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25 Stress Triggers

Updated on October 8, 2011

“I don’t have pet peeves; I have whole kennels of irritations.” Whoopi Goldberg

Life's Little Frustrations

We know them. Those little irritations that get under our skin. The annoying things that people say or do that put us in an ill-tempered mood. Some of them are minor irritations and others are major and can really make us angry. Some pet peeves are simple things happening in our environment that are the cause of a deeper level of stress because they threaten our quality of life. Very often we are unable to explain our annoyance or why. We look around and others don’t seem to be bother at all.

Pet peeves can turn a smiley face into a frowning face, turn laughter to tears or simply make us go hmmm. A great thing about pet peeves is that one day we wake up and that thing that bothered us yesterday doesn’t seem to make a difference today.

I am extremely fascinated by human behavior and life’s little frustrations that cause each of us to act or react very differently. I decided to ask a few friends and family to share with me what make them want to shake their fist or grit their teeth.

The List

The list goes beyond the “fingernails on the chalkboard” type annoyances and hopefully bring light to those things bothering us at a more universal level. You might find yourself saying “me too.” If you have one or more pet peeves or annoyances you would like to share, please feel free to do so in the comments sections.

  1. Government whether local, state of federal--they are really off the chain and self interest and re-election is more important than what is best for the people.
  2. People who say rude things and then forget they said them.
  3. Someone asking for an opinion and then acting bored when given an answer.
  4. An answering machine that has a child’s voice or an inappropriate message.
  5. Someone bows head in a public place, it is now assumed they are praying and they can’t do it because it might offend someone. Well you are being offensive by not allowing me to bow my head, to pray, look at my shoes, or to lower my head to think (period).
  6. Politicians.
  7. People who will say or do anything to thwart someone else’s dream.
  8. The constant talking and texting on a cell phone when others are present….and don’t get me started on parents who totally ignore their children.
  9. People, who take, never give and then feel entitled.
  10. Parents who think having children does not come with struggle and sacrifice…in another word…selfish parents.
  11. Self-service gas stations.
  12. Self service check out lanes in grocery and department stores.
  13. The death penalty.
  14. The political climate.
  15. Being ignored.
  16. Employers not hiring people who have been out of work for more than 6 months. The reason they give is “gaps in resume listing and 'lost' of skills”. Really? The economic downturn, companies and organizational mergers, businesses going under…..people can’t buy a job and these morons call it “gaps”!!!!!!
  17. Computers reading resumes and making decisions on whether or not I get hired.
  18. Banks.
  19. People who speed through school zones.
  20. People who ride in the little power scooters and think they own the entire aisle at the store.
  21. Drivers who think they are “iron a** Pete” and don’t slow down during bad weather--heavy rain, snow, ice, etc.
  22. Highway bullies. (Also roads and streets)
  23. In church or worship service I hate it when I am “told” to raise my hands on cue and then being made to feel like I don’t love God as much as you when I choose not to raise my hands and wave them around.
  24. Political campaigns.
  25. The mob mentality. Whatever happened to “I can think for myself”? Were we ever individual thinkers?

Final Thoughts

Things that make us say “I really hate it when” -- or -- “it really gets on my nerves when“ can definitely cause us to experience various levels of stress. Very often the person causing our distress are unaware. If talking with them doesn’t work then find another way to handling or address the issue. I, personally, find two things helpful for me (1) walking away (2) shaking my head and laughing to myself. We can always find the humor in almost any situation if we try. And remember, if we are bothered by the actions of another, we are probably causing someone else to “shake their fist or grit their teeth.”

When the irritation or stress trigger is something we have no immediate control over, i.e. government, banks, etc. we can find ways and opportunities to get involved. Writing letters of concern, starting a petition, attending town hall meetings are just a few ideas. Think about it because the point is, there is always something we can do.

Love to all,



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      Dee aka Nonna 5 years ago

      LadyFiddler, there are so many things that can get our dander up, Most often I just bless them and see them on their way. It keep the stree level down. I do have a hard time with our political climate....there is to much "self-interest" on the part of the politician.

      Thank you so much for reading and leaving a comment.

      Hugs and blessings back to you.

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      Joanna Chandler 5 years ago from On planet Earth

      This was very interesting and yeah am so annoyed when someone let their child answer the answering machince/voicemail recording it gets me MAD. Just saturday i spoke to someone who did that :).

      Yeah i share your point of view for the list to.

      Have a bless week

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      Express10 ... parents allowing their children to do anything is quite unnerving and you are absolutely correct it is being selfish. Thank you again for your visit..looking forward to visiting a few of your hubs.

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      H C Palting 6 years ago from East Coast

      I enjoyed this hub and can relate to much of what you say her. In particular, I cannot stand it when people try to thwart other people's dreams or take credit for someone else's accomplishments. What I most often encounter are selfish parents that refuse to make their kids mind their manners. Great hub.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      be-apublicspeaker, thank you so much for stopping by, reading and leaving a comment. It is very much appreciated. Please come again.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      Fullerman5000, you are so right. I have a friend who manages a high-in mens clothing and accessory store. For a while he was going through employees left and right. He said that they interviewed well and then did not want to work. Then he said that it was hard getting good people with retain experience. My question why do they have to have it...there are some wonderful people out there who would do a great job who may not have the experience you are looking for. He said "too much time to train" and if they found work in their field they would be gone". OK

      I say, maybe not, they may like it and work really hard for you to prove themselves. People in retain wasn't born with experience they had to learn somewhere.

      And yes, I hate rude and unprofessional people, experience or not.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and leaving such a wonderful comment. You are appreciated.

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      Ryan Fuller 6 years ago from Louisiana, USA

      What upsets me, regarding 16, is that is seems like the hire the wrong people. I work for a large retailer and most of the new people just want a check. they are rude and very unprofessional. its like they hire just anybody. I know some people out of work who would work hard and have friendly personalities. its a shame. great hub and very good list. voted up and interesting.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      I really like the way you put that "a bomb goes off in our brain". The thing about that bomb is most of us either recognize it before it goes off or know how to back up a bit when it does. That bomb in our brain become dangerous for some....

      Love the fact that you stopped by, read and made a very thoughtful comment. Thank you.

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      jfay2011 6 years ago

      very good hub. We don't realize how much stress triggers us and then suddenly a bomb goes off in our brains.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      molometer, thank you for the vote and for reading and leaving a comment. It is very much appreciated.

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      molometer 6 years ago from United Kingdom

      Great Hub Dee voted up UI

      plus people eating with their mouths open is just hygienic apart from unsightly.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      Hey Cred2, you made some great additions...I hate those things too. Thank you so much for stopping in, reading and leaving a comment. I do so much appreciate you.

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      Credence2 6 years ago from Florida (Space Coast)

      Hi, Dee

      I think that youcovered most of them for me but I reiterate.

      I hate mosquitos and biting flies

      I dislike sanctimonious hypocrites and people who easily employ double standards in practice.

      I don't like rude and discourteous people.

      Thats the short list. If I really think about it, I could probably come up with more

      Best Wishes, Cred2

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      Thank you so much Vocalcoach for the vote of confidence. I too hate it when people snap, crakle or pop their gum ANYwhere. Most of the young ones do not remember the self service gas stations. When I tell my grandchildren they are like "what?" And speeding through school zones really get my dander up...LOL. Thank you Audrey for stopping by, I am always excited to see that you have visited.

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      Audrey Hunt 6 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      An excellent hub...hope everyone reads this. I have to agree with you on all counts. I have one more complaint which immediately causes my body to tighten up, and that is when I go to a movie theater and someone snaps their gum repeatedly. Grrrrrrrrrr! # 11 and #19 are two of my favorites.

      Thanks, Dee, and I voted up and across the board. vc

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      thelyricwriter, it is so good of you to stop by read, and to leave a comment. This was so much fun to compile and write...very often I just laughed my head off. Thank you for the vote. It is very much appreciated.

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      Richard Ricky Hale 6 years ago from West Virginia

      Very well written Dee. I guess it is not good to be on the list multiple times! lol I always try to control it but sometimes it is quite difficult to do so. I agree with you. Walking away is best. It gives you time to cool off. Voted up.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      As my mother would say "you hit the nail on the head". ktrapp you are so right I would want a real person with a real desire to work....everything else can be taught and learned. Thank you again.

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      Kristin Trapp 6 years ago from Illinois

      There are some things that just cannot be put into a resume and someone's desire to work, especially since they have been out of work for an extended period of time, is one of them. And I would rather someone be working for me who not only has the necessary skills but the real desire to want the job and appreciate the job.

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      Dee aka Nonna 6 years ago

      Hey have computers reading resumes and making decisions. There is no personal contact, it seems, anymore. One would think that employers would look more closely at some of these who have been out of work but????? Thank you for reading and commenting. It means a great deal to me.

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      Kristin Trapp 6 years ago from Illinois

      Regarding #16 - At least people out of work for 6 months or longer are very motivated to work, which seems like a real positive to me.