5 Ways to Build Confidence Now!
Confidence is what allows you to live your life on your terms; it’s about demanding what you want and not settling for anything less only to justify to yourself why you lowered your standards. Nobody likes to admit that they lack confidence, so instead we surround ourselves with a form of cloak to hide our insecurities. The longer we wear this cloak, the longer it takes for us to live our best life. These five exercises will allow to boost your confidence and change your life today!
It’s no secret that exercise improves your mood and overall health, but being able to stick with an exercise routine and reach your fitness goal is something you have to experience for yourself. There’s so much that goes into getting in shape other than exercise and eating right; like people constantly trying to discourage you and tell you you’re wasting your time, but keep going. For me, most of the people who had something to say was old, washed up, unhealthy individual with not an ounce of motivation in their body. Funny part is, as they were criticizing and trying to one up me they were secretly try to imitate me at the same time (I see you). Another thing exercising will do is allow you to appreciate your body for what it is instead of trying to look like something you’re not.
They say money is the root of all evil, but that’s only because people tend to have no idea what to do with money once they get it. If you mistreat money then money will mistreat you. Understanding the importance of saving money, living within your means, and proper investment will give you a piece of mind instead of sitting at the kitchen table adding all paychecks for the month to see if you’re able to pay your bills on time. A common mistake you see is that when someone gets a raise or another job they only create problems equal to the increased amount of money (you went from a minimum wage problem to 13 dollars an hour problem). Better money handling skills allows you to focus on the things that makes you happy.
It’s natural to want to fit in, which why we follow trends, whether it’s an internet challenge or a certain style. One common problem people who follow trends so closely have is that they have a hard time developing a personality of their own; everything they do, say, or wear can be referenced back to their favorite tv show, meme, or viral video. Because of this some people put so much time and effort in being different when really its easy once you learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Not to mention it’s just a waste of time and money trying to keep up with trends.
We all have that one friend that for some reason already have a new relationship lined up right after that current one they’re in fails. I had this one co-worker whose boyfriend was a taxi-driver who sold weed on the side one week and the next week her boyfriend’s a firefighter who fight crime on the side. The week after that he’s a lifeguard who sells wakeup now business plans on the side. It took me a while to realize that all these were different men who she started dating right after the previous relationship didn’t work; this also explains why no one ever got to see him, because once she acknowledges him as her boyfriend they had already broken up. Alone time allows you to get a better understanding of yourself; instead of trying the old “spaghetti at the wall and see what stick” tactic, find out what you really want in a relationship let alone what you expect from people before you get too close to the wrong person.
Reading (particularly self-help books) allows you to expand your imagination, motivate you, develop a better understanding of people and better quality of life. Though reading I’ve learned how to remove unnecessary noise out of my life. It’s been documented that on average people read about 4 books a year while the wealth aim to read 60. That alone should be a reason to pick up more books. My mentor told me that the most important card in your wallet is a library card (my hard-headed ass still aint got one) and now understand why. It ultimately allows you to stay on track on whatever it is that you’re trying to achieve.
© 2019 Derrick Bennett