- Mental Health
ABC's of Self-Realization: Satisfying Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is sometimes hard to come by unless we are fortunate to be raised by a family that instilled that attribute into our minds and hearts. Yes, it dwells within us innately, but the nurturing and positive guidance from parents and older siblings definitely encourages it.
When we are blessed with self-confidence from an early age, the words we say are usually more encouraging and positive. Our actions are usually more beneficial, thought out, and conscious. We are more aware of who we are inside - strong, empowered people. We are clearer about what we wish to create for our future. We are more assured that the path we take will lead us to our final goal and purpose.
When we are raised in a dysfunctional family, more often than not, the guidelines and boundaries are blurred as to who we are and what we are meant to achieve in this life. We seem to struggle harder in choosing what is best for us. We usually don’t even know how we feel about most things because as children, we are not often given choices or the right to speak our thoughts or feelings.
It has been noted that many of those who are abused, neglected, or denied the innate right to make choices or express thoughts and feelings as children are those who often take their choices to extremes. They step back and shut down, allowing their circumstances to overwhelm them and swallow them into oblivion. Or they become adamantly indignant, choosing to let the imposed injustices fuel their determination to do whatever it takes to rise above it all. Many times, this strong determination allows us to become the highest version of ourselves that truly does dwell within. As we become more consciously aware adults, we refuse to believe all the negative viewpoints others had of us as we grew up.
Self-confidence, whether reflected back to us from others or found buried beneath all the indignities we have overcome, is the one characteristic that all of us as human beings have the right to experience. We are not any less valuable or important than anyone else just because we come from a dysfunctional background. Each of us is given, innately, the empowerment, wisdom, and courage to make the most fulfilling choices we can for our lives. It is, once again, up to every single person to either be devoured by darkness or be sure and strong and confident in Who We Are and What Purpose we fill in being part of this phantasmagorical journey called “Life”.