold glass of refreshing lemonade?
Peace of mind is a gift you give yourself
1- Accept What Is
Is it what it is. If there isn't much you could do about it, try to stop dwelling. I'm not suggesting by any means to just "accept" something that you don't feel comfortable "accepting."
In the long run if there is truly nothing you could do about a situation then just do the best you could to "make do."
"Everything happens for a reason." How many times have you heard that expression? Is this saying in existence to just offer comfort and solace because we will never, ever know why something happened?
We will never know the real reason or if there was ever a reason. Either way I've learned to appreciate this saying. I've learned to accept that "yes" everything does happen for a reason. My acceptance could be because I've actually witnessed a reason or two along my path.
2- Be Kind To Yourself
Who will always be there for you? Who could you always depend on? Who will always have your back? Who could you talk to and know that they are really listening to you? YOU.
Yes, You. You are the most important person. You could never abandon yourself. You are basically stuck with you. So you need to take care of you. You need to be kind to you.
You need to know that even if you were stuck on a deserted island out in the middle of no where, you still have you. You have to like you. You have to appreciate you.
You could never be lonely when you have you. Take the time to show yourself some love. Treat yourself to some TLC and find ways to relax and unwind your mind. Be nice to you.
Repeat after me: You are important. You are special. You are amazing. Keep on shining!
3- Release Your Guilt, Fears and Regrets
We all suffer through bouts of guilt, fears and regrets.
- What If?
- Why did I?
- Maybe I should have?
- Why wasn't I there?
- I can't do it!
The list is endless of questions that randomly pop into our heads and allow us to feel guilt, fear or regret. It's up to us to keep these thoughts at bay. We could allow them to consume us and eat away at our mind and bring on depression, anxiety or illnesses. Does this really help you or the situation at all?
We can't go backwards and undo something that's been done. What's done is done. The only way to go now is forward. Torturing ourselves with endless, thoughts that poison our mind and way of thinking is basically pointless. Null and void. We must put a halt to negative thinking.
We live and learn. For each mistake you think you might have made learn from it and consider it a life challenge, not a regret, fear or guilt. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on for a greater future.
4- Let Go of Control
Do we always have to be in control all of the time? Do we always have to be the one in charge? How about we allow others to do for us some of the time?
How about we don't always expect perfection and allow room for imperfections? A thought to ponder...Peace of mind comes from not wanting to control others.
Being in control adds worry, stress and burden to our minds. Our minds could use that space to further improve our own personal ways of thinking.
The most important day is today. We have no control over tomorrow. Free your mind of the yearning to control your surroundings and those around you. Your anxiety level will appreciate it. You are going to want to give up and gain back control. Don't.
5- Visualize What's Important To You
Take the time to remember what's important in your life. Not what's important in other peoples live's. Remember we are working with the theme that you are the most important person.
What's important to you? Take this time to think only of the best, work towards only the best, and expect only the best that life has to offer you. This method might take much practice if you are accustomed to do only for others.
In order to free your mind from clutter you can't carry the baggage of others. Your shoulders could only carry so much of a load. Eventually your shoulders will give and you will collapse. Focus on your sanity. Focus on how you could be a better person with a healthier mind.
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!
6- Focus On Your Peace of Mind
A healthy mind is vital to your overall health. A mind filled with clutter and negative thoughts will only bring you down. This lifestyle will also bring others around you down. Who wants to be around a debbie downer? Life is too short.
Focus more on looking on the sunny side of everything and you could make optimism your new way of thinking.
I find humor in just about everything. There have been times when my humor was out of line, but it's who I am. Humor is my way of dealing with a failing peace of mind. This practice works most of the time, but heck there are even times when I can't laugh. Yet, I never give up! Because without laughter, life could be so dull.
Discover a method that works for you that gives you peace of mind.
7- Appreciate Lessons From Those You Meet
People come into our lives for a reason. They also leave for a reason, but let's focus on the reason they enter our lives.
I strongly believe that each and every person we encounter has something to teach us.We might not realize it at the time, but slowly and surely you are learning something new that will enhance your life.
Whether this person you meet is while you are standing in the check-out line at a grocery store or in a waiting room of a doctors office, this person will teach you something you didn't know. Chances are you will also teach this person something they don't know.
Savor this new found knowledge. Pay it forward. Appreciate it. Allow it to help with achieving your peace of mind.
8- Discover What Doesn't Interest You and Let It Go
It's OK to "just say no." If you are requested to participate in something that doesn't interest you, just say no. There shouldn't be a need to create an excuse. Excuses are transparent.
We shouldn't feel obligated. Obligation serves no purpose. Unless you are doing something from the heart it only hurts you and doesn't help anyone.
In the long run learning to let go of what doesn't interest you will help free your mind of clutter. A thought to ponder...The world is on your side as long as you are true to you.
If you don't like it, let it go. It's that simple. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to figure that out.
9- Don't Judge Others
We are all unique individuals. Rare specimens of human nature residing on the same planet. We might not all agree or see eye to eye. We differ in our appearance. We differ with our thoughts. We have all been through some traumatic event that defines the person we are today.
What we don't have is the right to judge one another. In no way, shape or form do any of us have the authority to ridicule another person because they differ from us. It's our unique individuality that help create this magnificent melting pot that we reside on together.
No one person is better than another because they make more money or are a different color. We all still bleed red. If we learn to allow more time to improve ourselves we would have less time to criticize others. Something for you to think about when you feel the need to say you are above someone else because they are different.
10- When Something Bad Happens....
You have three choices that you have the power to commit to for your own personal peace of mind:
- You could allow what happened to define you.
- You could allow what happened to destroy you.
- You could allow what happened to strengthen you.
The situations I've encountered during my lifetime have defined me. Yet, they have also temporary destroyed me. When all is said and done I've realized that these events have strengthened me more than damaged.
Promise yourself that no matter how difficult things might be that you will be so strong that nothing could disturb your peace of mind. Wishing you many glasses of lemonade.
When life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade?
What you could do to Free Your Mind...
Journal your emotions, thoughts, fears, anxieties and concerns.
Writing them down and emptying your mind of your worries leaves room for more pleasant thoughts.
You could write on a napkin or in fancy journal, it doesn't matter. All that matters is that you allow your mind to be unburdened and find tranquility.
You could keep what you write to read on another day or you could write and toss it in the trash. You could also burn it. You could also rip it into shreds.
The choice is yours. I've heard endless stories of what friends and family have done after they emptied out their mind. Whatever allows you to free your mind is the way to go.
© 2012 Linda Bilyeu