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Alice in Diet Land - The worst diet lies are the ones you tell yourself.

Updated on June 21, 2012

Your "Matrix Moment"

For the film fans amongst you this is your “matrix moment” – I’m about to offer you a choice with your weight, best summed up by this quote from the movie:

Morpheus: You take the blue pill - the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill - you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.

If you want to know the real reason, why you can’t lose weight and keep it off. If you want know the truth about how easy it really is to become your ideal weight and stay that way forever, take the red pill and read on.

If you’re too afraid to find out how confused and misinformed about weight control you really are: take the blue pill and close your browser now.

The Red Pill

If you’re still reading: as far as effective weight control and diet are concerned you’re just about as mixed up and deluded as it’s possible to be.

The answer to your problem and the relief for the anguish you feel is quite literally in front of you and is free for the taking, and it would be laughable if it wasn’t so painful to watch.

Every year lives are cut short, families are devastated and millions of people live lives of quiet despair through weight related depression, disease and death.

My blindness to the obvious led me to the edge of the abyss; with a massive heart attack at 47. My wife and I subsequently escaped the illusion and have been attempting to help others avoid the painful road ever since.

You are not a body

Listen up, I’ll say it again: you are not a body. You’re body gets older, it gets fatter and thinner , it gets sick it and well again. Bits wear out and are occasionally replaced and eventually we lay it to rest. During that time, the part that makes us us never really ages – oh sure we “feel” older and world-weary at times but that which is truly us is timeless. The body is the vehicle by which we navigate this veil of tears and should neither we put on a pedestal or punished.

Now you claim you want to be slim and you reckon you’ve tried every diet in town – and do you know what? You actually believe it. But here’s the thing: you can’t fill up the emptiness inside with food and drink or drive out the pain or the quiet desperation.

Now you’re probably pretty angry with me at this point, but please hear me out: this is not about blame – in fact it’s about the opposite – it’s about love. Even though, in your heart of hearts You are not to blame for being overweight – you are responsible.

The "F" word

I’m going to use the “f” word now – forgive yourself. That’s right – before you look at another diet – forgive yourself – for whatever you think you did to deserve being unhappy. Notice I didn’t say overweight; because this is not about your weight – it’s about the emptiness inside you are trying to cram with “feel good” food hits.

And while we’re on the subject – thin people are no happier than overweight people – you just think they are. The truth is however it’s probably better on average to be miserable and slim than miserable and overweight – and it’s a whole lot better for your health..

This is a crazy world we live in – quite literally insane – so it’s not surprising you’ve got yourself in a pickle over your weight - So confused you can’t see how simple it is to get your weight under control.

You have a choice:

Remember: It’s not your fault but it is your responsibility

Forgive yourself for what you think you did – blame is meaningless in the context of your weight and even if it wasn’t: stop punishing yourself – it’s unhealthy and self indulgent. Either: regret past actions, change future actions and move on; or admit to yourself you’re getting some kind of sadistic kick out of feeling guilty – and sorry for yourself.

A psychological mess

Now I won’t lie to you – if you’re still with me, you’ve created a psychological mess, with food as a major player in the drama which is your life. This is why your diet efforts to date have been doomed to failure. The information you need about food and exercise is no great secret – it been out there in the public domain for years – and no, I’m not talking about the weird or downright expensive diet plans. What you need has been staring you in the face for many years – and it’s all free.

Your relationship with food however has been programmed over many years and if you’re to escape the depressing cycle of diet boom and bust you’ll need to side step the programming – because if you try to tackle things head-on you’ve got very little chance of success – your old habits and beliefs about food are so strong they literally distort reality to reinforce belief you have that you are fat and there’s nothing you can do about it. My wife was a size 16 and she still sees a fat person when she looks in the mirror – even though she is a size 8, knows she is a size 8 and had to buy a whole new wardrobe .

The second step

If you’re still with me – congratulations: looking honestly at the problem (the real problem) without judgement, without blame, is a huge step in the right direction.

The second step is to ditch what hasn’t worked for you in the past and to avoid all those crazy diets that promise you can go on eating all the wrong things and become slim. You know in your heart of hearts that stuff never works – you’ve always known , but it’s been just another clever way to work hard at going nowhere.

So what’s the answer? How can you escape the corner you’ve painted yourself into? You might be surprised to know that there is a gentle, sustainable way to lose weight and keep it off – and eat a healthy diet. It’s not endorsed by a famous celebrity, it isn’t expensive, you don’t have to count calories – but it is quietly effective.

It all comes down to this

O.K it all comes down to this:

If you want to be slim and get on with your life – follow this link to passive slimmer – and escape: forever.


If you haven’t hit bottom yet – remember the name – we’ll be waiting to help you.


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    • ThoughtsWriter profile image


      4 years ago from America

      Ha! There's nothing wrong with carrying a little extra weight. It looks better than most women know.


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