- Mental Health
Acronyms for Awareness, Part III: Denial
D-E-N-I-A-L stands for Don't Even kNow I Am Lying
This is Part III of my four-part article on Acronyms for Awareness.
Denial was right up there in my “major life awareness” topics. Denial is not a river in Egypt!
When we are in denial, we don’t even realize that we are lying to ourselves, much less the world in general. We don’t realize that we deny our faults, our circumstance, the actions of others, etc. We deny them because we are afraid to take constructive action to make our life better. We are used to being stuck in our “comfortable misery” because for many of us, we grew up that way and that’s “all we know.” Or so we believe. We convince ourselves that there is no other way, no better choice, no happier way of life, no healthier state of mind, no peaceful way to a more contented heart.
The denial is based on our fear, once again. Fear that we may not succeed at making a better life for ourselves. Fear that we may not ever find someone who will truly love and respect us. Fear that if we talk to our children and confront them about any of our concerns, they will rebel and shut down and end up disrespecting us for “assuming” things that aren’t true. Fear that if we aren’t perfect, we will never be a quality individual.
Denial speaks volumes about our illusion of who we “should” be. The ironic thing is that I learned a long time ago to never, ever “should” on anybody. There are no “shoulds!” All people do what they are meant to do in every single moment of their lives, for the purposes that only their spirits can understand. It’s all part of their journey, in their own perfect timing, to become conscious of the awareness they were meant to “remember” in them becoming “the grandest version of the greatest vision they ever held about themselves.” If any of you have read the CONVERSATIONS WITH GOD books by Neale Donald Walsch, that sentence will sound really familiar to you!
It takes much self-reflection, inner work and strong determination to pull ourselves out of the trap of dysfunction.