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Advice for Unlucky People: Maybe You’re Not So Unlucky After All

Updated on March 12, 2012

I strongly believe that some people are “luckier” than others.

I am not one of those people (at least not in the conventional sense).

When I was about 12 years old, my father sat down with me for a talk. He informed me that I was an “unlucky” person (as he was). He warned me, that as an unlucky person, I wouldn’t be able to gamble on things automatically going right for me. He instead informed me, that I would have to work for things, to make them happen. He told me that I had the ability to make things happen – and that I would have to use that ability in my life – and not take anything for granted.

In retrospect, I think that is good advice for anyone, i.e. don’t count on things going right; put effort and work into making things go the way that you want them to.

I have recently shared that story with my oldest child – who is an unlucky person. She is a good, hard-working soul, and I am very proud of her. Yet, things never seem to go her way. If something can go wrong, it often does for her -- just like it does for me.

On the other hand, my middle child is a lucky person. She has far fewer chance-related problems than my older daughter. She often finds that things go her way, even when she makes no effort.

Most of you, can probably relate to this. There are some people that just seem to have bad luck – and others who seem to have good luck. There are some who never win the lottery, and others who win the lottery on their first try.

There are some people whose car doesn’t start in the morning – even with a new battery; and others whose car starts regularly, even though it’s a piece of junk with a 10-year-old battery.

That’s just life. And, life isn’t always fair.

Unlucky people are often very good people (deserving of good luck). Lucky people are often people who aren’t as deserving.

I’ve come to accept that I’m unlucky, as far as fates go. And I believe that this acceptance has made me a better person. It’s instilled in me, the necessity to accept things as they are, to work hard, and to put real effort into things that are important to me. I need to be able to count on my own efforts and abilities, in order to be successful.

And, though unlucky in fate – I am still lucky in life. I am lucky to have my mind and abilities. I am very lucky to have my family and their support.

And I am lucky that my dad shared those words of wisdom with me, more than 40 years ago.

See? I am not so unlucky after all!

PS- isn't it ironic that this hub is my 13 th publication on this site??

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      galleryofgrace 3 years ago from Virginia

      people receive what they expect to receive.

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      ineedtobeanonymoustoday 3 years ago


      I've always had positive thoughts, yet it has not altered severely bad luck.

      I was abused by a step-father

      My own father committed suicide

      Operations in childhood



      Operation as direct result of abuse

      Moved for tertiary ed

      All belongings lost by company

      Hit by car, driver was drunk, no licence

      Spent 3 years learning how to walk again, 2 operations

      Training for career died with accident

      Was assaulted by flatmate in my first week on crutches

      Began retraining after accident

      Post surgery complication after 1 yr

      Another op to fix last op

      Back to physio 1 yr

      Training for 3rd time

      Serious debilitating illness

      Boyfriend emptied my bank account instead of picking up post surgery pain killers. No warning.

      2 operations and 2 years later

      Finally got job, paid off medical debt

      Was in a major flood disaster

      2 days later my hometown was levelled by an earthquake. Couldn't return home.

      Got bullied at work

      Moved, got hit by tornado

      Moved, house burnt down

      Moved, debilitating illness returned

      I have always tried to make the best of things saying, 'We can choose to deal with things well or badly'. I've told myself, 'just stay strong and get through this. Everything will be fine and once through the woods that strength can be used for positive.

      I'm exhausted. I know my attitude had kept me alive with surgeries having good outcomes. I'm trying to keep a good attitude and it's getting harder to do. I need a positive frame of mind to get through this serious illness again. I need to win, to return to full health. I'm scared. I'm scared that I'll fight, I'll win and it won't be good enough. I'll be tested again. And I'm exhausted. It's hard to keep believing that things will get better when they never have before.

      And it angers me to hear people say thst thoughts create bad luck

      It's not true. A child doesn't get abused becsuse they committed thought crimes. They don't lose thrir father to suicide bevause they weren't positive enough...

      People say this to make themselves feel better. It can't happen to you if its all about attitude and you're 'holier than thou'.

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      Helen Murphy Howell 5 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      Interesting hub. I think that like attracts like. If you can keep your thoughts and emotions as positive as possible, then you will attract the same most of the time. We all have low periods in life of course, but keeping positive whenever possible helps you to deal with these times better.

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      galleryofgrace 5 years ago from Virginia

      It's a known fact that each person creates their own good luck or bad luck by their speech and thoughts. Try it sometime. If you leave the house just knowing you're going to have a flat tire or be late. That's exactly what will happen because you created it.

      Create something different- lie to yourself- it works.