A Trapped Life with a Gambler
A Gambler's Story
She had no idea how her life would change after marriage.
A compulsive gambler and did not know when to stop his addiction.
I am afraid for her young life with a gambler.
Pathological gambling and pathological lies.
Most people engage in gambling but to throw away money in that way is cold.
The behaviors of these individuals are selfish and thoughtless.
They don't think of the needs of family or their loved ones.
The priority of gambling is their first and foremost. Nothing else matters.
Even if you were sitting next to a gambler they won't see you. A well-focused mind on gambling with a strong addiction sees no one and nothing else around.
The silence is tremendous.
The man re-married after a divorce and the second wife had no clue of the actual reason of the divorce. She realized much too late.
A gambler always wants to recoup their losses.
The chasing game never ends.
The Gambling Disorder is not admitted by the gambler.
He gambled daily and lost daily.
The idea of winning is mainly driven by foolish thoughts.
A kind of behavior whether off-line or on-line is all about future planning for the whole gambling process.
There is so much I did not know about gamblers. I found out after being faced with the problem from someone I once knew from my past experiences.
Friends don't tell on friends but when a friend needs help somebody has to help out.
He is always preoccupied.
The too much time spent on gambling can start from the early hours of the morning right until the end of that day.
What is considered too much time on gambling?
More than four hours daily on gambling can become a bad habit.
Is gambling for excitement or for enjoyment?
The longer one is gambling for shows in that behavior.
The individual fails to stop, the hours and bets are gradually increased.
To stop gambling well, that is not a possibility.
Heavy gambling continues no matter what the situation is at home the gambling just goes on.
It is a relapse state of mind for the gambler.
The moment a heavy gambler withdraws from gambling they become moody and impatient.
The mood swings are agitation, nervousness and the lost feeling shows on their faces.
A sign of aggressiveness is also noticed.
The main problem for a gambler is to get away from reality.
A gambler chooses to gamble heavily to not have a focus on the problem they have with finances or in relationships.
It is a way to get out of the stressful life.
Another key pointer with a heavy gambler is the way of getting back what they had spent and lost on their bets.
The continuous gambling hurts many people around them and their money is their own.
What other people earn also becomes a gambler's money.
Hiding how much you spent on gambling from your partner is called Conceal Involvement.
Personal relationships are often affected by this kind of behavior.
Often he needed others to bail him out of financial issues.
Money is spent on gambling through all expenses.
Money is always enough for gambling, though for everything else needed money is a problem to retrieve, if ever needed.
Other members of the family are blamed for the gambler's wrong acts.
When a gambler loses a bet the aggressive side of that person is shown directly.
The gambler becomes verbally aggressive.
Losing money is not an option but that usually happens.
Gamblers are negative, less confident, nervous and not within their actual lives.
The behavior is intolerable.
She had to leave him and that was the hardest part of their lives.
Getting inside the mind of a gambler can be difficult.
A gambler will not mention there is a problem.
Most people have gambled at some point in their lives but one has got to know when to stop it.
The individual becomes a pathological liar after getting into heavy gambling.
Kleptomania, Pyromania, and Trichotillomania, are all compulsive behaviors including Pathological gambling.
These are types of Disorders that go on and on.
Why do people get the Gambling disorder?
It depends on their mental skills. On different games played.
From card games to bigger gambling games they tend to gain certain intelligence in a specific game when older.
An intense kind of behavior and it is sad to be with such people.
I have noticed behaviors in a gambler such as anxiety, and smoking non-stop. The individual would light up a cigarette every six to seven minutes. They become depressive and nothing else exists in a gambler's life.
It is all about gambling for a gambler.
The gambling is their life and nothing else matters.
A gamblers' trend is to follow other gamblers and win money back.
They live with big fantasies of winning big time.
The only activity is gambling all else is lost in a gambler's life.
The fact about gambling you don’t have to gamble daily to make gambling an addiction in your life.
Gambling is a problem both ways.
A little bit of gambling or a lot of gambling has the same effect on close family or friends.
Whether you can afford it or not gambling is still a problem.
The gambler spends all their time gambling and less and less time with family and friends.
The problem with gamblers they focus on gambling from all angles and neglect others.
Also, the blaming of others for not taking responsibility for their actions. A gambler feels other members of the family should take full responsibility for other actions in the home.
The whole family life disappears and most responsibilities are fallen away from the gambler in the family.
Once a gambler fails to comply with debt nobody should help pay off that debt.
If you help take a gambler out off debt that would be your worst mistake.
Ever watched Owning Mahowny?
The movie is based on a true story and it held my attention from the beginning to the end. The movie brought out the full character of a compulsive gamblers life.
A gambler works for themselves
If married with a family they don't think of others as part of one family, and whatever is spent on gambling is very important.
Gamblers feel guilt and shame and can't get out of their bad behavior.
They are so damaged by all that is going on in their lives that these individuals don't see reality.
When loved ones are affected and when lies are told relationships go down and the loss has a greater impact on those lives.
A family is supposed to depend on each other. When you know you can't depend on your partner it is time to leave.
You marry someone you love in the hope to make a family life work out.
When only one partner is doing all the hard work while the other chooses to constantly get in debt, and holds you back from showing more progress just go on your own.
Sometimes love is not enough and things can go in all directions.
Gamblers don’t see life as the non-gambler and that is a problem one is faced with when with people.
When at the casino are you constantly waiting for all three symbols to pop up on the coin slots?
The famous words'' I will get it in the next row.'' Unfortunately that doesn't get you back the lost money.
It is hard to be with others the focus for non-gamblers and gamblers is very different.
The choices and goals are not the same for both groups of people.
The decision of a gambler is none.
The decisions of a non-gambler are more interesting and there is a sense of direction in their own paths followed.
A person who chooses to live their life depending on that gambling ticket has nothing more than that to live for in their lives.
They tend to be closer with those who have bank balances.
Gambling can start at any age.
When you are much younger to a much older person so don't think it will never happen to you.
''The only sure thing about luck is
that it will change.''
(1836-1902; American author and poet)
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© 2014 Devika Primić