Am I Manipulative? Are You? Take the Quiz
Manipulation - Shrewd or devious management especially for one's own advantage.
What makes people good at manipulating others? Is it good on any level? The power of persuasion or the practice of deception?
Do people realize they are manipulating other people? Is it gender specific? Are females more manipulative than males?
Manipulation tactics are used every day in police interrogations, real estate deals, fraud, matters of the heart including some types of psychological control. Persuasion, art, crime or skill you should know how to spot it and how to avoid being manipulated.
- Modern Police Interrogation Techniques Use Subtle Psychological Manipulation
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I Can Do Bad All By Myself
Gender and Crime
In 2010 there were approximately 13,120,947 arrests nationwide.(Excepting traffic violations). Of those arrests a little more than 25% were committed by females.
- 1 in every 8 persons on parole are female.
- 1 in every 4 persons on probation are female.
Drug related crimes are the number one reason for arrest, next they seem to be associated with violent crimes or assaults and the trend trickles down to crimes like fraud, bad checks, prostitution and other social crimes.
Statistics have always proven that men tend to commit more crime. The trends appear to be changing which leaves some researchers scratching their heads and wondering if the increase could be related to females taking on more masculine traits in personality over decades. As women are more equal in rights are they becoming equal partners in crime?
Are more women adopting the, "I can do bad all by myself" attitude?
In my research I ran across a debate between two admitted "con artists." The female boasted, "I don't know why more females aren't con artists, it's an easy, lucrative job. I make $250,000 a year."
The male implied that being a good con was mostly a male related offense as the statistics will prove.
I had to chuckle when the female pointed out that because men get arrested more for that particular type of crime it just proves that women are playing a better game.
Maneater - Nelly Furtado
The Confident Man
Dinner at Marm's
It's a Game of Confidence
Con man is derived from the term coined "confidence man" after a man named William Thompson. He was arrested in 1849 according to the New York Herald, for his trick of approaching people as if they were good friends while gaining their confidence so he could ask to borrow their watch, which apparently only bought him a little extra time before someone recognized him in the street where he was arrested.
The most successful fencing operation of the 1860s and '70's was run by females. Marm Mandelbaum was the leader of an elite group of woman socialites that were organized and extremely profitable. Mandelbaum was hard on the eyes by all accounts but drew the admiration and loyalty of criminals. She bought the confidences of the lawyers and judges.
Marm Mandelbaum and her crew belonged to circles in rich society. They would be invited to dinners and parties where they would steal the silver or jewelry or whatever they could fence. The ladies all met up for brunches and lavish dinners where they exchanged stories about their latest endeavors.
Interesting to note, manipulation often has an element of complicity of the victim. They often begin their game by offering their own confidence in the victim, rather than the other way around. They may offer a gift or a "special deal." They often entrust the intended victim first knowing in advance the biggest con game is playing on the theory of reciprocity.
It is human nature for people to want to offer "pay back" when someone has done them a favor. Cunning people count on this as a weakness.
- True cases of love, fraud and violations of trust
Cases of manipulation in the name of love are everywhere. Here are a few of them.
"Everybody has the ability to be manipulative, to be hateful and deceitful." Neil LaBute
There are many scammers who take advantage of people who are looking for requited love. Online dating sites are a breeding ground for con artists. Males and females have taken advantage of unsuspecting people to prey upon. They gain their trust and then borrow money and disappear leaving the victim feeling foolish. The worst offenders know that and count on it like an insurance policy.
Psychologists point out that it is easy for people to become confused in relationships about when they are being manipulated. The trickiest part is spotting the tactics used to control their partners while they are in the relationship.
Conniving people watch their victims like hawks noting all the details about them. Do they have the disease to please? An addiction to earning approval, validation or lack assertiveness? If a person suffers from low self esteem, low self reliance or has identity confusion the proficient manipulator will be taking notes and waiting to exploit those weaknesses.
If you are sweet and hate saying no, the manipulative co-worker will be thinking about you when they need someone to 'cover them' for a slight indiscretion at work, like clocking out for them so they can leave 5 minutes early. (Just this once!)
The biggest manipulators often fly under the radar by using superficial charm and praise. They always find something positive to point out while they work you like a smoked rib. If you suffer from vanity they will be sure to constantly tell you how great you look. If you are over conscious they'll be sure to take you on a guilt trip.
Experts say that it's common for people to think they can't be manipulated. It's one of the "it does happen to everyone except me" schools of thought. People also have the mistaken idea that they are never manipulative. Some people claim it as a skill.
Are you manipulative? Take the quiz and find out!