25 Years of Wisdom
Just Turned 26
So today was my birthday, I am 26 years old. That means I have been alive and kicking in this world for 25 full years or a quarter of a century. I have been told many times in my life that I would feel something when I passed 25. I never believed those older and wiser than myself, as it turns out they were right. I turned 26 and have spent my day thinking about all things I have learned since I have been here. All the wisdom I can pass on to my younger friends and acquaintances. I also pondered on what those older than myself can still teach me. This is what I have so far...
I have learned way to much to ever fit it in a hub. I will just touch on some point that I feel are very important. These are things that I learned the "hard" way and I just feel that I could help someone out who may be able to use it.
The number one thing that I feel everyone has to have are those regrets in their past. My biggest regret is not saying "yes" enough times. I was afraid to do things when I was young because I felt people would make fun of me and tease me. I do not know why but all I ever thought about was what everyone else thought about what I was doing that very moment. Looking back I can tell you that you should never do this. One because who cares what everyone is thinking about you, they will forget what you are doing in about 2 minutes, don't believe me what was your boss working on the last time he talked to you in his office? See you don't even notice what others are doing most of the time. So next time you are going to pass on something, don't. Trust me, I still am upset with one of my biggest regrets, the one that lead to all the others. I was in the sixth grade and on the last day of school there was a fun day with game, races, and a dunk tank. Only, the sixth graders were able to be dunked in the tank. I didn't sign up the get dunked because I was afraid what my peers would think of me with no shirt. It didn't even cross my mind that half of them had been to the local pool with me the summer before. All I could think about is what they would think about me. I didn't do the tank and I took that fearsome attitude into middle school with me and I didn't reagin my confidence until college. I know it is a funny story looking back, but had I said yes to the dunk tank I might have joined the team, asked out that one girl, or taken that leap. Please go and say yes, do it! Go for it!
If You Don't Work Hard, You Can't Play Hard...
I am only 26, when I was in high school I thought that was going on retirement age, like most teen assumptions I was wrong. Looking at how I thought in my teen years makes me laugh, just as I am sure that looking back on how I am thinking now is going to make my 80 year old self chuckle. I look back and see a dumb kid, I didn't work to hard at anything. I mean nothing, I am not joking when most kids are busy slacking off in school but working hard rebelling against my parents, I was asleep on both jobs. I just laid back and did nothing really I didn't get good grades, but I didn't get bad ones. I didn't really do what I was told, but I didn't say no either. I would hang out and day dream about better days when I would leave high school and never look back. I would be living the dream, with my dream job, dream car, and dream girl. I had no clue what these dreams were or how I would get them, but I would have them for sure. I guess I thought they would just fall out of the sky. I skipped classes when others were working hard, and I would sleep in when others woke up early to hit the river.
I graduated high school and quickly realized that all of this dream stuff, is really just a boat load of hard work coming to fruition. As I struggled with maintaining a simple job and trying to get my test scores high enough for college, I saw my peers attending neat colleges and cheering on their teams and having fun. As an outsider I only saw what they had posted on facebook or in emails. I didn't see the hard tests to be studied for or the late night book reading. All I did was work and go home, the bare minimum to get by in my life. I still didn't have a clue.
I am just realizing that all this time when I saw people working hard, I was slacking off. When they went on fun trips or college programs all I saw was how they were lucky and I had to work for my life. I blinded myself to the fact that it was because they worked so hard everyday that when they got he chance to play, they played hard.
Don't have it. I wish with all I am that I could live without regrets, but I think we all do. As I stated with the dunk tank. I know people who live dangerously and unwisely and claim they do so because they do not want regrets. I feel that this is just a way of living that will have lots of regrets. Sometimes to have no regrets you must face danger, other times you must shy away from it. Some say that in order to have no regrets you must ask yourself "will I regret this?" I don't think that is the best way to live without regrets either. I feel that no matter what you do or how you do it, you will always have at least a few regrets. The only way to limit the amount of them is to live so that every morning you can see your reflection in the mirror and be proud.
What I Still Have to Learn
I am only 26 and I have given a few well learned tips, but you know what? I still have a lot to learn! I am only one quarter of a century old. Hopefully I will be around for three quarters more. I hope that I am more open minded now than I was in my teens. I hope that when someone tries to teach me a thing or two I receive the lesson with open arms and gratitude that they took the time to give me some of their hard earned wisdom.