5 Signs You Are Sabotaging Yourself
Self Sabotage Comes in All Shapes and Sizes
Self Sabotage is not a single act, it's an outdrawn process, a complex one. Its a tragic process that puts people up against their pwn impulses and thoughts.
Even Though we all make mistakes from time to time, a real self-saboteur continues to attempt to correct those mistakes by piling them on top of increasingly worse decisions.
Some people smoke, some drink, while other procrastinate. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to know if you may be sabotaging yourself. Some people drink, some procrastinate, others are just way too modest. How do you get in your own way?
Am I Dodging Emotions?
This Can Be More Harmful Than Helpful.People often get into trouble when they try to escape intense negative feelings.
Everyone is guilty of it from time to time. Some do it more often—shoot themselves in the foot or place obstacles in their own self chosen path.
Behavior can be self-sabotaging when you attempt to solve or cope with a problem and end up creating new problems that start to interfere with long term goals and disturbs relationships with the people around you.
Eating for comfort is a common form of self sabotage especially when a person should be watching their weight due to health issues. Another common form is self medicating with drugs, alcohol or tobacco.
Procrastination may be be one of the most common of all. One that I myself am guilty of from time to time is going on shopping sprees. The euphoric and good feeling we get when going on shopping sprees is akin to the euphoric effect we feel when we are happy
Do I Procrastinate More Than Normal?
I say more than normal because we are guilty of it. I may be one of the worst offenders, but the hard part is knowing if you are doing too much.
It is easy to justify your behavior and say you will just get to it later, but minute by minute you just keep fooling yourself.
Procrastination is king when it comes to self-sabotage because procrastination is the gap between intention and action. The damaging behavior lies in not being able to close that gap as we procrastinate.
When it comes to self-sabotage, procrastination is king. Why? Because procrastination is the gap between intention and action, and it is in this gap that the self operates. The undermining behavior lies in not closing the gap.
We have an intention to act, the time arrives, but instead of choosing to act, we end up getting lost in our own deliberation and making excises to justify an unnecessary and potentially harmful delay. We are the ultimate deciders when it comes down to acting.
Can I Be Too Modest At Times?
There comes a point at which humility becomes corrosive and woman are too often guilty of it.
Self sabotage can show up in the most unexpected places. Lets look at a recent neuroscience lecture in New York which consisted of a customary question and answer session. Eventually the speaker announced that there would only be time for one more question. and a female who looked to be about in her late 30's would up in the last spot..
Instead of asking her question when she received the microphone, she starting to do something that you might call a "Self-effacing" dance. "Oh my goodness," she said, curling around the microphone stand as if to disappear into it, "I'm the last questioner. I feel almost guilty." She expressed her guilt again before asking her question. I don't recall the question, but the prologue was memorable, it made the audience uncomfortable.
Addicts can tend to have an abundance of excuses and delusional thinking while avoiding the painful and decisive steps required to set their lives right. All too often we see stories of talented individuals who, despite much potential and future, allowed drugs and alcohol to drag them down.