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A Little Boy and a Broken Heart
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The Boy And the Broken Heart
The man was just getting some bottled water to make tea on a cool May day. He got down his favorite old instant coffee jar. The one he had used to make tea for his boy's mother when she was pregnant with the boy. Just a reused coffee jar. For just a second he held it and had a flash back memory of the herbal teas he had concocted in it. The man was in fact an herbal tea freak and had nursed many back to health by using that jar and making choices from Artichoke to Chamomile to Dandelion to Licorice and ginger root.
But this time was different it was a tea for his elder daughter, to cure a digestive problem. And there it was to happen. He caught the lip of the jar on the water nozzle and it crashed to the floor and broke. Just a stupid old jar. Why then the tears?
In cleaning up the mess of broken glass the 4 year old was too interested and warned three times to stay away. At this time the boy has never had the joy of stepping on glass barefoot. On the forth try to get close to the glass the dad lectured down that boy and let him have it with a stern voice. The message was loud and clear and necessary for safety.
But now we look and we see the boy crying and very sad that dad is mad.
Clearly now we have two broken vessels and dad is responsible for both. I think it is a given that dad loves. We see that dad was both saddened and scared when he yelled at the boy. But probably we see that when dad broke the jar he was in the past and the future. When dad broke the boys' heart he was still anticipating the future (stepping on glass) and staying in the past (sad about the jar).
Thank goodness time passes and thank goodness we can heal broken hearts. We cannot always mend a broken old jar, but we can hug and tell that small boy -- "sorry dad was mad and sad and scared". End of story.