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5 Ways I Got Sober In 2020

Updated on February 18, 2020
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The Short List

  1. I promised myself that I wasn’t going to buy another bottle of wine or order a bottle of whiskey to be delivered to my home until further notice.
  2. I downloaded an app called “Quit drinking. Stay sober”.

  3. I researched all I could about alcoholism and sobriety. I found blogs, recovery websites, and another app called “Daybreak”, an online community of support and goal setting.

  4. I have serious FOMO (Fear of missing out) so I knew that I’d need to be able to say no to having a drink in public settings because I literally refuse to avoid situations where alcohol may be present.

  5. Lastly, I chose to share my story.


There are no quick fixes in the journey to sobriety. It’s just about getting honest with yourself, your relationship with alcohol and making a conscious effort to educate yourself and explore new passions.

The Full Five

Today I've been sober for 26 days.


I’ve been a mom for eleven years and drunk for ten. When I decided to quit drinking it was because I was sick and tired of my own shit. Tired of texting guys I had no interest in other than when I was black-out drunk, tired of arguing with friends, and tired of spending the next day recuperating. I finally wanted to change to make those aspects of my life better and so that I could be a more present parent.


5 ways I got sober:


  1. I promised myself that I wasn’t going to buy another bottle of wine or order a bottle of whiskey to be delivered to my home until further notice. At first, I wasn't sure how long I’d manage to stay sober, I thought at best I’d manage five days but I’m still going and that’s huge.

  2. I downloaded an app called “Quit drinking. Stay sober”. The app tracks your days and hours sober, the money you’ve saved, how much life you’ve regained and how many drinks you haven’t drank; it also offers a place to track your potential health benefits, which I LOVE.

  3. I researched all I could about alcoholism, and sobriety. I found blogs, recovery websites, and another app called “Daybreak”, an online community of support and goal setting. These help me understand how I am feeling and make me feel less alone on my journey. I have learned a lot about alcohol, addiction, and mental health and I’ll continue to educate myself and surround myself with people who are like-minded or have experienced and are experiencing the same things.

  4. I have serious FOMO (Fear of missing out) so I knew that I’d need to be able to say no to having a drink in public settings because I literally refuse to avoid situations where alcohol may be present. When I go to a pub with friends, meet friends for lunch, or have family over I make sure I have a tea or water with lemon and lime, a pop, coffee, anything alcohol-free.

  5. Lastly, I chose to share my story. Though my blog may be anonymous, it’s not because I am ashamed or embarrassed about being sober; it’s because I’d like to write freely about my experiences with my psychopathic parent. For me, and a few of my friends being sober is cool- normal, even.

There are no quick fixes in the journey to sobriety. It’s just about getting honest with yourself, your relationship with alcohol and making a conscious effort to educate yourself and explore new passions.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2020 Emma Gray

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    • TheBoozyBeauty profile imageAUTHOR

      Emma Gray 

      5 weeks ago from Canada

      Thank you, Lorna.

    • Lorna Lamon profile image

      Lorna Lamon 

      6 weeks ago

      It takes a tremendous amount of courage to take these steps to a healthy recovery. By writing about it you draw awareness to how difficult and painful addiction can be. You are an inspiration and I wish you all the best on your recovery journey.

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      asereht1970 

      6 weeks ago from Philippines

      Congratulations! That is a very big but really a brave decision on your part to stop drinking alcohol. I know that there will be times when you will be tempted to drink, so I hope you can overcome these trials.

    • TheBoozyBeauty profile imageAUTHOR

      Emma Gray 

      6 weeks ago from Canada

      Louise, I'm sorry to hear about your mother's passing and your daughter's struggle with addiction. Alcohol is a dangerous drug and no matter how we try to justify our actions, the people we love the most often suffer the worst. Thank you for your kind words.

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      Louise Elcross 

      6 weeks ago from Preston

      You sound absolutely determined to deal with your drinking problem and I admire your courage. My daughter is alcoholic and been in some terrible states including psychosis. She has two children and tried to tell me they would not be affected just because she drinks. My mum was an alcoholic at a time when there was nowhere to find help. It killed her in the end and she was only 34. I am sure your experiences are going to make many people more aware of how they can find help and how to help themselves. Thanks for sharing and I wish you all the best for the future.

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