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3 Reasons Why People Worry About Things In Their Life-And What You Can Do Instead
Worry is one of the most common feelings expressed-you are not alone
Humans experience many different emotions throughout their lifetime. And unfortunately, worry is one of those emotions. Some people worry more than others and some people may worry about things less than others might. Even I have been worried about things in my life. But there comes a time when worry becomes a major part of a person’s life. And when that worrying becomes a part of your life, you can never feel good. Too much worry leads to anxiety, stress and other health problems in the long term. Worry and anxiety are part of what can be called emotional pain. So why do people worry about things? There are three reasons why this is the case as discovered by this writer:
First of all because it is part of some people’s nature
Some people have the kind of character that they will worry about the smallest things. They allow this worry to consume them and they can never seem to stop and think about how to let go of this worry that they have. The more that you worry about something, the more that it becomes a part of you and this is because you allow worry to get into your life and stay there like a blood sucking leech. That negative emotion called worry attaches itself on to you and over time it makes your life worse. When you constantly worry and think of the worst possible things that could happen you end up expecting the worst results and then your subconscious mind will go to work and create the very situations that you are worried about. Your subconscious then creates more situations for you to worry about. The person that has worry as part of his or her character needs to change themselves in order to live a better life.
Some people have a tendency to worry about things that are out of their control
When times get tough as they are for many people now, some people will start to worry about things that they cannot control. They may worry about the fact that they are not able to save enough money for their retirement years. They may worry about not being able to find a job. Or they may worry about becoming a victim of a crime when they step outside of their house. Retirement is no longer a real possibility for many people because the cost of living is rising in many places and people cannot afford to not work. When you worry about something that is out of your control that can do no good for you because that is energy wasted on something you can’t do anything about. It is best to accept the situation for what it is and move on. This is easier to say than do it successfully but what other choice do you have?
Young girl trying to save money
And even business owners worry about whether they can survive or not
This is one of the worst things a business owner can do. Businesses worry about how they are going to survive thinking that this will do well for them. The truth is that worry does no good and it is one of the most negative and destructive emotions to have. If a business owner worries about losing his business, then he or she will only exacerbate the failure of their business. It is said that what you resist persists. If a business owner worries about their business failing, they are giving thought energy to an unwanted outcome. The subconscious mind does not understand negative words and it only understands the other part of the thoughts. So by the feeling of worry, the business owner that does not want their business to fail will actually fail because that is what they are programming their subconscious to do.
What to do instead: look for solutions to what you are worrying about
If you are worried about something that is out of your control or if you worry because it is part of your character, you must do something to change that habit. Stop worrying about whether you will find another job. Stop worrying about the stock market. Stop worrying about possibly becoming a victim of a crime. Stop worrying about what the news media tells you to worry about. Worry does no good for anyone. Instead, think of how you can improve your life because there is a way to do it. Be positive and look for solutions to your situation instead of worrying too much. Let’s end this article by bringing up a sports analogy.
An Animated Video on What Happens in the Brain When We Worry
This sports analogy really shows why it is best to not worry
Former Los Angeles Lakers forward Robert Horry who made the huge 3 point shot against the Sacramento Kings in the 2002 Western Conference Finals was asked by NBC reporter Jim Gray whether he looked at the clock or whether he just shot the ball at the basket. Horry basically told him that he didn’t even look at the clock and he just shot the ball at the basket. Horry said that if he had looked at the clock, he would have rushed the shot, causing him to miss. Robert Horry wasn’t worried even though he knew the importance of the situation. He knew that it would have been very difficult for that Lakers team to come back from a 3-1 deficit against the Kings who had the NBA’s best record during the 2001-2002 season. But he trusted himself, trusted his abilities and he trusted his teammates enough and he got the chance to get a game winning shot. Robert Horry who has made so many clutch shots in his NBA career made that amazing shot due to a lack of worry. The thing that this writer worries about most is what will happen to Obamacare. But that’s the extent of my worries. But remember: too much anxiety is not going to lead to a positive outcome.