ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Accepting Death

Updated on October 2, 2016

I find a lot of people are scared of dying. This is a perfectly natural response to it, however, I find most people are scared for selfish reasons, with myself being included. To be scared of something (anything, not limited to just dying) is something we all face. Usually, this results in one of two outcomes: flight or fight.

Flight: When something scares you, do you run away or hide? Ignore it which frightens you? If so, then you are probably familiar with this response to a scary situation.

Fight: Do you stand your ground? Do you go forth and meet that which scares you in battle? Then you are familiar with the concept of fight.

Now, both of these responses are natural and you do not always respond the same way in every situation. If you do then you are either a coward or hard-headed, both of which are terrible ways of being. No, even the seemingly biggest coward fights his own battles, rather that be going outside or talking to people if you are anti-social. In essence, no one is on one of the two extremes. Most people are in the middle and have trained themselves to be in the middle. They know which battles they feel the can fight and which they can run from. And this is the best way to be. However, what happens when it comes to dying?

Neither one of these responses work for the dying. Let me now preference this, when I say dying I do not mean the person who is fighting for their life due to a disease or a person literally fighting in a war. No, I mean the person who, after everything has failed and it is this person time, is literally dying. What response can a person invoke then? Fight or flight is useless as the same outcome is coming for you regardless of which you choose. The most common response this person has is fear. Fear of the unknown. No matter how much of a brave face someone puts on they will be scared.

What Do You Think!?

Do you agree that most people are in the middle when it come to Flight or Fight?

See results

Here I want to explain the point I made earlier. Everyone is scared of dying for completely selfish reasons. Most will explain they do not want to go because they are not ready or they do not want to leave a burden for those left behind. However, one reason most will not say is because they do not want to leave this place. They do not want the world to keep on turning without them. Knowing such things really makes one feel insignificant. Here, one may rely on their religion. Belief in the afterlife is a saving grace for a lot of people. Some think that when we die then it is over and there is no afterlife. Regardless your view on the matter, you are still being selfish for not wanting to die.

It is here that I bring good news (of sorts). For those that cannot imagine a world without them in it, just remember you don't have to die have that become a possibility. For instance, if I were to suffer from retrograde amnesia then I, for argument sake here, never existed or had a life in this world that I could relay (save for friends and family telling me). I would have no past experiences. I would have no joy or pain to recall. I would have no identity. This is the selfishness I am trying to explain. It isn't something brought about by violence, disease or anything else. It is personal experience that only YOU can experience. To lose your identity is a scary thing and wanting to hold on to it is definitely understandable.

Unfortunately, I have no answers in the article. My goal was only to help those that need it to realize exactly why they maybe so afraid of their own mortality. Religion helps a lot of people with accepting their mortality. Some do not need it and look at it from a humanist position. Either way, death is something that doesn't require acceptance of. I, for one, am selfish and do not think death is something anyone can ever fully accept but only learn to live with the knowledge of knowing it. When we get to the end and if we have time to know it before hand, then I think some can accept it fully and may lose the initial selfness.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)