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ABC's of Self-Realization: X-Ceeding X-cuses

Updated on August 19, 2011

I am taking creative license here to discuss the ever-present, negative habit of providing excuses for everything we subconsciously choose to not be responsible for in our lives. One very important truth in understanding the reality of excuses is that they are nothing but “reasons with lies inside.” Think about that carefully for a moment.

We have reasons for so many things in our life, yet the reasons we don’t follow through, or misspeak (rather than “lie”), for example, is because we have guilt or shame or embarrassment for not keeping our word. So we do subtle “denial” – which, as I have mentioned before stands for: Don’t Even kNow I Am Lying. We try to con ourselves into believing our excuses are totally valid. Ok. Sometimes, they are. If it was unintentional due to some major event that was unexpected, then, we can renegotiate and make another option (i.e., Plan B), if we need to. It’s when our reasons are due to the lack of our motivation, or the shadow of fear devouring us, (or whatever else it may be) that it is then considered an excuse.

Remember, F-E-A-R is False Expectations Appearing Real – that fear we believe is devouring us is actually just a result of our thoughts about something, not that the “something” is actually and literally fearful. If we would choose to live from the innate empowered part of ourselves, it seems sensible that we would also choose to stay out of denial. We would choose to face our shortcomings and take the necessary steps to rectify our lack of responsibility towards someone else.

Many things seem to change the course of our lives, no doubt about that. Life doesn’t always go as smoothly as we wish it would. Yet, when the unexpected jumps into our vision, we can gather up our courage and our conviction and our innate strength to face the person or people we “let down” and we can let them know that we are sincere in our desire to fix whatever didn’t get done. There is always, always more than one option for every obstacle or difficulty we encounter on our journey. That should garner a huge sigh of relief within our souls. It definitely makes me feel better, I can tell you that for sure!

Please, please know that every difficult situation or obstacle is truly only temporary. The only constant thing in life is change. Therefore, we don’t ever have to stay stuck in our excuses – nothing ever has to be a “reason with a lie inside!”


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      Lene Lynn 

      7 years ago

      Wheel, yep, I can totally understand that. I think I wrote this letter because of people in my life who have made excuses for everything, more often than not. It's funny how we sometimes pick topics to write based on people in our present or past. It's funny, too, how there are a LOT more people out there in the world that are just like them. I can tell just by reading your hubs and comments that you are one who gives 110%...I am like that myself. Thanks for the comments! :) Happy Sunday to you!

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      Dennis Thorgesen 

      7 years ago from Beatrice, Nebraska U.S.

      In my case I have to learn to say no. The normal human body is only capable of so much and mine is far from "normal". I do have people step in when things get to be too much but still have to "let them know" my body is done. I don't make excuses, everyone who expects things from me know I always give 110% until I can no longer give.

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      Lene Lynn 

      7 years ago

      HI Happy! :) Thank you! Yes, it seems like making amends is one of the hardest things humans struggle with. It's very hard for us to admit we were wrong or we failed someone, or failed at something. I am so old now (LOL!) that I have no shame and I always admit when I am wrong. I will go out of my way to fix my mistake or do my best to try to never do it again. Thank you so much for all the positive votes! :) Happy Saturday!

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      Gail Sobotkin 

      7 years ago from South Carolina

      Great hub about an important topic. When we learn to stop making excuses we open up the opportunity to make amends and foster positive change.

      Voted up, useful, beautiful and interesting.


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