5 tips to live a life with no regrets- Told by People on Deathbed
We all have things in our lives that we wish we had done or done differently. It should be no surprise then that when nearing the end of their lives many people find they have regrets. When facing their own mortality many people are struggling with a great deal of emotions. They often find themselves evaluating their lives and the choices they have made. When questioned about the things that they regretted or would do differently many terminally ill patients had similar regrets. Of all the things that people can regret about their lives there where 5 things that where regretted the most.
I wish I had the courage to live life true to myself.
Everyone has a bucket list, whether it is an actual list or just thoughts in their head. Everyone has dreams for their future, things that they want to accomplish in their lives. Unfortunately, many people allow the daily grind of life to carry them away and push their dreams to the side. After all, there is always tomorrow or next year to take that trip or start that business. When looking back at the end of their lives many people find that many of their dreams have gone unfulfilled. They realize that due to choices they made or actions they did not take that there are many things they wanted to do and no longer have the time for. It is important that people live their lives today and try to fulfill as many of their dreams as possible because tomorrow is never guaranteed.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
This has been a common regret among men who are now facing death. However, it is like to become a more common regret among women now that so many women are now working outside the home. While it is certainly necessary to work and provide for your family, many men look back on their lives and realize they spent so much time providing what they thought their families needed that they never got to enjoy those families. If you take the time to decide what your priorities are for yourself and your family you will often find that you don’t need the level of income that that you think. Don’t under estimate the value of quality time with you when considering what your family needs. After all most children would choice time with their parents over material possessions any day.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people go through life holding their feeling in, never letting others know how they really feel. Often people keep their feeling of anger or hurt to themselves in order avoid conflicts with the people in their lives. Not only can the stress of holding thee types of feelings in make you seek it damages your relationships. Speaking honestly about how you feel will strengthen your relationships and if those around you can’t deal with your emotions your probably better off without them. This also applies to more positive emotions. Many people look back on their lives and regret not telling loved ones how they felt. Often they avoided showing these emotions because they thought it made them appear weak or because they were afraid of rejection. Don’t reach the end of your life and find that the people that where most important to you don’t know how you felt.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Many people reach the final weeks and months of their lives and find they want to connect with their old friends one more time. Often they got caught up in their daily lives and gradually let relationships with dear friends slip away. Now facing death they are regretting not putting the time and effort into maintaining those friendships. Unfortunately, by the end it is often too late to track down and reconnect with these friends. Don’t wait until you are to sick and or weak to truly connect with the people in your life. During your youth it will often take a concerted effort to maintain friendships but it is an effort that will pay off in later years.
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.
Many people realize at the end of their lives that happiness is a choice, one that they failed to make. Often people get stuck into a rut, just going through the motions of their lives. They are so busy chasing tomorrow that they forget to stop and enjoy today. No matter where you are in your life there are things for you to appreciate and be grateful for. Don’t wait until you’re on your deathbed to look at your life and realize all the good things you have. Each day of your life is full of opportunities and choices. Try to live life in a way that ensures you will reach the end having lived a fulfilling and happy life, not one full of regrets.