SHOULD WE HELP WHEN WE CAN?
I wanted to write a hub about helping one another because I believe it is a crucial factor for humanity. There are many people out there who need some type of help and there are many different circumstanced behind helping someone. There are people out there that feel too proud to ask for help or feel too ashamed to ask for help. There are others that ask for help more then they should. When is the right time to try and help someone? Of course, it is all up to you. The number one rule when it comes to helping someone is being able to help yourself. If you are in the position where you can barely help yourself, you are in no position to offer help. I am not talking about running an errand, baby sitting, or some offering free advice. I am talking about helping someone financially. Whether we like it or not, money supports life and that is just the way it is. I would say most of us at one time or another have had someone ask us for money. They may have wanted it for free or perhaps they may have asked you if you had any work to make the deal even. In this article, I will explain the importance of giving and it is not only giving money. We are also talking about your time, personal belongings, and other types of things.
CAN I BORROW SOME MONEY?
There are many things to factor when someone ask to borrow money. Before it is even considered, you have to make sure that loaning it out won't cause use any financial issue. If you don't have it, you don't have it to loan. This is important to remember when close family members ask you for money or close friends. You want to also pay close attention to patterns of them asking. I am not telling you to do it or not, that is your decision. But when you are on a fixed income, this could be between eating or starving. If you are financially well off, then you don't have to worry about that. It translate with the basic rule of giving, which is if you don't have it to give, don't do it.
You want to trust the person you are loaning money, if you are expecting it back. These are just simple rules when it comes to loaning out money. It all goes back to the basics whether or not you are in the position to give. If you are, of course, it is your full decision. But, we may be talking about a friend, the lawn boy, or the neighbor. Some people can be very tricky and they may try to run a scheme on you. You have to watch out for strangers that come to the door and try to sell you something, especially if they ask for money in advance. Don't be blind to the situation or be blinded by their kindness. Always make sure you trust who you are borrowing money.
Do you consider yourself a person that helps if they can?
HELPING THE NEEDY
I believe that this is the one that truly counts, especially for those of us that have been on this other side. Never in my life did I think I would ever be homeless. Many people interpret that if you are homeless, you are either on drugs, dope, or your stealing or drinking. Trust me, that is not the only case. I lost my job and when I moved back to Arizona, no one would help me get to work. I don't want to go into that right now, but you can bet your bottom dollar that one day you will need help, whatever it may be.
They are many people that are out there that need are help. The best place to start is your local community, where you live. Think of a nice thing you can do for someone less fortunate and go out there and do it. Don't hesitate or second guess your heart. When people are on the other side, they will appreciate and value your assistance more then someone that hasn't been in a hard position. Our problem is we don't know how good we have it and when we do, we kind of get this selfish attitude. We say things like "nobody helped me" or "if I can get a job they can". That may be true, but what does the Bible tell us friends? We leave the judging to God.
If your not sure what to do, I ask you to take a closer look at your community. We all have people that need our help in our community. I am not saying give them money or buy their beer. Just have a simple conversation. Get to know them. If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it. But give it a chance. It is what God wants us to do. I am no Christian and I don't oretend to be, but I know God gave me a big heart, big enough to care about everyone more then myself. I have food, shelter, and my family. I have all I need. I am not even working right now except online. 20 cents a day if I am lucky. If you can make a difference, make it. You will feel good about what you did and in return, you will be rewarded.
When I was working at the store, a man came up to me and asked me for 2 dollars. I didn't give it to him. He looked homeless and I figured he was a drunk. He smelled. Even though I was in those same boots, I didn't give it to him. As soon as I turned away, my heart and soul began to call. I had forgot what it was like. 3 years ago, I was homeless. How could I have already forgot? I made it about 25 yards and I turned around in tears. Literally. I went up to him and said I am sorry for being so rude. I got into my wallet and gave him every dollar bill I had, probably 8 dollars. I just began to talk to him. He went into the store and bought a coke and a hunny bun. We talked for about an hour. I told him my story and then he told me his.
He had a great job 2 years ago and he was married. He had him a home, a car, and a great job driving coal trucks. He was in an accident and they said it was his fault. He told me the brakes were bad and he told the boss, but he never had them fixed. They went out one night and he hit a car and they were hurt bad. He lost his job. 8 months later he lost his wife to a surprise heart attack. He didn't even have money for the funeral so he put up his house. He never went back to work. He was depressed and he gave up on life.
His story broke my heart, but it shows that drugs and alcohol isn't everyone's problem. The choice is up to you of course. I wouldn't want you to do anything that would make you unhappy. This story just shows how far a simple conversation goes. Even though I didn't experience what he did, I could relate to him because he was homeless and depressed. I had walked those shoes before. When we are able, at the least try.