- Women's Health
4 Nerve-wracking Pregnancy Moments
Early Pregnancy: Going to the Bathroom
All women, especially women who have never been pregnant before or have had miscarriages, always find it hard to breathe for the first twelve or thirteen weeks of pregnancy. Miscarriages are most common during the first trimester, as explained here:
Every time a new mother-to-be uses the bathroom or feels any kind of cramping, she might get nervous to find that something unusual has occurred. Even when you don’t think it could happen to you, it’s always a little scary that you’ll look down and see some blood, then have to rush to the telephone to call your OB. I thought this was something I was overly worried about, as miscarriages run in my family, but all of my pregnant friends and acquaintances have said the exact same thing!
While it’s important to be on the lookout for anything strange, there is some good news to comfort you if you are over-the-top stressed. First of all, once your doctor finds baby’s heartbeat, the chance of miscarriage declines to less than ten percent. Your doctor may find the heartbeat at your first appointment at seven or eight weeks.
More good news: Cramping and bleeding might be totally normal. Your uterus is working hard as it grows to accommodate a little life form, and sometimes women bleed as the baby takes root. Here are some sources that say more about normal cramping and bleeding:
Early Pregnancy: Finding the Heartbeat
While your baby is teeny tiny and you can’t feel any movements yet, the only reassurance you really get that he or she is doing well is when you go to your doctor’s appointment every four weeks and your OB finds the fast little heartbeat. Because baby is still so small, sometimes it takes a little while for the doctor to find the heartbeat, and those seconds can feel like the longest of your life. I had many stressful moments sitting in that chair, waiting for bad news because it took more than five seconds to find the heartbeat. I felt a lot better when one of my doctors informed me that it would probably take him up to a minute to find the heartbeat, and I shouldn’t be so worried.
Mid Pregnancy: Move, Baby!
Realizing you’re feeling your baby move is one of the most exciting moments of pregnancy. It’s fun to get used to the feeling of the little thing moving around inside of you and reassuring to feel their activity. At the onset of feeling these movements, however, you can’t expect consistency. Baby’s still so small, and there will be many times that you simply can’t feel him moving, even though he is. The general consensus is that there is no reason to monitor the frequency of your baby’s movements in the womb until around the start of the third trimester.
Even then, your baby might make you nervous at times. I had a few very confusing days with my first—one day, he would kick me and squirm around nonstop all day, hardly letting me sit still. Then I’d have a day or two in a row where I felt nothing or next to nothing from him. This doesn’t necessarily mean there is cause to worry. Drinking something sugary and lying still for a long time is one of the top recommended ways to make sure your baby is moving around. Here are some tips like that to feel some baby movements:
Remember, as long as baby is moving, everything is OK. A huge decrease in activity can be a bad sign, but if the kick counts don’t always add up perfectly or your baby seems to have a slow day, things are probably fine. If you’re really nervous, it’s never a bad thing to call up your doctor’s office. They deal with calls all the time, and whether it’s a false alarm or not, reassurance is always nice.
Late Pregnancy: Is it Time?
Even though most women don’t struggle with morning sickness during later pregnancy, pregnancy gets difficult towards the end because of all of the aches and pains. Many women suffer from back pain and other bone, joint, and muscle pain. Your pelvic and tailbones are softening, and this can cause pain as you walk around, get dressed, or even roll over in bed at night. As baby gets bigger, she may also hurt you with her stronger kicks or by sitting on nerves. There are all kinds of little pains that come along at the end of pregnancy.
With all this plus your squished intestines and Braxton Hicks contractions, you’ll probably wake up in the middle of the night with twinges or pains that you won’t always be able to pinpoint. Remember that a quick pain may be baby sitting on a nerve, kicking, or even your struggling digestive system. Reading up on recognizing labor is helpful so that you know when you should be jumping up to go to the hospital and when you should get back to sleep.