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A Simple Act of Kindness Challenge: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on October 6, 2014

A Way of Life

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.

Dalai Lama

He was the meanest man I have ever met, and I met him early on in my life. Five years old, the newest member of the 18th and Monroe Neighborhood in Tacoma, Washington, 1953, my new world and I was excited. Within days of moving into our post-war brick two-story, I discovered a wonderland inhabited by boys and girls of my approximate age. It was the home I would live in for twenty years. It was the neighborhood I would come of age in, and it was where I met Mr. Streitz.

Even his name sounded mean, and he was the personification of the sound, a grumpy old bastard who simply did not like children and made his feelings known every chance he got….and we gave him many chances.

For sixteen years I never heard a pleasant word leak from his vile lips. For sixteen years I saw sneers, muted cuss words and looks of disgust and hatred emanating from across the street whenever I would go outside to play.

I will never know why he disliked me or my family so much, nor will I ever know why, two weeks after my father died, that Mr. Streitz walked across the street, shook my hand and told me how sorry he was that my dad had died.

How do you explain it? How do you make sense of a man who literally went out of his way to intentionally be mean for sixteen years and then suddenly showed an act of kindness that could confound the brightest of psychologists?

I do not have a Phd after my name. Hell, I don’t have any letters after my name that prove my intelligence and accomplishments, but I do believe I know what happened that day in January, 1969.

I believe for one five minute period, Mr. Streitz exhibited the goodness that is in every human being, and that is a lesson I will never forget.

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Which Raises a Question, Does It Not?

And the question is this: if goodness is in every human being, then why do so many humans fail to show that goodness?

Well, how much time to do you have for an answer? They were dropped on their heads as children. They were abused. They were mistreated. Life has dealt them some lemons. Life is unfair. Only the strongest and meanest survive. Take from others before they take from you. Beat them down so they can’t beat you. Don’t show weakness, and feelings of kindness are definitely weakness. What’s in it for me?

I guaran-damn-tee I could ask fifty unkind people why they act in an unkind manner and they would all have a reason and excuse for their behavior…..or…..

They would deny being unkind and say that my perception is all screwed up, and they would list all of the kind things they have done in their lifetime, never once questioning why a stranger would decide, just from observing them, that they were unkind.

I’ll let you, the reader, be the judge. Do you see unkindness as you go about your daily lives? Do you know any unkind people?

That’s what I thought.

Allow me to lay a truth on you, one that is difficult to deny: being unkind is a choice!

And the reverse is also true: being kind is a choice.

Anyone feel like arguing those two truths?

Before some intellectual points out to me, in the comment section, that there are those born who have a psychological disorder that pre-determines them to act in an unkind fashion, I will say fine, I can accept that qualification, but we are talking about a very, very small percentage of the people on this planet.

By and large, one’s actions towards other people are a matter of choice. I get up in the morning, have my breakfast, chat with Bev, say goodbye as she heads off to work, and from that moment on, any interaction I have with others and my positive or negative response to that interaction, is my choice. I can choose to be rude. I can choose to be friendly. I can choose to be helpful, blistering, spiteful, encouraging or compassionate.

So we are left with these truths: goodness is in 99.9% of all people, and 99.9% of all people can choose whether they act kindly or act unkindly.

Are you with me so far?

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Now What You Ask?

In a perfect word, my article would be read by millions, and those millions would instantly begin acting in a kinder way towards their fellow man.

Scratch that because it isn’t going to happen.

Okay then, let’s shoot for an imperfect world. In an imperfect world my article will be read by a couple hundred people, and those couple hundred will take up my challenge and spread a little kindness during their busy day.

And what is the challenge?

I want each of you reading this article to take one minute from your day and write a note of kindness to another person. If you are a writer on HubPages then I want you to pick another writer, go to their HubPages site, select fan mail, and send them a note of encouragement. If you do not write for HubPages, I want you to take a minute and send an email to someone with a similar note of encouragement.

One minute! There are 1440 minutes in a day, and I’m guessing each of you reading this can spare one of those minutes to spread kindness in the world. That will still leave you with 1439 minutes with which you can yell at the dog, watch Honey Boo Boo, sip your mocha at Starbucks or fold the laundry. All I’m asking for is one minute.

And who knows? Maybe those people who receive that act of kindness from you will then, in turn, do a similar act of kindness, so that one day in August, in the year 2013, hundreds of random acts of kindness will have been done, and for one moment the world was a better place.

Can you commit to one minute?

So Join Me Now

This article is finished. It is now time to act. Leave a comment if you feel like it, then go write your kindness note to someone you know.

I appreciate you taking the time to do this. If you want, after writing your act of kindness, then join us on Humanity One World. The website is available to the right of this section. There you will find other like-minded folks who believe that we can change this world one person at a time.

We would love to have you with us, but only if you can commit to being kind.

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      oliversmum, thank you so much! I just think it is so important to start an epidemic of kindness....I don't know how much difference it will make, but I know it can't hurt. :)

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      oliversmum 4 years ago from australia

      billybuc Hi. A wonderful thought provoking and interesting hub. Thoroughly enjoyed reading it.

      I find it hard to get my head around why some folks live their lives being nasty and horrible to others. It does take more energy to be that way, than to be kind and caring, and the excuses that they make don,t fly with me either.

      Thank you. Thumbs up. Your writings are inspirational . :) :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Without a doubt, Dianna, kindness is needed....well done my friend and thank you!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      One act of kindness can change someone's whole life. I am trying to stay focused on this each day as I teach students the fundamentals in college. They have interesting backgrounds and some days they bring it with them to class. Kindness is needed in most cases.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, for sure, a friend for life, and I am very, very gifted. Thank you my friend. Sending you warm thoughts from across the Atlantic.

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      Ann Carr 4 years ago from SW England

      Thank you. They make me feel young though!

      Also, I'm in wonderfully sunny France again, all the better for knowing that it's raining at home - how lucky is that?!

      A friend for life is a gift indeed. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, congratulations on that new grandchild. That is incredible news. You, a grandmother? That can't be right, can it, for someone so young? :)

      Seriously my dear, thank you for your kind words. It has always been my goal to inspire and lift up other writers and just other people through my words, and to have you write that is a wonderful gift to me.

      Have a great weekend in rainy old England and know that you have a friend for life in the Pacific Northwest of the U.S. of A. :)

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      Ann Carr 4 years ago from SW England

      Up, interesting, awesome and shared. You know what, billy?, every time I feel a bit down or I lack inspiration, I come to your site and read a hub. I always, without fail, feel better for doing so. This is a great idea; I try to give encouragement to other and new hubbers anyway but I'll be off to do just that to another hubber now. I've just found out (in the last half hour) that I'm going to a grandmother for the 4th time, so I'm on top of the world and I'd like as many people as possible to feel as good as I do right now. The very best of weekends to you and Bev; I'm eternally grateful to you for your inspiration, your friendship, your common sense which oozes from every page and for your kindness. Ann

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mama, thank you so much. I've dedicated my life to helping others; in the process, I get more good feelings than I could ever imagine.

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      Karen Szklany Gault 4 years ago from New England

      Bill ~ The world needs you~ People like you, who work so hard to keep spreading positive energy in the world, will contribute to the healing energy far and wide...the healing energy that our world needs! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nicely stated vkwok.

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      Victor W. Kwok 4 years ago from Hawaii

      Kindness is so easy to give, it shouldn't be rare.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I don't know about them, Deb, but I know all too well my mortality. That perspective brings about a brand new appreciation for life. :) Thanks my friend.

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      This sounds like the story of Mr. Scrooge and Pip by Dickens. I believe for a brief moment the man realized his mortality.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Leslie, if I asked others to do more than one I would be pushing my luck. LOL I figured even the most hardened of souls could find time to do one.

      Selfish...I think not. You care too damn much to be selfish.

      love you

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lady, I know exactly what you are saying....I try not to forget but it does happen occasionally. Thank you!

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      you are such an inspiration Bill..

      i have one question - why only ONE note?

      i have probably written at least ten so far, and - with each one i write - I feel better..

      its purely selfish, as you know - giving IS getting!

      and, i'm a selfish bitch! lol

      love you, my selfish friend

      sharing

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      Deonne Anderson 4 years ago from Florence, SC

      Thanks for the reminder. I make it a habit to do or say something nice and kind to some one each and everyday, but, sometimes I forget.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, I don't' believe I've ever known anyone who could make that claim....what a wonderful role model, and her daughter learned well.

      Thank you my dear!

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pickles, I have no doubt this comes naturally for you. Thank you!

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      As you know from reading my hubs, that I have written on this very thing, simple acts of kindness, more than just a few times, and I had the most wonderful person from whom to learn such and that is (as I have stated many times here on HP) my sweetest mother. She lived to be 84 and went on to her true home this past Christmas. In my entire life, I never, I mean never, heard her speak a negative word towards any person her whole life! Wow, I do not believe there are many who can say such!

      Blessings and peace, Faith Reaper

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      picklesandrufus 4 years ago

      I took the good advice and will be especially kind to others. Like Ellen says everyday before ending her show....Be kind to one another. Great hub Billybuc!!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL....Gail, I don't think it will take a lot of effort on your part. :) Thank you!

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      Gail Meyers 4 years ago from United States

      Okay, I guess I'll be nice if I HAVE to...haha. Good hub and nice reminder. Thanks!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      rdsparrowriter, thank you very much, and I appreciate you visiting me.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Graham, isn't that a remarkable story? I love those memories that teach us so much. Thank you for sharing your story.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alicia, I'm sure they will appreciate it. Thank you so much.

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      rdsparrowriter 4 years ago

      Another awesome hub bill :) You surely practice them not just in words :) Take care always and may God bless you!

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      Graham Lee 4 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Bill. I am with you all the way. I have already sent a message of help to a young man I know to be in dire straits. When I was a boy we had an old man next door, he was reclusive but not unkind. One day he knocked on our door asked for me and gave me a Banjo, completely out of the blue. His name was Joe Wade and I have never forgotten his unexpected act of kindness.

      Graham.

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      Linda Crampton 4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I'm reading this hub very late at night, but there's still time for me to write a note to someone that I know. Thanks for the challenge, Bill.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Maria, that's the nicest thing you could say to me. Thank you my dear.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Maria Magdalena Ruiz O'Farrill 4 years ago from Borikén the great land of the valiant and noble Lord

      Your challenges keep us with love awareness. Very nice, I felt your enthusiasm through your words. Your kindness is contagious.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael my friend, I thank you for such a great comment.

      I love your reason for doing good....because it makes you happy! Totally selfless in my opinion and the best possible reason to live a life of goodness.

      Blessings to you always my Slovak friend.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I am honored that you would join us and humbled by your kind words. Consider this my email of the day and I am very appreciative.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, you and I are retro and proud of it. Now if we could only convince about 200 million other Americans to follow our lead. :)

      Thanks buddy! I was given a modest gift and I plan on using it to awake whatever masses will read my stuff.

      Aloha my friend

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nell, that story is priceless. You won the young lady's heart. LOL As for being Prime Minister.....I kind of like my lifestyle now, and I don't think an honest man would qualify for the job. :) Thank you Nell!

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      Michael-Milec 4 years ago

      Good evening Bill.

      Admirable,a noble concept easy applicable. " Kindness " seized my heart, touching my innermost treasure being with me since- as I remember a young boy Mkchael. Couldn't help, but to relate to an ancient " story" (perhaps my ethnic backgrounad [?] ),- where kindnes has been urged by one telling " nice" people to do to the others as they would like the others do to them; then " they " nailed Him to the cr... .

      Our grand parents and our parents raised us by an example to this principle living it... Now, what has happened whent the " nailed one" came back leaving such impressive movement , he started wet on successfully until opposite to the kindness took advantage over " nice " and noble, now recognizable as evil vs. good. OK , choicess are being made. . .

      My inherent habbit to do kindness never ceased, inspite enduring much suffering different kind, because I have learned to believe " storing up my treasures" in better lasting place ( what can you do to the Slovak background ?!) . Not being discouraged - not after such long experience, kindness in words and deeds is my continual habbit, might be for a selfish purpose ( ego excluded ) its just choice doing good , making myself happy ...

      Thank you a billybuc for this challenging encouragement.

      Voted up,useful , awesome and interesting .

      Be blessed, safe and prosperous .

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I'm in ' Hook line and sinker ' An email is on the way as soon as i tell you that i like what you do. I joined your site on World Press. Great hub...

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      I commit, Bill!

      Hey, buddy, just in case I never told you this before, I really like your homespun style. You re-introduce good old-fashioned values from the days when the biggest transition in town was the sound of the familiar musical lead-in as the NBC peacock proudly fanned his colorful tail. America could use a LOT of retro at this time in her relatively young history. 1 minute could very well make a HUGE difference. So, yes, by all means, count me in.

      I commit, Bill!

      Aloha, my friend!

      ~Joe

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      I wish you were our prime minister Billy, my country would be an awesome place! I remember one girl who lived near me, thankfully she has moved but she was a nightmare! I know she was on drugs etc, but her hatefulness was so bad it was horrible. Funnily enough the only person she was wary of was me as I was the only one who stood up to her. then something funny happened, for some reason she thought someone else was causing me trouble and she said:

      If you need any help with them just yell for me!

      not sure to this day if she was being nice or just scared of me!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, Bev and I make it a point to smile at people when we are out in public, and we say hello to everyone we pass...and by and large the responses are almost all positive. People want to feel better about life...but I think they are waiting for someone else to help them. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL....that was good, Paula...not second but turd! Okay, enough of the grade school humor (which we seem to excel at).

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Well! Fine! All this time I believed I was your FIRST!....Now, you tell me, I'm not even your 2nd....but your TURD! I'm crushed.......or is that "flushed?"......Ok..all done. The end. Get back to SERIOUS, William!

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      drbj and sherry 4 years ago from south Florida

      Pay it forward is a stellar idea, Bill, and I thank you for reminding us. I try to do something that may be perceived as kind to or for someone else every day. Not because I have to but because I want to. Sometimes it may be as tiny an action as a smile or a 'How are you today?' It makes me feel better and based on the actions of the recipients, I believe it produces the same effect for them.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I do indeed, Dora, and I'm calling on myself to do the same. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, I will never understand people like that, but really I don't have to. All I have to do is make sure I'm living by my simple creed of love thy neighbor. :) Thanks buddy and I hope your week is beneficial and enjoyable.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, it's good to see you roflmao again. I've missed you and I promise never to shit you....the old joke...because you are my favorite turd. LOL

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      :)

      Thank you Bill

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Bill, you keep on calling us to grow into the wonderful beings we are intended to be. With you!

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      Bill De Giulio 4 years ago from Massachusetts

      Count me in Bill. This was the perfect message for me to read after working all day with some pretty rude folks. Don't get me wrong, I work with many wonderful people but as you said, some people just choose to be unkind. Have a wonderful week.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Awwww shucks, Bro.....I would never shit you either! Now, THAT is mutual kindness!......HAHAHA---HOHOHOHO...roflmao. btw, Thanks!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Aww, Mary, you already know all this stuff. :) No need for you to read this, but thank you anyway.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Paula, I shit you not, that is as beautiful a comment as I have read in a long time. That was poetic, Sis, and worthy of its own hub. I hope you write it one day because this little tidbit was a standing ovation on its own.

      Thank you Sis! I have missed you, but you have not been far from me at any time. as you said...empathy and compassion, and experiencing the sameness. Bonds that are built for a lifetime.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dahlia, I doubt this is much of a challenge for you. I suspect you are kind by your nature. :)

      Hugs and blessings coming your way...and thanks!

      bill

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Random acts of kindness should be on everyone's agenda every day. Holding the door open, complimenting a hair style, anything that makes someone feel a little better and appreciate that you are there! Most of all a smile and a nod to a complete stranger may be just what they need. It is easier to smile than frown and I believe it is easier to be kind than not.

      Spread the word? Certainly. Most times I already do.

      Voted up, useful, and awesome.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      What we carry within, is all of anything, we have to share. This is an indisputable fact, our dear, Mr. Bill. It follows then, that only when we allow kindness into our life, learn to love & forgive ourselves, can these things flow forth to others. The great empathy and compassion we have for our fellow man, awakens only when we come to terms with our "sameness." When we can instantly SEE a familiar pain, in the eyes of a stranger.....for we have known such pain. When we fully understand the needs and struggles, the fear and confusion, all around us, because we have been there, many a time. For those of us who know what "kindness," is......the healing power it holds and the miracles it creates.....it is unthinkable to turn away......mind-boggling, that some choose to withhold it's magic.

      These truths have come alive and flourished within men and women like you, who believe in the goodness of human nature and trust in the evolution of our souls. ...and those who fail to evolve, need only to experience kindness....that shines a light, so they might follow.

      BRAVO! Your words are a powerful and generous gift, much appreciated by your readers.

      It is true that a mere minute will suffice......for from there, it can grow to "one minute at a TIME."...........UP++++

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      livingsta 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      Wonderful hub Bill. That one act of kindness can bring about a huge difference in someone's day or even life. Thank you for leaving us with this challenge. Sending you smiles and a hug :-)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jackie, I obviously agree with you...there are no excuses at all, and I refuse to accept any. I will not tolerate meanness or rudeness in any way, shape or form. :)

      Thank you my dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Marlene, thanks for taking part in our one day experiment. Who knows? Maybe this will become a common thing for some people. :) Wouldn't that be cool?

      Thank you my friend.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Women really have the excuses to ----- and I don't buy any of them, since I have been female my whole life and have never been mean, only if a ----- never lets up then I have been know to speak my mind. There is never an excuse to be mean, never. Great write! ^

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      Marlene Bertrand 4 years ago from Northern California, USA

      I completely agree with you. Kindness is in all of us and it is always a choice of whether we are going to be mean and nasty or gentle and kind. I like the challenge. I'm going to go leave some fan mail now. Enjoy your day!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Bobbi, I'll hang with you any old day and twice on Sunday. :) I love positive people. I love the energy they create, and I love the feeling that anything is possible when you are around them.

      I greatly appreciate you my friend.

      bill

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      PurvisBobbi44 4 years ago from Florida

      Hi Bill,

      I am one of those people who smiles a lot at everyone, and I love all the sweet smiles and conversations from people who returns my smile.

      I think a smile is worth more than gold or silver---because it can warm the coldest heart.

      Even the meanest human loves someone and maybe they are mean because they no longer have that love with them. Who knows---but I do not judge and I smile at the unfriendly ones who do not return it---that would be their problem. Then I say to myself this person needs an Angel to watch out for them.

      Your friend,

      Bobbi Purvis

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lea, I love it! I will definitely check out that book and thank you for mentioning it, and for giving such wonderful examples of what can happen if we just choose to be kind. I consider kindness to be a positive epidemic for which there is no cure....:)

      Thank you kind lady; you are a living example of this hub.

      love,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, you raise an interesting question....are some people born happy? I wonder that myself....and I don't have an answer...but I do know that we can choose to be happy, and today I choose to do exactly that. :) Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      From the heart, Eddy. From the heart. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michele, you said it perfectly. One simple act of kindness...one minute...spread and pay it forward...a tidal wave of kindness happening across the world. I believe, Michele, and I know you do too.

      Thank you kind lady.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Manatita, the act of giving, for some, is a learned behavior that needs constant practice....and for some it just comes naturally. Here is hoping that for one day, today, we will all practice it.

      Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzie, I knew I could count on you....the world needs more people like you, Irish! Please never change that inside of you which is so important.

      Hubs coming your way

      bill

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      Sparklea 4 years ago from Upstate New York

      Wonderful, moving hub, and I watched the whole video too! I am totally amazed at that neighbor of yours who shook your hand when your dad died. A tremendous example. I am so sorry your family had to tolerate that for such a long time.

      To me, unkindness and rudeness go hand in hand. I am amazed at how people treat one another...especially in families.

      I will probably get criticism for saying this, but, as I see it, no matter what a person has been through THERE IS NO EXCUSE TO BE NASTY TO OTHERS AND TAKE IT OUT ON OTHER PEOPLE. NO EXCUSE.

      Who of us have not suffered? When my sister attended a support group years ago after the death of her husband, the first thing the leader said, before going around the room was, "We are NOT going to play, 'let's top this one'. In other words, everyone has a 'story.' But I have read numerous books where the author has been through hell, but has turned out to be one of the kindest persons on earth. They have written about it, and are giving talks all over the United States to encourage others, INSTEAD of taking their pain out on others by being unkind.

      A good example are the books I have read written by holocaust survivors. If we have clothes on our back, and we are free to take a walk in our neighborhood without worrying about tankers coming down our block and men with guns, shooting people and setting houses on fire, how very, very blessed we are!

      You are 100 percent right by stating, it is CHOICE. You wrote this terrific, informative hub with such genuine passion, and I thank you for keeping so many informed...God bless you REAL GOOD, and I will definitely write notes of kindness and check out H.O.W.

      One more thing: Check out the book "365 Thanks You's" by John Kralik. I read it, and I passed it onto my sister...She is writing a thank you note a day, and I can't even tell you the miracles that have occurred in her life in the last couple weeks. Why? Because she is writing notes of kindness! Like you just shared!

      PS: All of us have been through 'something.' We can choose to become bitter or better, or stronger or weaker.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      It is always easy to make excuses for bad behavior of others and even give reasons such as bad childhood, no money, problems, disappointments. We all have our issues in life ..and everyday...So, no reason to be unkind or miserable to others. Anyway you brought it all to light as you always do. I think some people are born happy and others miserable. There is no reason to be unkind in my book..

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Thank you so much for your words Billy thy men so much and here's to so many more hubs for us both to share on here.

      Eddy,.

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      Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

      Hi Bill,

      There was a movie, a while ago called "Pay It Forward" Where a person would do an act of kindness, then ask the person they helped to do something nice to another person. I don't remember the movie much, but the idea is a good one. Do something good for someone, then if they do something good for someone else, even if it just makes them feel better for that day, it is a very good thing.

      There are a lot of good things you can do.

      Like help a neighbor who is elderly clean their house once a week, or invite a new neighbor to dinner, help them know their new neighbors.

      Compliment someone's hairstyle.

      There is so much we can do, that doesn't cost money, I am one of the people who does not have a lot of money. But, even when you don't have money, there is so much you can do. You can help other people so much, I can't even list how much you can help other people.

      Love this hub.

      Thank you so much for writing it.

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      manatita44 4 years ago from london

      Chuckle, chuckle. This mean man or rather your flowing words about him, really made me laugh. So many stories, Bill, and you embellish exquisitely.

      Yes. We need to hear those words of wisdom. In my experience the receiving is even better than the giving. So yes, let us all give. Excellent Hub!!

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 4 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Bill,

      I am with you 110% on this, I hate rudeness in any shape and what does it cost to show another kindness, just a good heart in my book. I have been shown much kindness here on HP from fellow writer's and it is so uplifting to receive a considerate word, thought or act of kindness it is important for me to pay it back with sincerity. Off to do my letter, nice one dearest friend!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Randi, thank you for sharing that experience and truly, thank you for your kind words. I don't know if I've found my niche yet or not, but I'm never afraid to change if things aren't working...I'll find it eventually. :)

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      This was an article I can really relate to. I live in a big retirement and snowbird community. It is amazing to see how so many of my neighbors CHOOSE to be angry. They walk around with the proverbial chip on their shoulder. Because most of them are my clients/patients, it is also amazing to see how many of them choose differently when treated with kindness and respect! Off to write my note of encouragement and one small one here!

      Thank you, Bill for choosing thought provoking topics and leading by example. You have done great things here in the hub community. You are a beacon for many of us and I daresay, you have found your niche!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      LOL...Eddy, an apology from you is never needed. You have done so much to bring happiness and sunshine into this crazy world. Just keep doing what you are doing and we will all reap the benefits of having you in our lives.

      love,

      billy

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you DJ....we are made of the same stuff my friend. Now, send that letter of kindness to someone and let's get this ball rolling. :)

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      DJ Anderson 4 years ago

      Another great hub, Bill.

      Don't ever get discouraged, Bill. You are doing great works

      and I truly believe it will have a positive effect on this world.

      Random kindness--I love it!

      Thank you for all that you do,

      DJ.

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      Another great hub Billy and here I think I must apologise. At the beginning I was putting a post together every weekend which named what I had done daily for H.O.W in that week.

      No matter how small lit could even be giving someone a smile as you go shopping or whatever!!

      Once again Billy another true gem from you and one to vote up and share.

      Have a great day.

      Eddy.

      Then Billy my posts fizzled out and I would like to begin again and these past weeks have seen us take Tabs and Meg in and spoiling them rotten with toys etc. Oh how we love them.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well Eric, you certainly met the challenge. LOL I guess you can be grumpy but I suspect you won't be. :)

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, who know if one of your comments is all it takes to keep someone from giving up? That's what keeps me out there giving and sharing....I want people to succeed.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, your statement is an interesting one...self-fulfilled prophecy.....there is some serious food for thought there my wise friend.

      Thanks Lizzy! I so totally enjoy you. :)

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      Eric Dierker 4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      All righty tighty then. I already did it. So now I can be a mean grumpy old man for the rest of the day!!!!

      Or did I miss the point?

      Wonderful awesome and truthful article, thanks again Bill

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      I love it Bill and you are preaching to the choir. I have been leaving kind comments all morning for fellow writer friends and will continue to do so, because that is just me. Don't get me wrong, I am not perfect, but I love brightening others' days and happy to read and comment! Now, I wish you a wonderful Monday again!

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      Liz Davis 4 years ago from Hudson, FL

      People of all ages believe certain things about themselves and act accordingly: A child who believes she's a brat will behave like a brat; a man who believes he's a grumpy old bastard will let everyone know what he is. Not that there is an excuse for that behavior. Your father's death probably gave Mr. Streitz cause for reflection; he saw someone who didn't deserve to die and he may have felt that it should have been him instead--the a-hole whom no one liked. It's just sad how much time we waste fulfilling our own mixed-up prophesies about ourselves.

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I can't think of any better way to begin a week. Thanks dear lady. Now it is time to create. :)

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      I love it, Bill! Now, off I go to spread a little kindness. What a great way to start the week!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Liz, we are alike in that way....I have a zero tolerance policy with rudeness. It has no place in my life, and I, too, will eliminate someone from my life if they practice rudeness. My time on earth is too short and too precious to me, and I won't share it with those who want to suck the joy out of me.

      Thank you my friend. Have a wonderfully kind day.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Kathryn and I added you to the HOW Facebook page.....good luck with that job search and making plans, and I'm glad you are making time for those of us who respect you and enjoy your friendship.

      bill

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      Elizabeth Parker 4 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Bill- great article and wonderfully expressed. I often chide about how I'm annoyed that my family were all raised to be "nice." The reason being is because when I have run-ins with unkind people, I just don't understand it. There's absolutely no reason for it. There is a person I know who has been handed the worst possible of situations, yet never says an unkind word to anyone. So even if life hands you lemons, it's still not a reason to be unkind. One of my biggest pet peeves is encountering those who are rude. I have zero tolerane for it and would rather have no friends than rude friends or acquaintances. I have elminated all of those type from my circle and will always continue to do so. Okay, before I stay on this soap box too long...I will stop ranting! That felt good though. LOL. The good news is that I do commit to being kind every day. If I see someone is trying, I am a big believer in praising them up and down and offering encouragement, both on social media, email and face-to-face. So I guess in a nutshell, my answer is yes, I can commit to a minute. :) Wonderfully done, Bill!!

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I believe that life would be so much better if everyone would be kind. I think that being mean and rude is not only negative to others, it also makes the "giver" feel worse.

      I just joined Facebook, so I am going to join your group!

      This is another day off for me, so I am here early. It's a busy day, searching for a better job, and making plans. But I want to continue to make time for my most treasured friends on HubPages.

      Thanks for sharing this with us. I hope you had a wonderful weekend, and have a great day.

      ~ Kathryn