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8 Ways to Stop Complicating Life

Updated on September 21, 2015


One of the ways to enjoy life, is not to complicate life. How can we do this?


1. Being faithful at work and in relationships.

If people adopt this attitude, there would be no need for lies. Sometimes, people can’t even remember the lies they tell others, as it’s hard to keep up with. Then it get’s so complicated. Years ago, I met a guy – we got chatting and I asked if he was married. Expecting a “Yes or No”.

His response was: “It depends.”


2. Stop worrying and complaining.

Emotions and thoughts are powerful. When you worry and complain, you frown, you're tired, and constant worrying will only age you quicker. On top of it all – it dosen’t change a thing. Use your energy in a better way.


3. Taking care of the body.

Eat well, exercise. It takes discipline but stick to it and it will be a healthy attitude, with no frequent visits to the Doctor or lots of time off work due to sickness.

Quote: "So many people spend their health gaining wealth and then have to spend their wealth to regain their health." ~ A.J. Reb Materi


4. Avoiding Negative people.

Negative people will give negative vibes and in most cases will drag you down. Not only that, they give you no inspiraton to become a better person. "The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best." – Epictetus


5. Stop obsessing over the Past.

You'll never make it to the next level by holding on to the first. ~ Rod St.Hilaire. Live in the present.Your best years are not behind you, they are still out in front of you.


6. Stop procrastinating.

Positive changes in life require action. Everyone in life has goals. However, what steps are we taking to see them come to reality?

The sooner we start, the better.

7. Unforgiveness

~ “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” ~ Lewis Smedes. Many diseases today are caused by bitterness. I read that if we harbour bitterness deeply, it can even cause tumours. So, let it go. Personally, I forgive people who have hurt me in the past, only for my own well being. Unforgiveness can block progress.


8. Holding on to unhappy relationships.

Love can’t be forced. If someone always makes you feel bad about yourself or you are constantly arguing – it’s time for a change. I notice some ladies would try to hold a man down by getting pregnant – it only complicates things further and the innocent child is caught in the middle. There is someone special out there for you – who will love and make room for you in his/her heart.



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    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      3 years ago from London, UK

      @Viryabo Thanks. So True. Nice of you to stop by.

      Best Wishes. :-)

    • viryabo profile image


      3 years ago

      A very good set of reminders . . . Life is too short to waste time on complications we can easily avoid. Thank you for this article.

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      Tijani Achamlal 

      5 years ago from Morocco

      It s okey ,I understand.Welcome back again.Yes,very true ,love brings peace of mind even if you are poor and wealth without love is really a barren life

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from London, UK

      @James - That's a beautiful and perfect Answer. I was actually with a Morrocan woman today and we were talking about wealth. She said she would rather have love and a comfortable home and enough to pay the bills, instead of a life of so much wealth and no love.

      It's the most simple things that give happiness.

      Thanks. Sorry it took me a while to reply. Just logged in since 2012. :-)

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      Tijani Achamlal 

      5 years ago from Morocco

      Thanks for the advice.Life is easy and simple but it is we who make it complicated.I read once somewhere about an American guy who met a lady from Bhutan( country between India and China) which ranks highest on the global happiness index.He asked that lady why Bhutanese people are so happy.The lady s answer was as simple as it was stunning: I think we desire less.” and that s probably true. Isn’t the key to all suffering unfulfilled desires?.I am ambitious. I enjoy pursuing goals but I have learned that happiness does not depend on achieving a specific outcome. Happiness comes from what you are doing while you are doing it.

      Have a nice day , happy new years and a good weekend:)

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from London, UK

      Hello Divacratus

      Thanks for your comment. It makes me laugh too, the way people also put it as a status. "Relationship Status: Complicated." I appreciate you stopping by and rating it. Best Wishes.

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      Kalpana Iyer 

      5 years ago from India

      I totally agree with everything. Being faithful is something which many people don't understand. It's the "in" thing nowadays to be in a complicated relationship. A relationship is never complicated, only you can make it so. And I can't agree more to staying away from negative people. They're like leeches who suck out all the good energy from you. I try avoiding interacting with such people as far as possible. Nice hub. Voted up and useful.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      5 years ago from London, UK

      @Beth - Hi Beth, what you noted is so True about Forgiveness. Lol about that man. Ps. sorry, this took a while to respond to. Every time I open comments, I always get through the top ones. I think I should start from the bottom, they seem to be the earliest posts....and I don't log in daily.

      Thanks so much for your understanding. ((Hugs))

    • Beth100 profile image


      5 years ago from Canada

      You have written wise words. To forgive is not about forgiving another person. To forgive is to allow yourself to accept that you are human and falliable. Forgiveness is something that only one can do for oneself. It takes greater courage to forgive oneself than to say that you forgive another.

      Funny, I wonder if the man I met was the same one you did? My guy had the exact same response!! Yikes!!

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK


      Thanks so much for stopping and for your kind words. I look forward to reading more of your inspiring Hubs too.

      Best Wishes.

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      All valid points which I happen to follow religiously. I like your style young lady and will be reading more of your work. We seem to stay in the positive, you and I, and I can always find time for someone with your character.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      Hello Sandy, I am glad you found it inspiring. I second your comments. Best Wishes.

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      Sandy Frost 

      6 years ago from India

      Each of these 8 ways is like a great lesson for every person that gives life a meaning. Truly, a person with positive attitude and relaxed mind can live his or her life in righteous and meaningful way. Well, this is an inspiring hub, thanks for sharing.. :)

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      Hello Donna, lovely to see you again and read your comments. Thanks.

    • donnaisabella profile image


      6 years ago from Fort Myers

      Awesome advice, great for the soul. I could not help recognizing the procrastinating again! LOL, message of the day, For Me. thanks for sharing dear Lady_E.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      Hello Shimmering Dawn

      So True - Forgiving for our own sake. I heard Louise Hay say in one of her talks, that most Cancer stems from deep hatred people are carrying. (Louis guides people in healing themselves) I appreciate you stopping by. Have a blessed day too. x

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      shimmering Dawn 

      6 years ago

      LadyE I so love your tips... I am glad that I follow all. Forgiveness is so important.. if not for any other reason for our own-sake.. Unforgivable makes me restless and sleepless. Thanks for sharing. Have a blessed day!

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Andromida - You are so right. If only they would change.

      Thanks for stopping.

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      syras mamun 

      6 years ago

      At times I really feel that some people make life complicated by holding on to their aged old belief system which is even not theirs.Another great hub about life.Thanks.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Vocal Coach

      Thanks for your kind comments, Audrey. I am glad you enjoyed reading it. You are such a ray of sunshine.

      I appreciate you.

      Best Wishes. :-)

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      Audrey Hunt 

      6 years ago from Idyllwild Ca.

      Love this hub! "So many people spend their health gaining wealth and then have to spend their wealth to regain their health." Isn't this the truth? You've captured the most important ways to stop complicating life and I don't know about other people, but I can't hear this enough.

      Surrounding ourselves with positive, happy and supportive people is so important.I love the photo of letting go of those who let you down. A truly key ingredient for happiness.

      You, dear one, are all things good and so is this hub which is why my vote is up and across (except for funny.)

      You're the very best!

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Ruchira - Thanks so much. Best Wishes.:-)

      @Paulgc - Hi Paul, that's cool. You don't want grey hair at such a young age. lol. Thanks for stopping. :-)

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      6 years ago

      Wise words indeed...will defo be trying number 2, i am a bit of a worrier so if i can worry less that will definitely help.

      Voted up and beautiful.

    • Ruchira profile image


      6 years ago from United States

      Good mantras of life, Elena.

      loved them...thanks!

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      Hi 2Patricias

      So true. Your comment is interesting. These things do take discipline. I mean, it's not every time that I can turn my back on a big slice of chocolate cake. (Fitness).

      Lovely to see you again. :-)

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      6 years ago from Sussex by the Sea

      All good advice - but not always easy to remember. When I read 'stop procrastinating' I thought 'yes, I should be downstairs getting the dinner ready.'. Sometimes it is easier to do something pleasant. The trouble is, it just makes the difficult thing even more difficult.

      Thanks for a thought provoking hub.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @ImKarn23 - Hi ImKarn. Lovely to see you and thanks for stopping. If I can spot it when I visit your Hubs, I would love to include the link on this Hub.

      Take Care, Sweet Lady.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Anglnwu - Hi Angeline - Oh... these are things that people taught me and I still have so much to learn. I just wish people had shared some of these points with me, when I was younger....hence me passing it on.


    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Acaetnna - Hi, aawh.. thanks for your kind words. I'm glad you stopped by. Hope you're enjoying the lovely Spring weather. :-)

      @AlwaysExploring - Cheers Ruby. Wonderful advice about unhappy events only bringing out more negative emotions. Take Care. :-)

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @FGual Thanks. I enjoyed reading your comments and Richard Branson is one of my favourite people. Life's to short for holding grudges. Best Wishes.

      @FlashMakeit - Thanks. It's lovely to see you again.

      @Sam Muhammed - Beautiful Comments, Sam. It's hard letting go, but there is a great reward. Cheers.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Matt6V33 (Taking my hat off to you too). Thanks for stopping. Good to see you.

      @GoodLady - Thanks. I'm glad you enjoyed it and enjoy the rest of the day/week.

      @Raakachi - Thanks so much. Best Wishes.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Wrath Warbone - Thanks. I'm glad you like the quotes. Hope to catch up with on Triond. :-)

      @Channell Childs - Thanks. Glad you stopped by. Wishing you many Blessings too. :-)

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Cardisa... In response to your question. It was obvious to me, that he was being insincere and wanted "a bit on the side." You are either married or not. Anyway, I kept my distance. Thanks for stopping.

      @HikeGuy Thanks Hikeguy, I'm glad you found it interesting and liked the quote. Cheers.

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      Karen Silverman 

      6 years ago

      You certainly chose 8 great ones to highlight here, lady! People are mostly afraid to make the tough decisions - which would only enhance their existence! You know i don't stick my hubs where they don't belong, but, i did write a poem yesterday that is exactly on topic with your 'lose the negative people' point! I won't go so far as to name it...LOL Love reading you..wish you posted more!

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      6 years ago

      I can always count on you to show us the way to live well. Thanks for the wonderful tips--if we can only simplify our life with each of your suggestion, we'll all be happier. Awesome.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      6 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Your advice is great. Life is too short to not forgive and remembering unhappy events will lead to unhappiness..

    • acaetnna profile image


      6 years ago from Guildford

      Wow brilliant, I love your advice. You have the absolute knack of knowing your audience and what they want to read! Great work.

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      Sam Muhammed 

      6 years ago

      wonderful Hub. the best thing is about letting go of the Past , its Hard to do so , but managing it will help a lot in gett'n on , great Hub :)

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      6 years ago from usa

      Great tips and some pleasant information to keep in my mind.

    • FGual profile image


      6 years ago from USA

      Hello LadyE, great advice that we should all follow. Forgiving is the most difficult, and holding grudges so unhealthy. I think it was Sir Richard Branson that said: Fun is fundamental!

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      6 years ago from Madurai / Tamilnadu / India

      very nice, good tips to follow. voted useful.

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      Penelope Hart 

      6 years ago from Rome, Italy

      Thanks! What a great way to start my day. Lovely advice.

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      6 years ago from Bangkok, Thailand


    • ChanellChilds profile image


      6 years ago

      Hi Lady_E, Thank you, thank you, thank you. This is everything that we all need. Wishing you many blessings.

      Peace and love

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      Terry Chestnutt 

      6 years ago from Cleveland, Ohio

      Great use of quotes and over all very wise ideas. Thanks.

    • HikeGuy profile image


      6 years ago from Northern California Coast

      Wonderful reminders. Thanks for adding a positive focus here. I like Hill's quote. There's a lot of power in action.

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      Carolee Samuda 

      6 years ago from Jamaica

      I was going to skip this one and then changed my mind and Iam so happy I read it because I agree with everything you said. I chuckled while reading some of them. What did that guy mean by "it depends" when you asked if he was married?

      All of the things you mentioned are apt to make one very unhappy. Well done.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @infoforum - Thanks for stopping. About not being able to practice it all...That's true - it can be challenging and takes strength of Character.

      I appreciate you stopping by. Take care. :-)

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @ADayInMyLife - I like what you shared. Great attitude. There are so many more we can add to this Hub.

      Thanks so much for stopping. Cheers.

      @Robie - It certainly would and also better for us as individuals. I wish I knew a few of these tips years ago... Thanks for your kind comments.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Caroline Thanks for sharing those practical comments. It's sad when you are stuck. Some people lose years, just because they are stuck. Best Wishes to you.

      @ytsenoh Thanks. I'm glad you found it useful. Take care.

    • Lady_E profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from London, UK

      @Susan - It's hard to forgive, pain that hurts the heart is deeper than physical pain. Thanks for sharing your story and I'm glad you feel better for it.

      @Anamika - Cheers Anamika, I appreciate you sharing it.

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      Robie Benve 

      6 years ago from Ohio

      With you 100%! The world would be a much better place if every person followed at least half of these suggestions! :)

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      Amanda S 

      6 years ago from CA

      Good suggestions. My #1 rule is to quickly address issues with the person involved, and in a non-confrontational manner. Don't mull over it and don't talk about it behind the person's back.

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      6 years ago from Louisiana, Idaho, Kauai, Nebraska, South Dakota, Missouri

      Concise, to the point, and perfect advice. Thumbs up and thank you for reinforcing the value of positive.

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      6 years ago from Universe

      It was definitely a great hub but I must say sometimes, we are not able to practice the things in real life. Great advice anyway.



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      Caroline Marie 

      6 years ago

      Great advice Lady E! I completely agree with all of it especially the part with negative people and holding onto bad relationships and friendships with people. They can stress you out and leave you feeling stuck in your life. You are much happier without anyone dragging you down. Voted up!

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      Anamika S Jain 

      6 years ago from Mumbai - Maharashtra, India

      Excellent Tips Lady_E. Voted up and liked on Facebook.

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      Susan Zutautas 

      6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Great advice! I am a worrier and need to work on that one. Forgiveness is so true. Once you are able to forgive someone that has done you wrong you do feel so much better. I know because it took me many years to forgive someone in my life.

      Excellent hub!


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