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Am I Not Black Enough?
Ever since the age of sixteen, my Afro-American friends have always told me, "You talk like a white girl!" As a teenager, I didn't see anything wrong with this statement because I didn't understand it. I wasn't aware of how white girls talk because I didn't spend most of my time around white girls.
Hearing that made me feel different, as if I wasn't Black enough. Because people were always saying it, I didn't mind it. I just learned to accept the way I speak. Honestly, I didn't understand the statement, which is why I never got offended. I often thought to myself, "What does it mean to talk like a white girl?"
Fast forward six years, I was sitting in McDonald's with two of my Afro-American friends. I asked them, "What does it mean to talk like a white girl?" They responded, "It just means you speak properly." Upon hearing that, I thought the statement was a compliment. Who doesn't want to speak properly? As a college grad, that's what I should be doing.
Recently, I was on the phone with a friend from high school. He made the comment, "You sound like a white girl, you've been hanging around those white people too long." I didn't respond because I attended a predominantly white university. Therefore, it's possible that I probably do sound like a white girl to someone who hasn't been exposed to that culture. Honestly, I am unaware of how white people speak. I don't pay attention to it.
However, my friend's comment was very ignorant, which is why I didn't respond. Everyone has their own unique way of speaking and it is ignorant to say that a certain group of people speak a certain way. I don't sound like a white or Afro-American woman. I speak like myself.
After analyzing my experiences, I realize being Black doesn't define my whole life. My heart and my actions define who I am. Being Black is something that I can't control and I won't allow anyone to stereotype me.