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30 Wrong Things You Should Stop Chasing - Self Improvement Tips

Updated on November 8, 2012

If you want to catch right things….. Stop chasing for wrong things you give

It may seem rather difficult but it is entirely possible to bring about positive change in your life. One reason that the path to transformation may seem daunting is that people often sabotage themselves by clinging to old routines and bad habits. Here are some pitfalls to avoid:

1. Stop wasting time on bad relationships.Limit the time you spend on negative people and the ones who drain your energies with pessimism and doubt. Try to surround yourself with people who are upbeat, people you admire and want to emulate and with whom you share mutual love and respect. Make sure your friends add something positive and bring some happiness to your life and whose existence makes your world a better place.

2. Stop hiding from your faults. – Face problems head on and with s take-no prisoners’ attitude. Self inventory can be painful and admitting our flaws is often difficult but these issues must be addressed if true change is to occur.

3. Stop being dishonest with yourself. – Take a deep honest look in the mirror and confront what you don’t like. Look at your flaws as opportunities for improvement and growth, not as debilitating handicaps that will hold you back. They are areas capable of change.

4. Stop ignoring your needs. – It’s great to devote time to others but don’t forget your own needs in the process or lose track of yourself.. Ultimately, you are responsible for taking care of yourself and if you don’t see to this, who will?

5. Stop living someone else’s life. – At the end of the day, you won’t get anywhere by deluding yourself into thinking you’re someone you’re not – Staying true to your ideals and values will lead to fulfillment.

6. Stop driving in reverse. – Keep looking forward and moving in that direction. You won’t make any progress in reverse.

7. Don’t forget, to err is human. – Everyone makes mistakes, the key is to learn from them and not repeat them. Stop being so easily discouraged when you mess up. Each mistake you make in life can be an enriching learning experience from which you can grow if you take this approach.

8. Stop beating yourself up over previous failures. – What’s done is done. Realize that your past missteps teach you valuable lessons and that every cloud has a silver lining if you look hard enough. Don’t waste time mourning lost love or friendships – chances are they weren’t meant to be and would only be obstacles to true relationships if you let them get in your way.

9. Remember the best things in life are free. – Happiness, joy, peace, the security and satisfaction from close relationships with others – these are rewards that can’t be bought.

10. Stop shunning responsibility for your own happiness. – Find happiness within yourself before seeking it on others. If you’re unhappy with yourself, it is very likely others will feel that way toward you as well. As the saying goes, you can’t love somebody unless you love yourself.

11. Stop being inactive. – Size up your situation, commit to a course of action and plow forward. Too much thinking can lead to second-guessing. Take enough time to devise your plan and then plunge yourself into it. You can make adjustments along the way if needed.

12. Stop waiting for the right moment – It’s great to feel prepared and ready for a challenge but opportunities knock once for most of us so you need to seize them when they appear whether you feel ready or not.

13. Stop the cycle of bad choices. – Be smart when choosing your friends and hold firm to the belief that someone is out there for you, no matter how long it takes. Bad relationships can undo your progress very quickly.

14. Stop building walls around yourself. – Don’t let past disappointments with others discourage you from forming close relationships with new people in life. Not everyone is out to hurt you and there may actually be someone out there who can help change your life for the better.

15. Stop measuring your progress against others. – Focus on your progress today over yesterday’s. There will always be someone who may seem further ahead or better off than you. You need to keep the focus on yourself and set your own goals, regardless of what others may be doing.

16. Avoid the green-eyed monster. – Instead of coveting the success of others, try thinking of something you have that others don’t. This doesn’t mean possessions, but qualities, outlooks, or abilities

17. Stop wallowing in self-pity. – It may be hard but look at disappointment as opportunities or windows to a higher plane. Hard times are never easy to endure, but they may be life’s way of correcting things. If you look back on hard times, you’ll often found they ended up bring you to a better place and that you’ve grown from the experience.

18. Let go of hurt feelings. – Don’t hold grudges over times you’ve been slighted or hurt. Find a way to forgive others for their transgressions rather than avenge them. It doesn’t mean you have to forget what’s been done - just let go of the negative feelings that keep you from moving forward. Bitterness and resentment are wasteful, non-productive emotions and every moment spent wallowing in pain is one less you can spend loving those who really love you.

19. Stop lowering yourself. – Don’t match bad behavior with similar actions. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. Don’t stoop to the level of others who won’t raise themselves to your level. Name-calling and tit-for-tat vengeance are counterproductive.

20. Stop seeking validation from others. – Follow the path you know to be right and you’ll be on the right course. Those who are really important to you will support you and understand your choices.

21. Stop failing to see the forest through the trees. – It’s important to take a step back and try to evaluate your situation objectively. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly. Even if you seem swamped and unable to stop, be sure to take a step back and look at things through fresh eyes. Take a breath, clear your focus and take a fresh look.

22. Stop ignoring small happiness. – Be sure to take time to notice life’s little joys, however seemingly unimportant or insignificant they may appear. These little gems add up to a world of beauty.

23. Stop being unrealistic. – Perfection is seldom attainable but good results often are. Accept things may not go exactly according to plan or end up exactly the way you had hoped.

24. Stop taking the easy route. – Good things in life often don’t come easy, especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t look for quick fixes or the easiest path. Few things worth having come without a struggle and it’s important to realize that there may be setbacks along the way. Stay on track and keep focused on the goal.

25. Stop putting on a front. –Sure, it’s admirable to “keep a stiff upper lip” and put on a brave front in the face of adversity but find the courage to admit that things are going wrong when it is obvious that they are. If you need a good cry, have one and then get back on track to solving what’s wrong

26. Stop avoiding responsibility for your mistakes. – When you attribute your circumstances to the actions of others, you empower them over your destiny. Take credit for your successes but admit your mistakes and learn from them.

27. Stop thinking you’re Superman. – It’s not possible to be everything you want to be to everyone you want to help so try to focus on what is feasible and realistic. Bringing a smile to one person’s face can have substantial impact.

28. Stop being such a worrier. – Tomorrow’s problems will always be there and you’ll be more effective dealing with them if you devote time to that endeavor rather than stressing and worrying about them.

29. Avoid pessimism. – Take an optimistic outlook every day and think of the good things you want to happen. Instead, direct your energies and expectations toward positive outcomes and results. Make an effort to make good things happen and they often will.

30. Stop wallowing. – Start counting your blessings instead of your woes. Remember, there are people with real problems out there, most of whom are far more serious than yours. You always have something to be for which you can be thankful.


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      prince bethel 3 years ago from Africa

      These are very important keys to improving self esteem and personality. Nice hub!

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      John Coviello 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Great advice! I agree with what you are saying. Too much personal suffering is due to how we chose to perceive our world. Luckily, we have control over these 30 things to improve our life experience.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      One shouldn't live in denial be themselves and live their own lives, excellent points here and so true for most people.

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      PADDYBOY60 5 years ago from Centreville Michigan

      There are a lot of things written here that I can improve on. Thanks.

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      Efficient Admin 5 years ago from Charlotte, NC

      This is amazing advice. Thanks for sharing. Voted up and across.

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      angelskies 5 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      This is an amazing hub. I feel so grateful to have stumbled upon it. Thank you for your inspiring word!