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8 Smart Ways to Deal With Fear
How to Deal With Fear
Do you get scared when you think of flying? Do you tense up when you think about death? Do you develop goose bumps whenever you think about heights? Do you feel like screaming when you are left alone in the dark? Do you want to find ways to deal with these fears? How can a Christian deal with fear?
In this article, I want to show you how to deal with fear so that you can have peace of mind to go about your activities in a relaxed spirit.
Now, what are some of the strategies you can use to handle your fears?
Make Positive Affirmations To Yourself
One strategy you can use to deal with fear is to speak words of courage and comfort to yourself. It will help you to think positively, you will be able to build your boldness and courage as a result, and that will help you to feel less nervous and jittery.
For example, if you fear failing your exam and you want to deal with fear of failure, say something such as this to yourself before the exam, “I have written exams in the past that I passed. It was no big deal. Although those tests seemed frightening, I did them and I passed. Just as I was able to conquer those exams, I can conquer this one too. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Just as God helped the Israelites to defeat the sons of Anak, those giants who looked intimidating, He will help me to do this exam and pass it. I can do it with God’s help. I can do it!”
Or, if you fear flying or you fear the dark and you want to deal with the fear of flying or the fear of the dark, you may say something such as this to yourself, “ Others fly every day and nothing happens to them. I will also fly and nothing will happen to me. I am more than a conqueror through Christ who is with me and who will help me. Just as God gave David boldness and courage to defeat the 9- foot giant, Goliath, God will help me to fly without any problems. Additionally, God is with me when I am in the dark. He is the Good Father and He will protect me. He who keeps me will not slumber or sleep. He will be with me in the dark to protect me. He is my keeper. The LORD will keep me from all evil. Though I am scared of the darkness, God is with me; His rod and His staff comfort me and so I will not be afraid.”
When you speak such encouraging words to yourself, when you remind yourself of God’s care and protection for others and for you in the past, your spirit will be strengthened and you will feel confident and that will help you to calm down.
Do not view the obstacles you face as “do-or-die” affairs. When you do that, you will think that your life will come to an end when you are not able to achieve your goals, or when you are not able to overcome obstacles, and that can make you more anxious.
For example, if you think that your supervisor will lose confidence in you when you fail to meet your targets in the office, you may start worrying about delivering, which may cause you to become tense and, as a result, you may perform below expectation, which may lead to more anxieties.
However, when you choose to enjoy what you are doing, when you reframe the daunting task, in your mind, and see it as a chance to have some fun, when you think that, “Okay, I have high targets to meet. But, let me try to make the experience as exciting as possible. I don’t see this as a big challenge. This is a chance to play as I learn new things about life. This is going to be an exciting time of my life! And even if anything goes wrong, I will just try again or I will do things differently. If things don’t work out, it will not be the end of the world.” When you reframe what you fear as a chance to get some excitement, your brain will interpret the challenge as good news and you will feel less anxious about the challenge.
Laugh At Your Fears
Laughing is another strategy you can use to deal with fear. A good laugh will lighten your spirit and it will also lighten the load in your mind and cause mental relieve—it will make you feel that you should not be so worried about what is scaring you, and you will feel relaxed as a result.
Additionally, laughing lowers the levels of the stress hormone, cortisol, in the body, whilst it increases the levels of brain chemicals called endorphins which boost the mood of a person.
So, remind yourself of some of the things you feared in the past, but which never happened, to tell yourself how silly you were to have all those fears. Then, laugh over them and remind yourself that just as you were able to face past fears, you can face and conquer present and future fears.
Additionally, watch very funny sitcoms, watch a lot of comedy movies, and read funny comics and text messages and laugh your heart out, before frightening encounters. By doing that, you will feel relaxed before you face things that frighten you, and that will increase the chances that you will perform better.
Write down 10 good things that happen to you daily in your diary or a jotter. Read the lists at the end of every week when you are at home relaxing. It will fill your mind with positive thoughts and thoughts of hope, which will fight the thoughts of fear in your mind so that you can have peace of mind, which will make you feel calm and relaxed.
When fear grips your heart or when a lot of worries start coming into your mind, pick up your diary and read your lists with 100% focus. After you read each blessing, pause for a moment and try to recap how you felt when that good thing happened to you. Then, try to relive that moment and that feeling and it will make you feel happy, which will cancel out the nervous feeling and the tension in your body so that you can feel relaxed.
How To Deal With Fear From A Christian Perspective
How Should A Christian Deal With Fear?
Have Faith In God
Faith is the antidote for fear and worry—when you believe in God, who is able to do all things, when you remind yourself of God’s great power, when you remind yourself of what God has helped you to do in the past, you will feel confident that God will help you to face your problems today, and that will help you to feel confident about overcoming the challenges that you face today.
Others have conquered fears and overcome great challenges by having faith in God. An example is David in the Bible, a 17 year- old boy who had no experience in fighting, but who faced a fully- armed 9-foot giant (who was wearing armor, who had a shield, and who was holding a spear) with only a sling and five smooth stones. When David was criticized for having no experience, he reaffirmed his faith in God by reminding himself of challenges God had helped him to overcome in the past by saying, “The LORD who delivered me from the paw of the lion and from the paw of the bear, will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine,” (1 Samuel 17 v 37) and that gave him confidence to kill the giant.
Faith in God fills a person with boldness and courage because when you know that the GREAT I AM is with you, when you know that the OMNIPOTENT JEHOVAH is by your side, you can do all things because He will empower you and give you the ability to overcome your challenges. This is how to deal with fear Biblically!
Develop A Close Relationship With God
When you have a good relationship with God, He will embolden you through His Holy Spirit to face your fears and conquer them.
For example, in one of the how to deal with fear Bible verses, Judges 6 v 27, Gideon, a young, ordinary man acted in fear when God told him to destroy an idol in his father’s house. As the Bible says in verse 27, “So Gideon took ten men of his servants, and did as the LORD had told him; but because he was too afraid of his family and the men of the town to do it by day, he did it by night.”
Later on in verse 34, the Bible says, “But the Spirit of the LORD took possession of Gideon…” and it was after he developed a close relationship with God that he was empowered by God’s Spirit, which helped him to defeat an army of 135,000 men with only 300 men, and with God’s help.
And just as God helped Gideon, He can help you too, if you choose to develop your relationship with Him.
How can you do that?
- By reading the Bible every day so that you can get to know God intimately.
- By talking to God, praying to God, and telling Him you want to be His friend and also by asking Him to reveal Himself to you.
- By listening to God and obeying His voice.
- By asking Him to teach you about His ways.
- By going to church and listening to testimonies and preaching about God and His works.
Live A Holy Life So That God Will Give You His Spirit
One way to deal with fear, as shown in the Bible, is to live a righteous life so that God will give you His Spirit, who will embolden you so that you will fear nothing.
For example, the strongest man who ever lived, Samson, was able to face very challenging situations and enemies and to overcome them because God’s Spirit helped him.
In Judges 14 v 6 of the Bible, it is written that, “And behold, a young lion roared against him; and the Spirit of the LORD came mightily upon him, and he tore the lion asunder as one tears a kid; and he had nothing in his hand.”
In just that same way, God can give you His Spirit, who will help you to face your fears and overcome them with ease, if you live a holy and righteous life and if you obey God’s commandments.
Therefore, make it a habit to read your Bible so that you will know what God requires of you and how He wants you to live. Then, ask for His help to live according to His word and He will give you the Spirit of God, which will make you believe that no obstacle can stand in your way, that you can do all things through Christ, that you are a conqueror and a champion, and you will feel so confident that God will help you to overcome tough challenges, and that will help you to defeat your mental fears.
Practice God’s Presence
When you remind yourself that God, the Power above all powers, The Almighty Deliverer and Savior, the Strong Tower, the Rock of Gibraltar, the Rock of Ages, the Omnipotent, Omnipresent, Omniscient One is with you when you are in frightening situations, and when you remind yourself that He will help you and save you in the situation you find yourself in, it will give you peace of mind and help you to calm down.
So, whether it is an aggressive dog that you are facing, or fear of death, or dentist fear, driving fear, fear of dying, fear of elevators, fear of earthquakes, fear of the future, fear of failing, fear of falling, fear of ghosts, fear of growing up, fear of getting sick, irrational fears, fear of job loss, fear of flying, fear of losing someone, fear of being judged, fear of losing parents, fear of loss or whatever fear you have, just think or say to yourself, “God is with me and He will fight with me to help me to defeat this challenge. God will provide for me. God will take care of me. God will help me. God will strengthen me and make ways for me where there seems to be no way. God will deliver me. I will not fear. I will not be afraid. I will not be dismayed. I will not worry.”
Then, act as though God is there physically with you by reminding yourself of the fact that Jesus promised us that if we love God, God will send His Spirit who will dwell with us and be in us. It will make you bold and you will be able to deal with your fear.
To deal with fear, make positive affirmations to yourself when you feel frightened, trivialize tasks which look daunting, laugh at your fears, express your gratitude for your blessings, have faith in God, develop a close relationship with God, live a holy life so that God will give you His Holy Spirit, and practice God’s presence when you are in a difficult situation.
How to Deal With Fear
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© 2017 Isaac Nunoofio