11 Things That Happen After You Turn 30
Most people associate entering their 30's as simply " getting 'older'". Wrinkles, lower metabolism, and fewer eggs. Commence the eye rolls and "ughs" now....
But there are a lot of things that happen when you are over 30 that are, with certainty, effing awesome. (and a few that aren't so awesome)....that shape us into more appreciative, understanding, life-eager people.
1. We are less angry
Whaaat? I know most of you just checked your Facebook feeds and thought "LIE". But it's true. We get less angry about the small shit than we did when we were in our 20's. We aren't so rude to waiters, judgmental of cashiers, and hostile towards people because "we've been there". We can understand that rude waiter probably has a child at home, or a list of homework to do after a late shift, the cashier is stuck in a shitty job with no benefits, or that witch of a nurse may have seen one too many people die. We can relate. So we get less angry-about the small stuff. We save up that energy for the stuff that matters (I'll be getting to this point later in #9)
2. Our friends die
Yes, that is a part of being over 30. People have lived longer, been exposed to more chances to die unexpectedly, or, unfortunately, are struck with diseases, or addictions that take them in their 30's. Cancer, drugs, car accidents, and even the loss of children. How is this a thankful part of being over 30 you ask? Because we realize we are no longer immortal. It makes us hold onto the balloon string of life a little tighter, hug a little tighter, and appreciate those who are in our lives, a lot more.
3. We are more open to change.
Gone are the days of fighting against a current that we cannot change. We simply accept change more gracefully (like our forehead wrinkles). Shit will change, and sometimes the only thing we can do to combat the feelings of resistance is to let it go. In our 30's we are more capable of handling the stress that accompanies change. We make plans, we adapt, and we are happier because of it.
4. We become the crazy Aunt/Uncle at family parties.
You know, the ones you stared at when you were 15 like "Ohhh, how sad, they are drinking at 5, on a Saturday with their family, listening to old ass music and clearly forcing laughter. Ew,,,sooo lame".
And you know what we found out? That Aunt/Uncle is effing AWESOME. We are them. We are choosing to spend our time with people who are worth it. Like what we choose to spend our extra money on: things we find value in. And if we are drinking at 5? It's because we are going to be home by 10 pm putting on sweat pants and snuggling up on a couch and letting a pizza soak up the alcohol so we can wake up early and do shit that we need to do to keep our lives great. We are listening to Mr. Big and recalling the things we did when we were 15, and smiling. And that smile is real....because we appreciate what we have experienced to get us to where we are now. I'll tell you what teens, getting to over 30 and still having a close family to spend time with is a goal you should write down. Right now. Embrace your future weirdness. Because it really rocks.
5. We grow people
We made little people! And we are watching them grow and teaching them things. At this age, we've got a grasp on how to properly feed, water, and care for these amazing gifts, And as much as we prepared to teach them things, they teach us a whole lot more than we could have imagined. And that....is amazing.
6. We volunteer
And we do it by choice! We find at this age we want to help others. We want to make a change in others' lives because we have the ability and desire to. No, it's not like when our parents asked us to help at the church and we did it begrudgingly. We choose to do it because it actually adds value. And when you consciously make that choice, the reward is oh so sweet. We meet new people, and we set good examples for the little people we are growing.
7. We take risks
Remember those days when we had a list of things we would never do, or never had time to do? Well, now we make time. Weekend getaway to Vegas? Yes. A group class of painting and drinking? I'm down. Oh, a backpack excursion up the east coast? F yeah. Eat out alone? Why not? Travel alone? Doing it! Go to an event alone? Yep. We can make it work. Because again, we know life is not promised tomorrow, and we are more curious about the world today. So we explore it.
8. We are likely already, or about to, take up a new hobby, and it might be extreme.
In our 30's we see people taking up cross-fit, marathons, skydiving, and MMA. Things we didn't necessarily have the confidence or ability to do when we were younger, or the mindset. In our 30's -because F limits. We are going to test them. And then we are going to post every single step along the way to our Facebook accounts, because that's what we 'old folks' do.
9. We are more political
I promised I'd come back to this. Some of us are a little overboard with political opinions to the point of being incendiary, but for the most part, at this age, we've done our research and opine on issues that matter to us. We are passionate. We create petitions, we vocalize our discord with practices, policies, and treatment of people. We no longer just vote with one party, we have our own opinions that are born through experience, research, and passion. Sometimes we can be pretty angry about topics, but that is just a burst of emotion towards a subject that touches us. And when the anger is directed to the right people, in the right manner, we make shit happen.
10. We start loving ourselves
We let go of society's ideas of perfection and we create our own. Whether its accepting our bodies, our pasts, our differences, relationships, families, or challenges, we learn to live with them, and we learn to leverage them so our lives our more meaningful. Loving ourselves creates more love for us to share. They say "you cannot truly love others until you love yourself" and we understand that at this age. We love ourselves....finally.
11. We start truly loving Earth
With loving ourselves, we also love the world. We see nature, it's beauty and the magnificent strides the human race has made innovating the way we live, and better ways we could treat our world. So we become a part of a movement to protect the planet we live on. Recycling, reducing, and reusing, means more. Those blue recycling bins don't mean 'work' it symbolizes our efforts to leave this world in a better condition than it was when we arrived.
So, teens, and early 20's. Life doesn't get worse after 30. It gets kinda awesome. The only thing that is bad about it is that we have seen more years pass during our finite time here. And you'll realize, right around 30, that you can't stop time, but you can spend it more wisely. Make memories, have passion, make changes, and love yourself because these are the best years of your life.
And for the not so great things that accompany 30? They have botox for that ;)