3 Common Pitfalls in Manifesting and How to Overcome Them
You Are No Exception
Are you frustrated with the Law of Attraction (which will be abbreviated LOA through the rest of this article) and feeling like it doesn't work for you, yet you see others who have had many successes with it? I have been where you are and have heard my friends say that they enjoyed reading about the LOA, but they just didn't know how to make it work practically in their lives. Reading or hearing information about the LOA can make us feel good and be enjoyable to do because it is in resonance with our soul. It is a way of being that our Higher Selves already understand, but when it comes to putting it into practice, we can get frustrated or even give up because this reality is so dense and there is a time delay between imagining what we want and it showing up in our external reality.
The LOA can be used in so many different ways, which is both good and bad. It's good because it means everyone who has talked about a way of manifesting that you haven't heard before that worked great for them is correct. It's bad because not all methods may work for you, and there is no be-all-end-all formula for success when using the LOA. There is a lot of information to sift through, but you can always trust you'll be guided to the information that is most resonant with you. Set that intention with the universe.
I'm not going to talk about manifesting formulas here, but rather the resistance that can come up as we are trying to put a formula into practice. You are no exception to the LOA and it can work for you.
You're Not Being Consistent
Let's say you are trying to manifest a relationship with someone. In this scenario, it is best to visualize the end result, what it will look and feel like when you have what you want. If you want a committed relationship, what does a day in the life of you in a committed relationship with that person look and feel like? Perhaps you're visualizing this, but then some resistance comes up and you think, "How is this possible? I am not even in communication with this person. It's crazy to think about being with him/her when we don't even have any contact." So instead, you start trying to manifest a text message or a phone call from this person, and you stop thinking about the end result. Or your focus on the end result is very sporadic, while your feelings on it are governed more by what is happening in the now and this consciousness of lack and separation.
As a result, you may get the text message or contact from this person, but maybe it seems to lead nowhere. Or perhaps you get neither the contact nor the relationship, which sends you spiraling into deeper frustration and a lack of faith in the universe. When you're trying to manifest something that you want badly, it is easy to fall off course due to trying to micromanage the universe or succumbing to feelings of loneliness or sadness at not being with the person of your dreams. It's incredibly human. Don't beat yourself up over it. The good news is now you are aware of it, and you can correct your course!
I would suggest sticking to one specific scene when visualizing and letting the universe fill in the gap between now and that end result. If you are manifesting the long-term, committed relationship, the universe will know where there needs to be contact and as long as you stay in alignment, the communication will align with you. However, only trying to manifest a text message and losing sight of your end game can work against you. It may help to become aware of your intention behind trying to manifest something. If it comes from fear or feeling like things aren't happening quickly enough, you don't want to create from that state of mind.
You're Visualizing in Third Person
When you visualize a scene - let's say you're imagining that you ace a job interview and are offered the job on the spot, or you're imagining your wedding with your dream girl or guy - do you see it taking place outside of you, or from your perspective? Are you looking the HR people in the eyes as you shake their hands, or are you watching yourself shake hands with them? Are you feeling your bride or groom's kiss and their hands cupping your face, or are you standing off in the distance watching this unfold? Be careful that you're seeing it all from your point of view and you're an active part of the scene, not a bystander. The problem with visualizing in third person is that it can work against you and mean that you get to watch someone else land your job or the marriage you wanted. You might get some wedding invites, but they probably won't be to your own wedding.
Don't panic if you've been doing a lot of visualizing from the third person point of view. You can manifest anything, and there is no mistake that can permanently throw you off course to your most desired reality. There truly is no "right" or "wrong" way to manifest. These are just tips to keep the LOA working in your favor. I used to visualize from the third person POV when I was starting out as a conscious creator. I noticed my friends having a lot of good fortune and getting things similar to what I thought I was imagining for myself. I have given up on the LOA several times but always came back to it. I present this information in hopes of keeping you away from the headaches that I faced.
You're Giving Up Too Easily
If you are manifesting something that is really important to you, there are probably going to be times that you wonder why it isn't here yet or question your worthiness. If you are manifesting your desired relationship, you may at times see other happy couples together and feel lonely, or you'll consider selling yourself short to any guy or girl who beats down your door, even if you don't have feelings for them. And if you've been reading up on the LOA for a while, and you understand the importance of your thoughts and feelings, you may beat yourself up for doing these things on occasion and feel like you should just give up and go back to manifesting by default, because you think you suck at manifesting and keeping the faith.
Learning to intentionally manifest can feel foreign at first. You might make mistakes or dwell in an energy that is not conducive to the reality you desire, but you can always correct your course at any time. Remember, nothing is impossible unless you believe it to be so. To the universe, there is no such thing as a right or wrong decision. You can explore your resistance or create more of it if you wish. Because of how we're conditioned to first notice lack and dwell on situations where we were disappointed in life, this may be easier than intentionally manifesting a more positive reality. But it is a choice, and this is the meaning of free will. You have the free will to experience the reality where you dwell the most in your thoughts and energy.
If the situations that you really want are not currently showing up in your reality, perhaps you can try manifesting things that aren't as important to you, things that are not so emotionally charged for you. Once those things show up for you, you will have some evidence in your arsenal that can give momentum to your other manifestations.
An Awesome LOA Book
Check out Susan Shearer Young's no-nonsense guide to manifestation! This is a very good, logical, and practical approach to the LOA, especially if you find yourself feeling skeptical. She also offers coaching if you feel you could benefit from personalized help.
An Awesome LOA YouTube Channel
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Check out Amy's YouTube channel for more practical LOA advice for creating literally anything you want.
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