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Ten top amazing things that adults should learn from children
Its great to be young
Ever heard the phrase "its great to be young", or better still some adults say "what I would give to be a child again?" If only kids knew this, they wouldn't be in hurry to become adults, and if as adults we knew as children what we know now, we would close our eyes and ask the fairy godmother to wish adulthood away.
We are adults now, and it's a bit late in the day to wish we were children again, but there's always something we can do to incorporate a little bit of childhood into our present lives. We can learn some of their positive habits. Children are a breadth of fresh air. They have infectious giggles and can do the funniest things, drive you up the wall to the point of insanity, yet give you the warmest cuddle.
I'm not an expert in psychology, but I have been on planet earth for a while and I know adults can learn a thing or two from the way children embrace life. Being a child is fun and a great place to be. Try these amazing things that I know adults can learn from children to lead a more enriching and fulfilling life.
1 Learn to laugh a lot
Laughter they say is the best medicine. It lights up the face and spreads warmth wherever and whomever it touches. Children laugh a lot especially when they are happy. Adulthood makes us serious because life can be tough and if you are not serious you will lose your focus and direction. Once in a while though, stop in your tracks, look at your life, analyse the good and the bad and let out a healthy laugh.
2 Play more...
Children love to play and would play all day and all week if they had the chance. Playing rejuvenates them and gives them a passion for life. Find time to engage in your favourite hobbies or recreational activities. Taking time off pressing issues to engage in fun filled activities is a good way to help you recharge your batteries. Life can't be all about work. After all what is it they say about all work and no play?
3 Cry when it hurts
Children are quick to cry when they get hurt, don't understand why things are not going their way or when they have been told off. Don't be afraid to shed tears when it hurts. Crying is part of the emotions human beings experience and suppressing them can result in feelings of frustration, anger and withdrawal. Joy in life doesn't come without pain. There are times when things don't go your way and you feel frustrated to the point of tears. I have shed tears because of my frustrations; juggling motherhood with working full time. I have shed tears because I have felt frustration when my children were struggling with school work. I have felt tears of anger when a customer stuck his middle finger at me, just because I was doing my job. Such is life. There are challenges that will rip you apart and make you want to cry so badly. I say cry. It doesn't make you less human, less of a man or less of an adult. Don't hold tears back, allow them to flow. Crying is like a healing balm for the soul. It helps release the burden of worries, frustrations and anger. They help make your shoulders feel lighter.
- How to promote positive energy in your life
Being part of the human race itself can be challenging and a tough reason for existing. Trying to find your place in the world where the law of "survival of the fittest" is a reality is even more daunting. The need to survive is paramount..."
4 Be fearless in your quest for your desires.
Don't let your life be ruled with the disappointments and frustrations of 'what ifs' and 'had I known'. Don't let stumbling blocks hinder you from taking on the plunge to do something you ordinarily wouldn't. Fear is disruptive, it causes retrogression and not progress. It eats into our confidence and stops us from pursuing what we desire. A child's natural sense of adventure makes them ready and willing to take on a challenge without hesitating too much. Let's be children in our quest to conquer and overcome our fears.
5 Don't be judgemental
Children do not judge a book by its cover. They do not discern between race, religion, colour or gender. Children are accepting and pure in their perception of humanity. They do not think ill of people. This is actually a good quality that we can adopt from children. Adults are quick to judge because of our own insecurities and ignorance. Learning to be more accepting of people in general is a good way to overcome a lot of barriers plaguing our society today.
6 Learn to let go
Children do not bear a grudge for long. I see that with my children. They get upset when they are told off, however they soon forget about the past and move on to the future with a cheerful heart. Adults are quick to bear a grudge and do not let go easily. We harbour ill feelings about individuals who have hurt us and are not ready to forgive. Harbouring ill feelings does not create a cheerful heart nor a mind free of negative thoughts.
7 Try to live a worry free life
Easily said than done. Being an adult comes with a lot of responsibility. The ability to survive in the "human jungle" is paramount to our day to day activities. Making ends meet, putting food on the table, paying the bills, avoiding the wrath of the tax man, avoiding redundancy, escaping repossession of your home. All these factors which appear to have become a reality in the current economic climate make "a life free of worry", a concept easy to imagine, but almost impossible to put into practise.
Children do not have a care in the world. Their lives are free from worry. They live for the day and not worry about tomorrow. Let's take a leaf out of their book and live for today with the belief that "tomorrow will take care of itself".
8 Finish what you start
The naturally inquisitive nature of children encourages them to start a task or a challenge and see it to the end. My four year old daughter is still learning how to read. Her enthusiasm shows when she picks up a book to read and is eager to finish it from start to finish, despite the fact that she may struggle with new words that she is unfamiliar with. Even when I tell her to put the book aside to continue later, she tells me she would rather finish the book because she has started to read it. Once she manages to finish it (with help of course) she feels a sense of achievement. Completion gives a sense of achievement and fulfillment. Its understandable that living in a competitive world creates the need to explore different avenues to help us succeed in our quest to "make it". In our desire to achieve, we may venture into unknown areas without first measuring our abilities. Whilst its good to broaden your horizon, its also good to exhaust the areas where your abilities have a better chance of standing out .For instance if you are good with sales, explore and perfect your skills in this area so that you can have a greater chance of being appreciated and recognised for your efforts. Do not quit polishing your skill without finding out what you can attain once you have reached the peak of your area of expertise.
- Mirror, mirror on the wall...
The mirror reflects what we want to see or better still what our minds tell us. A confident person looks at their reflection and is not phased by a pimple, a spot or a blemish.
9 Love yourself
Children do not look in the mirror and frown at what they see. They are unscathed by the imperfections that the mirror leads us to believe we have. Children do not care about spots or lines. Children make silly faces at their reflections and are more likely to giggle than frown at what they see, because they are unaffected by their "flaws". They love looking at themselves. My daughter always tells me she looks pretty especially after she has had her hair washed and put into plaits. I always smile back at her and compliment her right back.
We can take a queue as adults and love ourselves irrespective of our shortcomings and the things people tell us are undesirable about us. We have to remember that nobody is perfect, there is however purpose to our existence. We should find reasons to love ourselves. It does not have to be in our looks. It can be in our unique abilities. For instance if you are good at being a chef and rustling up exotic tastes to tantalise the palet, think about the smile that you put on people's faces when they taste your cooking. If you are a nurse, just think about the comfort you bring to your patients by your soothing words, caring nature and ability to listen. These are just examples to emphasise how we can go beyond the physical like children and love ourselves simply for being who we are.
- Age is just another number
Most of us have heard this adage at one time or another in our lives "age is nothing but a number". I have given it an even bigger boost by adding that "you are as old as you make yourself feel". I believe feeling old is a state of mind.
10 Don't worry that your age is going up
Children actually look forward to their next birthdays. I find it refreshing and totally welcoming. When I was in primary school, we frequently played a game of riddles. One of the riddles which featured regularly was "what goes up and never goes down?" Of course the answer is age. It's a fact of life we cannot escape from. Once we are born we grow up and not down, except in the case of the movie The Curious Case of Benjamin Button where the character's age goes down and not up! My son is looking forward to being a teenager next year and my daughter can't wait to be five years old. I totally embrace their acceptance of how old they are growing and encourage them to appreciate their ages. Children do not fret and worry about how old they are growing. In fact every birthday is an exciting time for them and something to look forward to.