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101 Ways to Be a Nicer Person
The Benefits of Being Nice
Being a nice person simply involves being more conscientious of the people around you and showing empathy and compassion. There are small things that you can do at any time on any day that demonstrate kindness. When you project kindness and concern, it has the effect of being like ripples on a pond -- those small acts get spread to more and more people until you start to notice a positive effect on the people around you. If you want the world to be a better place, the change has to start with you. Here are 101 ways in which you can be a nicer person, and in turn, attract more kindness to yourself.
Be Nice to Yourself
Being a nice person doesn't mean you put yourself last. If you don't take the time to love and appreciate yourself, you won't have the energy to love and care for others.
- Meditate on your goals and dreams
- Make a list of the things you like about yourself and put it where you can see it
- Eat good, healthy food
- Drink plenty of water and stay hydrated
- Get a good nights' sleep
- Make time every day for some exercise and fresh air
- Learn something new every day
- Engage in a hobby that makes you happy and brings you peace
- Make a list of all the things in your life for which you are grateful
- Strive daily to think positive thoughts and repel negative thoughts
- Allow yourself to accept love from others
If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.— Dalai Lama
Be Nice to Your Children
It seems like a no-brainer that you would want to be kind to your children and love them, but how often do you look back and see instances where you took out your anger on them or said something destructive?
- Tell your kids every day you love them
- Give them a hug and a kiss every day, even if it embarrasses them
- When your child throws a tantrum, find out what is stressing them out
- Take time to go over their homework with them
- Make sure they have good, nutritious meals and eat together as often as possible
- Encourage them to play outside, exercise and get fresh air
- Make sure they are getting enough sleep
- Be their biggest cheerleader at whatever they are involved in
- Get to know their friends and their interests
- Encourage them to never stop trying
Be Nice to Your Significant Other
After spending so much time together, sometimes it is easy to take those closest to us for granted. Showing kindness to your spouse or partner is a key ingredient in the recipe for a healthy relationship.
- Tell your partner every day that you love them
- Ask them how their day was before you launch into the story of your own day
- Show physical affection every day, with a hug, kiss, neck rub, etc.
- When they are upset, listen attentively and only offer a solution when asked to
- Eat healthy, nutritious meals together as often as possible
- Tell them how much you appreciate them
- Encourage them to exercise, or exercise together if you can
- If you sense they are nervous, tense or irritable, ask them what's wrong
- When you argue, say I'm sorry; don't hold petty grudges
- Make time to cuddle and just enjoy each other's company
Be Nice to Your Parents
As we get busy with our own lives, sometimes we push our parents aside. It is important to be kind to the ones who gave you life and raised you, regardless of what your relationship is like.
- Call your parents at least once a week to talk and catch up, and see how they're doing.
- Tell them you love them and appreciate them
- Visit them whenever possible, not just when it's convenient or when there is a crisis
- Get to know their interests and hobbies, and encourage them to try new things
- Make sure they are eating well, staying hydrated and taking their medicine properly
- Encourage them to exercise daily and get fresh air
- Make an effort to spend time with them one-on-one and do something fun together
- Reminisce about happy times and good memories
- Forgive them their faults and mistakes
- Encourage them to stay social and do things that challenge the brain
Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for a kindness.— Seneca
Be Nice to Your Siblings
It might not always be easy to maintain a good relationship with your siblings, but it is important; one day they may be the only family you have left.
- Call your siblings once a week just to chat and catch up
- Tell them you love them
- Send a card on their birthday or take them out to eat
- Make an effort to spend one-on-one time together
- Reminisce about happy memories and good times
- Offer to babysit and spend some quality time with your nieces and nephews
- Visit whenever it is possible
- Instead of a store-bought present, give them a recipe book of favorite family recipes, or a scrapbook of family photos
- Ask them how they are doing and be willing to listen without giving advice, unless specifically asked
- Send them a text just to let them know you are thinking about them and to have a good day
Be Nice to Your Friends, Neighbors & Co-Workers
Those with whom we have friendly associations are probably some of the ones we have the most daily interactions with. Don't you think it pays to be kind to them?
- Call, email or text your good friends once a week to see how they're doing
- Stop and talk to your neighbors whenever possible
- Tell your co-workers how much you appreciate them
- Send your friends a funny picture or post on Facebook to let them know you're thinking about them
- Offer to help your neighbor with their yard work or home repairs
- Bring some cookies for your co-workers to share
- Ask your friends how they're doing and be willing to listen without judging
- Water your neighbor's plants and collect the mail and newspapers while they are out of town
- Don't participate in office gossip or spread rumors about your coworkers
- Instead of a store-bought birthday present, make your friend a collage or calendar with pictures of the good times you've shared
Be Nice to Strangers
Showing kindness and respect for people, especially the ones you don't know, displays your true strength of character.
- If you are able, give up your seat to an elderly person, disabled person or pregnant woman
- Hold the door open for the person behind you
- Say please and thank you to your restaurant server, cashier, grocery bagger, etc.
- Smile at everyone you meet
- Offer to put away someone else's grocery cart
- Say excuse me when you accidentally bump into someone
- Pay for the order of the customer in line behind you
- Keep your music to a reasonable level to avoid annoying everyone around you
- Share your umbrella when it's raining
- Tell someone to have a nice day
Never look down on anybody unless you're helping him up.— Jesse Jackson
Be Nice to the Poor
People who are poor, disabled and disenfranchised deserve your kindness and respect just as much as any other human does. A lot of times they are the victim of circumstance and never forget that you could just as easily be in their shoes.
- Give a sandwich to a homeless person
- Volunteer at a soup kitchen
- Collect canned goods around your neighborhood or at work and donate them to a food pantry
- Donate your old clothes to a clothes closet
- Volunteer on a Habitat for Humanity project
- Collect children's books and donate them to an outreach program
- Donate school supplies to a low-income school
- Volunteer for Meals on Wheels
- Help a charity advertise for a fundraising event
- Donate coats, hats, gloves, scarves and blankets to a homeless shelter
Be Nice to Nature
We only have one planet on which to live, so it's in everyone's best interest to treat it kindly.
- Recycle whenever possible your plastics, cardboard, paper, glass and metals
- Pick up trash from public areas
- Plant flowers that attract bees and other useful pollinators
- Start a compost pile with your yard and food waste
- Take a walk and just enjoy the beauty of nature
- Join a conservancy group
- Sow wildflower seeds in abandoned areas
- Advocate for more organic and sustainable farming methods
- Spend a little time just gazing at the stars
- Don't pour chemicals or put trash into storm water drains
Be Nice to Animals
Whether or not you believe that animals have souls, one thing is for certain and that is that animals have memories. They remember people who have treated them both kindly and poorly. Animals contribute to our planet in so many ways and as a higher species, it is up to us to protect them.
- Put out bird seed, especially in the winter.
- Adopt a stray pet if you are able
- Volunteer at an animal shelter
- Donate dog and cat food to a homeless shelter
- Make sure your pet gets plenty of exercise and fresh air
- Take healthy treats to the police station for K-9 dogs
- Join a wildlife conservancy group
- Donate to a wildlife sanctuary
- Teach your children to respect all animals, both large and small
- Support your local zoo
No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.— Aesop
While reading this list, you could probably come up with even more ways to be a nice person. Being nice is important, especially on days when we don't feel like it or when we feel like people don't deserve it, because hate breeds hate. With all the violence and discord happening in the world, doesn't it seem like what we all need is more kindness?