- Mental Health
Advice for Unlucky People: Maybe You’re Not so Unlucky After All
I strongly believe that some people are “luckier” than others.
I am not one of those people (at least not in the conventional sense).
When I was about 12 years old, my father sat down with me for a talk. He informed me that I was an “unlucky” person (as he was). He warned me, that as an unlucky person, I wouldn’t be able to gamble on things automatically going right for me. He instead informed me, that I would have to work for things, to make them happen. He told me that I had the ability to make things happen – and that I would have to use that ability in my life – and not take anything for granted.
In retrospect, I think that is good advice for anyone, i.e. don’t count on things going right; put effort and work into making things go the way that you want them to.
I have recently shared that story with my oldest child – who is an unlucky person. She is a good, hard-working soul, and I am very proud of her. Yet, things never seem to go her way. If something can go wrong, it often does for her -- just like it does for me.
On the other hand, my middle child is a lucky person. She has far fewer chance-related problems than my older daughter. She often finds that things go her way, even when she makes no effort.
Most of you, can probably relate to this. There are some people that just seem to have bad luck – and others who seem to have good luck. There are some who never win the lottery, and others who win the lottery on their first try.
There are some people whose car doesn’t start in the morning – even with a new battery; and others whose car starts regularly, even though it’s a piece of junk with a 10-year-old battery.
That’s just life. And, life isn’t always fair.
Unlucky people are often very good people (deserving of good luck). Lucky people are often people who aren’t as deserving.
I’ve come to accept that I’m unlucky, as far as fates go. And I believe that this acceptance has made me a better person. It’s instilled in me, the necessity to accept things as they are, to work hard, and to put real effort into things that are important to me. I need to be able to count on my own efforts and abilities, in order to be successful.
And, though unlucky in fate – I am still lucky in life. I am lucky to have my mind and abilities. I am very lucky to have my family and their support.
And I am lucky that my dad shared those words of wisdom with me, more than 40 years ago.
See? I am not so unlucky after all!
PS- isn't it ironic that this hub is my 13 th publication on this site??