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A Trapped Life with a Gambler

Updated on November 8, 2016
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A Gambler's Story

Gambler's Lives

She had no idea how her life would change after marriage.

A compulsive gambler and did not know when to stop his addiction.

I am afraid for her young life with a gambler.

Pathological gambling and pathological lies.

Most people engage in gambling but to throw away money in that way is cold.

The behaviors of these individuals are selfish and thoughtless.

They don't think of the needs of family or their loved ones.

The priority of gambling is their first and foremost. Nothing else matters.

Even if you were sitting next to a gambler they won't see you. A well-focused mind on gambling with a strong addiction sees no one and nothing else around.

The silence is tremendous.

The man re-married after a divorce and the second wife had no clue of the actual reason of the divorce. She realized much too late.

A gambler always wants to recoup their losses.

The chasing game never ends.

The Gambling Disorder is not admitted by the gambler.

He gambled daily and lost daily.

The idea of winning is mainly driven by foolish thoughts.

A kind of behavior whether off-line or on-line is all about future planning for the whole gambling process.

There is so much I did not know about gamblers. I found out after being faced with the problem from someone I once knew from my past experiences.

Friends don't tell on friends but when a friend needs help somebody has to help out.

He is always preoccupied.

The too much time spent on gambling can start from the early hours of the morning right until the end of that day.

What is considered too much time on gambling?

More than four hours daily on gambling can become a bad habit.

Is gambling for excitement or for enjoyment?

The longer one is gambling for shows in that behavior.

The individual fails to stop, the hours and bets are gradually increased.

To stop gambling well, that is not a possibility.

Heavy gambling continues no matter what the situation is at home the gambling just goes on.

It is a relapse state of mind for the gambler.

The moment a heavy gambler withdraws from gambling they become moody and impatient.

The mood swings are agitation, nervousness and the lost feeling shows on their faces.

A sign of aggressiveness is also noticed.

The main problem for a gambler is to get away from reality.

A gambler chooses to gamble heavily to not have a focus on the problem they have with finances or in relationships.

It is a way to get out of the stressful life.

Another key pointer with a heavy gambler is the way of getting back what they had spent and lost on their bets.

The continuous gambling hurts many people around them and their money is their own.

What other people earn also becomes a gambler's money.

Hiding how much you spent on gambling from your partner is called Conceal Involvement.

Personal relationships are often affected by this kind of behavior.

Often he needed others to bail him out of financial issues.

Money is spent on gambling through all expenses.

Money is always enough for gambling, though for everything else needed money is a problem to retrieve, if ever needed.

Other members of the family are blamed for the gambler's wrong acts.

When a gambler loses a bet the aggressive side of that person is shown directly.

The gambler becomes verbally aggressive.

Losing money is not an option but that usually happens.

Gamblers are negative, less confident, nervous and not within their actual lives.

The behavior is intolerable.

She had to leave him and that was the hardest part of their lives.

Getting inside the mind of a gambler can be difficult.

A gambler will not mention there is a problem.

Most people have gambled at some point in their lives but one has got to know when to stop it.

The individual becomes a pathological liar after getting into heavy gambling.

Kleptomania, Pyromania, and Trichotillomania, are all compulsive behaviors including Pathological gambling.

These are types of Disorders that go on and on.

Why do people get the Gambling disorder?

It depends on their mental skills. On different games played.

From card games to bigger gambling games they tend to gain certain intelligence in a specific game when older.

An intense kind of behavior and it is sad to be with such people.

I have noticed behaviors in a gambler such as anxiety, and smoking non-stop. The individual would light up a cigarette every six to seven minutes. They become depressive and nothing else exists in a gambler's life.

It is all about gambling for a gambler.

The gambling is their life and nothing else matters.

A gamblers' trend is to follow other gamblers and win money back.

They live with big fantasies of winning big time.

The only activity is gambling all else is lost in a gambler's life.

The fact about gambling you don’t have to gamble daily to make gambling an addiction in your life.

Gambling is a problem both ways.

A little bit of gambling or a lot of gambling has the same effect on close family or friends.

Whether you can afford it or not gambling is still a problem.

The gambler spends all their time gambling and less and less time with family and friends.

The problem with gamblers they focus on gambling from all angles and neglect others.

Also, the blaming of others for not taking responsibility for their actions. A gambler feels other members of the family should take full responsibility for other actions in the home.

The whole family life disappears and most responsibilities are fallen away from the gambler in the family.

Once a gambler fails to comply with debt nobody should help pay off that debt.

If you help take a gambler out off debt that would be your worst mistake.

Ever watched Owning Mahowny?

The movie is based on a true story and it held my attention from the beginning to the end. The movie brought out the full character of a compulsive gamblers life.

A gambler works for themselves

If married with a family they don't think of others as part of one family, and whatever is spent on gambling is very important.

Gamblers feel guilt and shame and can't get out of their bad behavior.

They are so damaged by all that is going on in their lives that these individuals don't see reality.

When loved ones are affected and when lies are told relationships go down and the loss has a greater impact on those lives.

A family is supposed to depend on each other. When you know you can't depend on your partner it is time to leave.

You marry someone you love in the hope to make a family life work out.

When only one partner is doing all the hard work while the other chooses to constantly get in debt, and holds you back from showing more progress just go on your own.

Sometimes love is not enough and things can go in all directions.

Gamblers don’t see life as the non-gambler and that is a problem one is faced with when with people.

When at the casino are you constantly waiting for all three symbols to pop up on the coin slots?

The famous words'' I will get it in the next row.'' Unfortunately that doesn't get you back the lost money.

It is hard to be with others the focus for non-gamblers and gamblers is very different.

The choices and goals are not the same for both groups of people.

The decision of a gambler is none.

The decisions of a non-gambler are more interesting and there is a sense of direction in their own paths followed.

A person who chooses to live their life depending on that gambling ticket has nothing more than that to live for in their lives.

They tend to be closer with those who have bank balances.

Gambling can start at any age.

When you are much younger to a much older person so don't think it will never happen to you.

Compulsive Gamblers

''The only sure thing about luck is

that it will change.''

Bret Harte

(1836-1902; American author and poet)

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi peachpurple thank you kindly for sharing your valuable comment always appreciated.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      a gambler is the same as a alcoholic, the leopard spots can never change

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Susan Recipes so kind of you to make the time and comment on my hubs always appreciated.

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      Susan 3 years ago from India

      I know a man who lost everything in gambling. I hope this World becomes a gamble free World.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Mel Carrier thank you and so glad you no longer do that

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      Mel Carriere 3 years ago from San Diego California

      Fortunately I hate casinos, but there was a time in my life where I bet small amounts on sports and I was feeling that it might become an obsession. Thankfully I no longer do that. Great hub!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      rebeccamealey thank you gladly for stopping by hearing your words does make a difference to me.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Nadine interesting experience there for you. Lending money makes bad friends as I have been told since I understood the meaning of life. You were the rescuer. You did the person a favor expecting the money back and only wanted to help and such a person will not give back that money be careful next time. Your hubs are worth reading and you have your own way letting your point heard.Thank you for sharing your story here.

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      Nadine May 3 years ago from Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa

      Thank you for that very interesting article. I know of someone who is a pathological liar and a gambler because I've lend this person money to help him out of a bad situation. He promised to pay me back but every time he tells me that he is coming to our home with the money, he never does. Thank goodness he is not married and I know now that I was playing the rescuer. Today I learned NEVER to lend money unless you can effort to lose it.

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      Rebecca Mealey 3 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Gambling sounds like a terrible behavior disorder. Thanks for an interesting read about it. I'm glad I don't know one!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VioletteRose thank you for sharing your valuable comment.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi D.A.L. an addiction can be so painful to all victims and the problem lies with the addict and won't admit their faults. Thank you very much for all votes have a great weekend.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi tobusiness thank you for stopping by all my best to you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora ''"Even if you were sitting next to a gambler they won't see you." Very true had experienced that and got tired of that behavior. Thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Jodah I finally got the attention of a once heavy gambler it makes me feel good to know you exactly what I mean here. At least you cut down on the problem and know what is more important to you, family life. Thank you for the vote up and for sharing your experience with me very courageous of you to come out with your gambling issues.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi ChitrangadaSharan thank you for the vote up and for the constant support.

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      VioletteRose 3 years ago from Chicago

      Great hub. I really do hope those who have the gambling addiction get to read this. It is really a sad situation for those who get involved with people who are careless and thoughtless.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      This is a must read for anyone who has started gambling but are not yet to the point of addiction. For I fear anyone who is addicted is beyond taking in the wisdom of your words. Great hub which will attract a diverse range of comments,well done. Voted up,interesting,useful.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Addiction is a terrible thing, Like the drug user need a fix, the gambler need to gamble, not knowing when to quit. Great article, lots of information.

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      Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      "Even if you were sitting next to a gambler they won't see you." That's funny, though it's really not funny. Thanks for exposing so many characteristics of the gambler for our benefit. Thanks for the warnings.

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      John Hansen 3 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Great and important article DDE. I used to be a compulsive gambler with horse racing so I know where you are coming from and everything you say is spot on. I spent hours studying the form guides, times, barrier trials etc etc and for a long time was successful winning more than I was paid from my job. After I was married though I didn't have as much money to risk and couldn't spend as much time studying so lost as much as I won. (No other form of betting interests me) I eventually saw the error of my ways and that I was not spending enough quality time with my family so stopped altogether. Now I have a few bets occasionally...maybe $10 per month just to keep my interest. Voted up.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      I believe Gambling is addictive! Not only does it harm the person involved but the whole lot of people attached to him/ her.

      But with a strong will power and family support, this can also be dealt with.

      Great thought provoking hub. Voted up!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Vellur thank you for sharing your thoughts here

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      Nithya Venkat 3 years ago from Dubai

      Gambling is a habit that can destroy a person. With a lot of support and help I guess this addiction can be overcome.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring thank you for stopping by I appreciate all comments.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you for stoping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      FlourishAnyway that is certainly a great answer thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you for stopping by

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      It muct be terrible to be addicted to gambling. I knew of a lady who lost her home to gambling. So sad. You have listed some good points here....

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      jtrader 3 years ago

      Gambling is a sickness. I don't know of many people that manage to stop.

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      An addiction to gambling is very sad. The gambler needs help and so do the people that he or she lives with, as you have described. As usual, you've raised some good points in your hub, Devika,

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      She needs to follow in the footsteps of the first wife.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi annart So nice of you to come by. I so agree with you and ''All these points apply to those who have any addiction and of course they need help.'' It is indeed very sad such individuals. Thank you.

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      All these points apply to those who have any addiction and of course they need help. Living with it must be so difficult and so sad and it takes courage to help the addict fight. Some manage, some don't but help from specialists is the key, I believe.

      Some good points here.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      At some point in the life of a gambler, it is no longer about excitement and only about addiction. A sad life indeed.