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15 Tips to Live an Inspiring Life- Self Improvement Ideas
Too few of us spend time contemplating the difference between a mere existence and a life fully lived. Many lives are spent in a reactive mode, shaped by circumstances, with each successive day taking on a character of almost oppressive sameness. But no matter how settled such a pattern of living may become, there often appears a momentary, nagging thought that maybe something needs to change.
In fact, a number of changes can be made that promote a more fully lived life; among them are the following 15 suggestions.
1. Develop an attitude of gratitude
We all have people and things in our life worthy of our full appreciation and we all have a tendency to let these things go unnoticed until they are taken from us. We often take the special things in our lives for granted and fail to realize we will only have them for a given time, or we ourselves will only be here to enjoy them for a given time. Expressing appreciation of the people around you will change the way you treat them, which in turn will make you the kind of person that attracts more people who will enrich your life.
2. Disregard the negative
Let’s face it. Not everyone will support you and some people are an outright drain on your life. Whether intentional or not, hurtful words from others can act like a poison, but it’s up to you to decide whether or not you’ll drink it. Embracing negativity can turn you into a negative person quickly, sometimes without you even realizing it. You cannot control what others say, but you alone control what you will do after those words are spoken
3. Practice forgiveness
Hating people takes time. Your time will be better spent loving the people who love you. But don’t confuse forgiveness with trust; they are not the same thing. Trust gives the hurtful person a chance to hurt again but forgiveness allows you to put the hurt in the past and move on as one who is stronger, happier and freer.
4. Be yourself
We are all unique; it’s part of being human. But for some, their uniqueness is much more noticeable and immediately stands out. Don’t hide it. It may take courage to be who you are, but consider yourself as someone who has discovered their uniqueness and is living it out, as opposed to those who don’t even understand how they themselves are unique or if they have lack the strength to show it. Resist the pressures of the world that try to make you like everyone else.
5. Listen to your heart
Life is full of choices and there is no shortage of contradictory opinions as to what path you should take at any given point. If one is to achieve the life they desire, the question of making these choices is an all or nothing proposition – doing the same things you’ve always done will get you the same things you’ve always had. Follow your heart, or stated another way, your inner voice, in selecting the path that is right for you because in the end the life that results from your choices will be lived by you and no one else. While good choices will bring you happiness, accept the fact that you will not always choose wisely or correctly, and embrace the lessons to be found therein.
6. Change is difficult… and good
The complexity of life ensures we will be affected by a number of things that are simply outside our control, and by their nature, ultimately subject to change. Beyond that, our growth can require us to take the difficult step of consciously introducing change to our lives, moving from the familiar to the unfamiliar. Whatever the source of change, it can bring us to an unexpected place, but perhaps exactly the place we should have chosen for ourselves to begin with.
7. Love takes time.. and wisdom
Relationships can be a huge benefit, but also a subtle trap. Life can be enriched by having someone with whom you can share life’s joys and working through difficulties together can strengthen love. But relationships require effort, since love is not only mere words but is expressed more fully by actions on a regular basis. Since love usually develops over time, use care and patience in choosing a relationship. Make sure what you think is a relationship is actually based on love truly found and is not just a short-term antidote for loneliness. Waiting is a small price to pay for making the right choice
8. When you are loved, love back
We all have moments when we act in ways that make us unlovable, yet it often seems even during those times there is someone in our lives who loves us anyway. Make note of these loving people. Invariably, with all of us being human, the roles will be reversed, and during those times it’s important to make sure you love the unlovable in return.
9. Don’t forget to love yourself
Nobody’s perfect, including you. As we get good at practicing love, we can become able to love friends and family in spite of their faults or even when they consistently do things that irritate us. Don’t view yourself any differently; learn to love yourself as well.
10. Act today so you can thank yourself later
Habits are important, and the more often you do something, the more impact it will have on your life. Your actions matter, because they involve investment of your precious time, something you can’t get back. Make sure whatever you trade your time for is worth the cost.
11. Consider the problems you don’t have
Wealth can take many forms, and one of its most noble forms is contentment. Most would say wealth is having all you want, but you can be fabulously wealthy in terms of material gain and still lack contentment, always wanting more. Problems work the same way, but in reverse. You may have only a few, but choose to focus on them, failing to realize you could have many more. As for problems, it’s best to focus on the ones you don’t have, and be thankful.
12. Don’t forget to have fun.
If you’re not careful, everyday concerns can crowd the joy out of life. Your perspective on life can change when you put aside work, worry and ever present cares even for a short time and just have some fun.
13. Partake in life’s simple pleasures
The seemingly smallest things in life, always there waiting to be enjoyed, are the easiest to overlook but often among the most profound. The old saying “a picture is worth a thousand words” was never better expressed than by the wonder of a glorious but fleeting sunset. Small but meaningful moments spent with loved ones may pass quickly but create memories that grow more important with the passage of time.
14. The past cannot rule the present
“What’s past is past” is a phrase easily recited but less easy to practice. If you allow it, your past can dominate the present and thereby steal your future. The past is the only part of your existence that cannot be changed, but the same is not true of today, tomorrow or the rest of your future. Accept the past for what it was, learning from any mistakes and failures. You alone, and not your past, will choose what today looks like.
15. Realize some things can’t be fixed
Persistence can be an admirable trait, but taken to an extreme it can become stubbornness. Trying to fix the unfixable, whether a relationship or something else in life, just makes matters worse and robs you of opportunities to pursue something better. Have enough belief in yourself to begin again and get it right the next time.