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3 Easy Ways to Increase Your Self-Esteem

Updated on November 25, 2015

Nobody is perfect. We all have problems, phobias and drawbacks. Nevertheless, we have a different self-value and understanding what factors help strengthen our self-esteem. Some people think that having a luxurious car or good financial status helps develop self-confidence. Others have an opinion that human appearance, relationships with others and their accomplishments mostly affect how we value ourselves.

We have to remember that true self-confidence is not associated with materialistic factors at all. Self-esteem means accepting yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses. And it has a lot of advantages: healthy self-confidence has a huge impact on our relationships, financial status, health and success in life. High self-value gives us the strength and power to live the life we have always dreamt of, to forget the fear and learn from every mistake.

So if you are always feeling down about yourself, stop worrying because it is never too late to improve a healthy self-esteem. There are many different methods to boost your self-confidence, but firstly it is important to determine what positive characteristics you will gain with increased self-worth. You will be more confident, optimistic, you will gain an ability to express your opinion more easily and learn from every mistake, you will feel more satisfied with a variety of different emotions and you will know how to take better care of yourself. This article looks at three beneficial ways that may help you overcome your negative thoughts.

3 Ways to Increase Self-Esteem

#1: Stop comparing yourself to others!


Of course, there is always someone who is better than you at something or has more money, but you have to remember that nobody is perfect. And if you don’t stop comparing yourself to others you will never win the battle of life. From now you have to change this destructive habit of comparison and learn important lessons that will bring more joy to your life.

Firstly, compete not with others but only with yourself. Focus on new goals and self-improvement. Spend more time with positive people and try something that you have never done before. For example, decide to participate in charitable work. Remember to always observe your positive changes and don’t forget to reward yourself!

Secondly, you have to learn from others. Meet with someone you really admire, ask questions, advises and learn from them. You will find out what they read, how they spend their leisure time, how they motivate themselves, how they started their career and you will use this information to develop your self-confidence.

Thirdly, every evening take 10 minutes and write down 4 things that you like the most about your personality. Maybe you have an ability to learn really fast or a beautiful communication skills? Take time and after two weeks read all of those answers. You will find out your strengths and this practice will boost your self–esteem immediately.

#2: Propagate a positive way of life!


It is important for you to find some time to do things what you really love and what makes you feel so special. Maybe you are a talented dancer or singer or you can create a fascinating poetry? So don’t wait for the perfect moment - pay attention to your hobbies now!

Time spent doing things you admire the most will change your physical and mental status. You will feel happier, more positive, calmer and more productive and you will quickly develop your self-confidence because you will know all your strengths and talents.

Also, try to move away from negative people, you have to concentrate only on positive thoughts and communicate with optimistic individuals because every negative word will influence your emotions and your thoughts about yourself. Promise yourself to exercise more, choose a healthier food and select clothes that make you feel happy.

If you don’t like to workout, you can go out for a walk with your friend, family member or a colleague. It will improve your health, energy and you won’t have time to think about your problems and other negative aspects. Healthy and fresh food will give you an opportunity to expand your life and provide you with more energy to do what you love the most. So from today try to include more fruits, vegetables, lean meats into your daily regime and the results will surprise you pleasantly!

#3: Set only realistic goals and forgive yourself!


Unrealistic goals significantly reduce our self-esteem. For example, you have an aim to become the most famous singer in the world very quickly or develop business successfully during one month. If those unrealistic expectations will not be achieved, you will be disappointed. After failures it is very easy to feel broken and blame yourself.

Of course, it is good to have high standards and strive for them, but we have to remember that we can’t plan all our lives and there can always be unexpected turn of events. That’s why we have to think positively, set only realistic goals and stop blaming ourselves then we not implement our expectations perfectly.

Also, we have to forgive ourselves for every mistake we’ve done or when things don’t go the way we wanted. We are human beings and we often make mistakes, but supporting ourselves in every step does wonders. When we are proud of our achievements, talents and personal qualities we can truly be glad of being who we are.

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      Indrė Šilkaitytė 2 years ago from Vilnius, Lithuania

      @Reynold Jay Thank You. Nice to hear it :). I am glad that you enjoy Lithuania and Lithuanian people. I hope that you will visit Lithuania. :)

      @tsadjatko Yes, I do agree with your opinion. God always accepts us no matter what we do or feel. He is always loyal to us.

      @The Dirt Farmer Thank You for opinion. Yes, I have even tried not using social media for a while and I realized that it increased my self-esteem. :)

      @Buildreps Thanks for a nice comment. I have the same opinion on the forgiving to yourself matter.

      @MsDora Thanks. I really agree with your opinion and I think that all people have to pay attention to their personal development because only then they can achieve true happiness.

      @billybuc I am really happy that you have tried my suggestions and I am pleased that those tips helped you. I am proud of you :).

      @pstraubie48 Thank you. I am happy that you liked my hub and how it's written. I believe that those tips can raise everyone's self-esteem at least a bit.

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      Liked this...simple, direct, and you cut to the chase...those who are willing to do these things will emerge healthier no doubt

      Angels are on the way to you today ps

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very good suggestions! I struggled with self-esteem for years. Thankfully I followed some of these suggestions and all is well today.

      Welcome to HP!

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Indre, welcome to HubPages. I definitely want to hear more from you. So many young people focus on life's non-essentials; I can tell that you are interested in what really matters. "Self-esteem means accepting yourself with all your strengths and weaknesses." Go girl!

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      Buildreps 2 years ago from Europe

      Well done for your first Hub. I think I agree with your rules, they sound wise to me! It's always good to be forgiving to yourself, although I would ask myself what a mistake actually is before I would be able to forgive myself. Is it regarded from a point of view of the moral of the majority or your own set of moral rules?

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      Jill Spencer 2 years ago from United States

      Nicely done, Indre! I think not comparing oneself to others is particularly important for women. Sometimes that means giving Facebook and other social media a rest for a while.

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      TSAD 2 years ago from https:// online/ hubpages. html

      Good, pragmatic advice Indre!

      But when it comes to self esteem I have discovered that there is no better way to increase your self esteem than to realize that God cares so much for you even in your sinful state that he sent his son to pay the price for your failings. He loves you where you are because as Psalm 139:13-14 says:

      "For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well."

      Once you have accepted the gift of God, eternal life with him through his son Jesus Christ and invited Jesus into your heart his grace is sufficient, his strength is made perfect in weakness. Paul said, "Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong."

      How can you have a healthy self esteem without first acknowledging your creator, the nature of man and that God, who knows you better than you know yourself, has a plan for your life. It takes faith to have a healthy self esteem.

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      Reynold Jay 2 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

      This reminds me a bit of a book I wrote many years ago called Born to Be Rich. Well done. I'm ready to think positive now. entertained at weddings over the years and always looked forward to a traditional Lithuanian wedding reception. The people were wonderful and it was easy to see that family was everything. Yep-- I have seen many a couple lifted up and chairs and carried around the room while everyone said "Hop La" or something like that. Well done and I will follow your HUBS.