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5 Goal Setting Tips for Moms

Updated on July 29, 2013
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Women are natural dreamers. From a young age we fantasized of being a princess, where our dainty minds morphed into that beautiful damsel waiting for Prince Charming to rescue us. It was fun to dream… And, as the modern princess evolved, she became savvier, stronger, proactive; no longer waiting for her world to define her, she sought to define her world.

When we become moms, we don’t stop dreaming, most of us just stop believing our dreams will come true. We get so caught up in life’s chaos that we neglect to pursue the dreams inherent within us. But ladies, this is your opportunity to move your dreams into reality. Whether you’re Cinderella or Sleeping Beauty, a CEO or stay-at-home mom, dreams won’t come true on their own. It takes hard work; it takes dedication; it takes setting goals.

Below are five goal-setting tips that'll help you realize your dreams, and lead you closer to the fairytale life you desire.

1. A Goal Is Not What You Think

To keep things simple, a goal has four irrefutable traits; it’s tangible (I want to be happy is not tangible; I want to get out of debt is); it’s measurable (I want to pay off my $10,000 credit card); it has a time-targeted objective (I want to pay off my credit card in 18 months); and lastly, a goal isn't a goal unless you write it down. You can talk about it all you want, but if it’s not written then it’s a wish, that may or may not get fulfilled. The key is to understand what goals are so we can get those fairytales out of our heads, written down, and start striving toward that happily ever after we all deserve.

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2. Your Goals Should be Thought Out

What is that burning passion lying within destined to be released? Where do you want to be in 5 or 10 years? What are those things you long to achieve but have no idea how to achieve it? It might be as fundamental as wanting to pay off a car loan, or as daunting as going back to school to get your Master’s degree. Or, maybe you’re yearning to get your pre-schooler into the most prestigious kindergarten in the district, or perhaps it's to finish the book you've always wanted to write. Whatever the dream, make sure it’s what you truly want. Do you really want to rise up the ranks at your company, or do you wish you could start your own business? Be clear of your desires, reach for the stars, and it’s okay to be selfish. Don’t lead yourself down a path you don’t want to travel because by setting goals you will most likely get there.

3. Goals Should be Categorized

On a piece of paper write down the long-term (5-10 year) goals you desire for your future. Separate them into categories: health, career, marriage, spiritual, etc. Now, choose one, and working backwards, determine the major steps to achieve that long-term goal. Write down the most important goals that needs to be accomplished this year; this quarter; this month; this week and today. For example, if your long-term goal is to open your own hair salon then your goal for this year might be to attend a beauty college. Your quarterly goal might be to secure financing for beauty college. Your monthly goal might be to get accepted at a beauty college. Your weekly goal might be to apply to 10 beauty colleges, and your daily goal might be to research potential beauty colleges.

Don’t beat yourself up if you fail to meet all of your goals. At least you will be making progress. And, if done correctly, each time you accomplish a daily goal you’ll be one step closer to a well-planned future.

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4. Unmet Goals Should Have Consequences

Most schools of thought don’t add consequences to goal setting, but I’ll use the method endorsed by my husband, motivational speaker, and Hollywood writer, Devon Greggory. When he’s speaking at colleges across the country about goal setting he tells students, “Without a consequence your dreams are in danger of going unfulfilled.” Ladies, when you set your goals attach a consequence, whether it’s not getting that chocolate cake after dinner, or being banned from watching your favorite TV show, or having to donate monetarily to a charity of your choice. When we don’t meet the goals set for us at work there are real consequences; the same is true in any educational environment. Our own dreams should be just as, if not more, important.

5. Get to Know Your Goals

Post your monthly and weekly goals where they’re clearly visible, and review your goals daily. Be sure you sit down at the top of each week to set the goals for the upcoming week, plus take 5 minutes at the end of each day to plan your goals for the following day. Also, be sure to celebrate by crossing items off each list that you’ve accomplished.

Another way to get to know your goals is to schedule quarterly goals retreats. You can do this with your spouse, if you’re goal setting together, or by yourself. Go to a coffee shop or dinner and review the goals you’ve set, and applaud the ones you’ve accomplished for the quarter; plus analyze the next set of goals you want to achieve for the upcoming quarter. Know your goals intimately and hold them in high regard, as if they were buried treasure waiting to be unlocked.

Moms, if you follow these tips, set your goals, and work hard to achieve them you’ll be well on your way to royalty.

You’ll no longer be a princess waiting for her fairytale to come true; you’ll be the Queen of your castle, living the dream you were destined to live.

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      The_Idea_Gal 4 years ago

      Great article and advice. I agree, you have to know what you want in life and have goals, otherwise it's like swimming in a big circle.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Thanks Idea Gal!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I like our advice on not beating yourself up of you miss a goal. I think sometimes we are so focused that we forget this factor. What a wonderful hub and so inspiring.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Thank you teaches12345 for your encouraging comment!

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      LongTimeMother 4 years ago from Australia

      I'm laughing at your image of little girls dreaming of becoming princesses. That was never one of my dreams. In fact in a motivational book I wrote for women over 20 years ago I said "For a woman who harbours no illusions of being whisked away by a cheque-wielding knight in shining armour (after all, there's no way I'd get around to polishing it), the only alternative is to get a job and support herself."

      I believe that goals and dreams are very important. Dreams come true even after having children. Take me for instance, I have reached my goal of dropping out of mainstream life and fufilled my dream of becoming as close to a hermit as motherhood allows. :)

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Well, LongTimeMother congratulations on fulfilling your dreams! I think you've earned it for being a mom for so long (-:

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      stephanieb27 4 years ago from United States

      Great advice! I'm good at making long term goals and am getting better at making and meeting weekly goals! :)

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Stephanie, thank for so much for your kind comments.

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      daisyjae 4 years ago from Canada

      I always write out my goals and even if I don't achieve them by the deadline, at least I know I am making progress. Your hub is very useful, rated up!

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Hi daisyjae, thank you for reading my article. I agree, it is so important to write out our goals, even if we don't achieve them. At least we are making progress towards them!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love the spirit of this hub. I think it is sad when people stop dreaming, and this is so valuable in getting women to start doing so again. Well done my friend.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Hi billybuc. Yes, we do need to keep dreaming, and our goals will help us fulfill those dreams. Thank you for your comments!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I am not a mom yet (although that is one of my goals), but your goal-planning tips are very handy. I enjoy setting goals, and crossing them off as I attain them.

      I also like how you sprinkled this article with "dreaming". It is true, most women are dreamers.

      Thank you for sharing this with us.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Thank you for your thoughtful comments Kathryn. Yes, goal-planning is for everyone. And, I agree with you. It feels great to accomplish a goal and be able to cross it off the list. It is a very satisfying feeling.

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      Willette 4 years ago from Michigan

      Excellent tips. I wrote down goals I have for my writing career. now I need to go and see if they meet the criteria that you have shared here. thanks for sharing and keep on hubbing! thumbs up, awesome and a share.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Thank you kellyteam. I pray these tips help you. I really learned most of them from my husband, who is a big goal-setter. We do annual goals retreats and hod each other accountable on a quarterly basis. It really does help.

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      Healthy Life 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thanks for that motivating hub. Writing down and clearly defining the goal is a good idea. I definitely have some financial goals and will use this technique. Voted up!

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Hi healthylife2 I am glad this hub was motivating. That was part of my goal! Thank you for reading.

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      Marie Alana 4 years ago from Ohio

      Thanks for this hub! I am sharing it with some Moms who are trying to reach the goal of getting their degree.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      MarieAlana1, I think these tools will be quite useful. Thank you so much for sharing them!

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      Breatheeasy3 4 years ago from USA

      Very inspiring article, from the male's perspective lol! I can remember my wife telling me that when she was asked what she wanted to be when she grew up, her answer was....."A Wife!" Interesting huh! lol

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Hello Breatheeasy3, thank you for reading. I'm glad this hub inspired you! And, even though this article targets women, men can apply the same principles when it comes to setting goals.

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      LKMore01 4 years ago

      Careermommy,

      There are so many hardworking career moms ( including my sisters) who need to heed your advice. They sacrificed time, money and energy to support the children they love with all their hearts. Now it's time for them to rediscover their own goals and dreams. I will share this encouragement with them.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Hi LKMore01, thank you so much for your wonderful comments. They were very touching. I would love for you to share this with your sisters, and pray that this will inspire them.

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      kidscrafts 4 years ago from Ottawa, Canada

      Excellent suggestions! Because of construction in my home and heavy schedule, I am a little bit in the clutter that I hate. I love to be organized and on top of things!

      Yeaterday, I started to create a list of things to do be back uncluttered and totally organized again! I think it will help me think more clearly instead of running in all directions!

      I am a big dreamer and I decided I will work in visionning those dreams into reality!

      I love your article! Thanks!

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Kidscrafts, I'm glad these suggestions were helpful! I'm a big goal-setter and really believe these help us get closer to our dreams. And like you, I hate the clutter. Lists are great too. Thank you for commenting!

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      toknowinfo 4 years ago

      Excellent hub. You covered this topic very well. If we aim for realistic achievements, we can feel good about what we are doing, and the obstacles we encounter can be tackled. If we believe we can achieve.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Hi toknowinfo, thank you for your thoughtful comments. I tried to be as thorough as possible. It does feel good to work toward our goals even when obstacles come our way.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      Some good advice and ideas here to help people reach their potential and their dreams!

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Thank you Au fait!

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