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Genuine Happiness - 4 strategies on how to live an genuinely happy life
DO YOU FEEL THE WEIGHT OF LIFE?
Do you feel like you have lost the zest you once had for life when you were young? Is your home and work situations pulling you down? Is the responsibility of your home and work life coupled with attempting to do the right thing constantly day by day sucking out every last bit of energy you have?
Would you like to discover how to find genuine happiness within? Would you like to be genuinely happy?
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The one thing I have realised over the years is that the first step to genuine happiness is that I have to love myself. I have learnt that I need to be patient with myself, kind to myself, trust in my own abilities and have hope that when I do the right thing, life will work itself out.I have also learnt to identify and accept my strengths and weaknesses, build on who I am and do the best with what I have.
Life sometimes can be cruel and failures stare overwhelmingly in my face. I am learning to know my moods, while actively telling myself to try to look on the brighter side while looking for solutions to deal with issues. I keep negative thoughts out of my head by thinking of at least a good happy thought for the day, facing life as cheerfully as I can. I am learning to accept myself, warts and all. I realise that I am not perfect and know that deep down, I am someone who is unique and with God's help, have the power to change things. In short, happiness is a choice. I choose to be happy. As someone once said, "Be yourself, nobody is better qualified."
One other key element to being genuinely happy is to be content with what you have, who you are, and what life brings you. How do we learn to be content though?
Life is preassuring from all angles with the media telling us that we need a particular product to be attractive, we need to hang out at a particular place to be cool, we need to drive a particular vehicle to be viewed as successful, etc. We really must keep up with the Joneses, do we not?
Well, actually we don't.
We are the product of our choices. If we choose to over indulge or over extend ourselves, we will have to bear the consequences of our choices. We have to learn to live within our means, spending only 70% of our disposable income on life necessities and putting aside the remaining 30% for rainy days. When we do otherwise, we may find happiness with material things for a short period of time but eventually reality catches up, so do the debt associated with it.
Contentment is when you do not live by the world's standards and demands, but what makes people happy is when we learn to be at peace with where we are in life, what we have and whom we are with. It takes courage to be content and not fall into coveting what others have whatever the circumstances.The thing is we have to learn to be happy for others.
"So, how do I be happy? How can I be happy?", you ask. Be at peace with who you are, to be truly accepting of the fact that there are many things you cannot change and to change what you can. You accept that at this point in life this is where you are at, with plans to continually improve yourself but while you are in this place, you intend to enjoy the moment :)
Imagine others who go through life perhaps not with the same hardships as yours, nevertheless they are experiencing difficult times. Imagine how thankful, happy, joyous, relieved, thrilled, lifted they would feel should someone came by to do a good deed and gave them a hand.
Imagine the peace, happiness and satisfaction you would feel if that person was you!
Be involved in voluntary community work. This will give you a sense of purpose and satisfaction - you will give as well as receive. Happiness and contentment also comes from the giving of yourself to others. Life has a funny way of giving you points for reaching out to others. My Step 3 to how to be genuinely happy is simple. Focus on others, give of yourself and make someone happy. Take time for family and friends. Give and accept support graciously. Create and maintain strong positive relationships as
this will increase your emotional and mental well-being. Through your giving, you find that you will learn to be happy too.
Last but not least, based on my own personal experience, happiness and peace in life can be derived from meditating on the God's Word. Meditation helps us to manage our reactions to life's stress better and recover more easily from difficult times. Focusing on the One being who is Almighty and All Knowing gives comfort and peace which ultimately leads to personal joy and key to happiness.
The following is a prayer of St Francis of Assisi.
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
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My sincere hope is that you will discover what is takes to be genuinely happy. I wish you the very best in life.
Please find links on the left to view excellent and interesting videos at ted.com. Worth checking out!
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Videos - Interesting talks and ideas on the topic of Happiness
- Rick Warren on a life of purpose | Video on TED.com
TED Talks Pastor Rick Warren, author of The Purpose-Driven Life, reflects on his own crisis of purpose in the wake of his book's wild success. He explains his belief that God's intention is for each of us to use our talents and influence to do good.
- Malcolm Gladwell on spaghetti sauce | Video on TED.com
TED Talks Tipping Point author Malcolm Gladwell gets inside the food industry's pursuit of the perfect spaghetti sauce -- and makes a larger argument about the nature of choice and happiness.
- Carl Honore praises slowness | Video on TED.com
TED Talks Journalist Carl Honore believes the Western world's emphasis on speed erodes health, productivity and quality of life. But there's a backlash brewing, as everyday people start putting the brakes on their all-too-modern lives.
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