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A Visit from Sadness

Updated on February 27, 2012

A Dance of Emotions

Some days without warning Sadness decides to come and visit you. From my perspective she has been making the rounds lately touching so many people I know that are close to my heart. She is a good friend of mine, and I try to reassure the people I know she means no harm. Her visits have purpose with some being unannounced while other times by people’s choice the welcome mat has been left out beckoning her to stop by.

Out of the blue one day you wake up and find Sadness knocking at your door. Even though Perplexity at times pops in at the same moment to say,” hi” challenging your thoughts it is best just to invite Sadness in with Love and Intellect at your side rather than hide behind a closed door. Listening to her tale of woe can be frightfully trying, but it is important to ponder her words around for a while and then gracefully when the time feels right bid her fare well.

One must always be aware that Sadness on her departure will summon Change to come to visit next. It appears that her cycle of touch will not be complete until you have had a face to face with that little power ball packed full of energy that just likes to rock your world!

Most of us through our life have been brought up to fear Sadness by our parents, and society. A crying child who is saddened may be comforted by his mother, or offered a cookie or piece of candy to summon Cheer to come to the aide. Our friends who suffer with Depression where Sadness actually moves in for a lengthy stay become strangers to us that we shudder to touch or get close to. Intellectually we realize just who Sadness is, but deep down inside we treat her like a catchy disease we want no part of so we distant ourselves from our friends in need and tend to hide when we catch a glimpse of her strolling on by.

A close friend of mine has had a lengthy visit from Sadness that has been going on most of her life. It seems in my friends’ case Sadness feels so comfortable she has taken over my friend’s house of emotions and thoughts inviting her best friend Depression to crash the party and join her. Those two have embraced my friend’s heart which has in turn caused my dear friend to shed many tears questioning her existence here in this world with us.

Personally I love my friend to pieces just the way she is, even with Sadness and Depression by her side I find her delightful. My friend as I is unique with many wonderful qualities. Her flower just has a different fragrance as I would expect for we were all created equal yet different with no two of us alike. I believe in my heart that my friend is a rare gem sent from the heavens above as a gift to anyone who intersects with her journey. Her presence provides and avenue for God’s grace to touch us all; opportunities for each of us to dig deep within ourselves to Love with passion of heart welcoming Compassion, and Patience into our lives.

My instinct and love in life whispers to me that it is not my job to change my friend but to instead provide her with the gift of acceptance letting her know with much emotion that she too has a place of honor in this crazy world we dance about in. To help her strengthen the belief within that it is okay to love her just the way she is, perfect in every respect. To reinforce that she is not being “put up with”, but being embraced for we all our different and unique; that is part of the magic in our world.

One never knows when Sadness will come knocking at our door or the profound affect her message could have on any of our lives. She does not discriminate, she adores us all. What we tend to overlook about Sadness is that she rejoices in a job well done when her love has fostered change or growth into our lives. Her goal is not to have us walking around dreading life and who we are, but rather embracing life with the passion of acceptance and love celebrating who we were created to be.

Everything in life was created with purpose, and without Sadness walking around visiting us all, we would never recognize what Happiness and Love of life could be. The fragile balances in life gifted to us all for the taking; opportunities to be either ignored or embraced, the choice always to be ours.



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      Dennis L. Page 5 years ago from New York/Pennsylvania border

      You have written an excellent and well thought out article. I especially embrace your comment regarding the necessity of having sadness in order to be aware of love and happiness. When we see the struggles and upset of others it prompts many of us to offer a hand upward and in doing so we inadvertently raise ourselves up too.

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      Priscill Anne Alvik 5 years ago from Schaumburg, IL

      Thank you Mr. D! Your comments are always welcomed with a hug and thought. I so look up to you and many of your peers for insight into the world of writing. Plus I know first hand what a tender heart your spirit houses, it makes your comments much more personal and touchable! Hugs again!!!

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      Karen Silverman 5 years ago

      O, my friend! I am so happy you are here! You are so wise! "One must always be aware that Sadness on her departure will summon Change to come to visit next." Perfectly stated! Without sadness - how do we cherish joy? People who have not tasted yet of sadness are often the more arrogant, the more brutish, the less compassionate. Not always, but - a dose of sadness is nothing if not humbling! Thanks for this dear! voting and twatting (that's 'girl' for tweeting? you like?..lol)

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      Priscill Anne Alvik 5 years ago from Schaumburg, IL

      I love!!! Validation is a great cheer..thank you! You so understand..you have been visted by Sadness and understand the cycle of change she brings..it is joyful!!

      xoxox me

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      Karen Silverman 5 years ago

      why is sadness a she? hmmmm? interesting thought..perhaps because it is a 'feeling'? What do you think?

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      Priscill Anne Alvik 5 years ago from Schaumburg, IL

      I thought about that when I was writing this piece that began many moons ago. In my heart I perceive Sadness as a person with the capacity of a huge heart...she carries such burdens and lesson plans for us all to master. She reminds me of a mother/teacher figure of sorts. In my mind very female! I perceive Cheer as male and Love of both genders. It would be a terrific questionaire to ciculate examining everyones perspective.

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      Magdelene 5 years ago from Okotoks

      Hello Picadilly,

      I admire you ability to tell this story so well. It tends to make me want to think of sadness more objectively and not let it consume me when those times arrive. This is not to say I will feel less, just that I will remember that the sadness will pass when the time is right. Excellent Hub, voted up!

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      Priscill Anne Alvik 5 years ago from Schaumburg, IL

      Sandness has a sweet side we all tend to ignore because we are so consumed with fear at her arrival! Thank you so much for the compliment!

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