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Amazingly Simple Mental Trick of Dropping Unwanted Emotions
It's about a Mental Gym
Before I give my theme a little stretch, let me make a rather bold statement right here at the start:
"Every emotion is droppable, only a little practice will make you a believer".
Now, to guide you into the very spirit of such a mental shift, let me use a little metaphor.
As we all know, there are basically two types of those folks who get themselves committed in some kind of physical culture. One type presents those who are driven by their competitiveness, as they aspire to outdo some opponents, to win in a match of skills and strengths. And the other type is about those who just want to outdo their previous selves, to look better, feel better, be healthier.
The exactly same types we could find among those folks who are into some sort of mental gym. Ones who have future opponents in mind---meaning an advancement at careers while outdoing those other aspirants, whether professional, political, or any other.
And on the other side we have those self-improvement adepts who are more interested in enhancing their model of mental functioning through meditation, self-conditioning, or by other protocols.
This last one would describe myself. The list is too long of those many modalities, techniques, and methods---whatever they are being called---and which, at one time or another were utilized in adding another "fiber to my brain muscle".
So, I am going to spare you from that list, just suffice it to say that it contains some dozens of those "mental gadgets", and none of them was abandoned because they didn't work---it's only that my mind loves variety of approaches to certain same end results.
One of them that has contributed in making a big, if not a pivotal difference in my emotional discipline was so called Sedona Method.
To Hold onto It --- or to Drop It
You may probably find quite a bit on internet about the Sedona Method, also called "Releasing Technique" by some other folks who modified it---just like I did by coming up with my "dropping trick".
I am calling it a trick, because we have to trick our mind out of its played-in negative routine without it realizing it. Namely, no intrusive force is being used like "suppression" of emotions, so it may even remind us of our very young age when "dropping" felt natural to us.
Remember the times when you would tell your little friend or a sibling: "I am never going to play with you again!"---and then you just dropped it not even realizing it, and after just some minutes you continued playing as if nothing had happened.
Please note, that any verbal description of a mental procedure cannot be the same as its experience. Like, you can admire a photo of your favorite car that you would want to have one day, but it's not the same as driving it. Or, you can look at the center photo of a Playboy magazine, but...well, let's stay with the example of that wanted car.
Now, why didn't I use "letting go", or "releasing" instead of "dropping" for the descriptive name of my trick? From my own experience I know that mind needs something more resolute, more proactive to be willing to even consider a change of its emotional routine.
You see, another word for letting go is "allowing", which to me sounds like I am giving my mind a choice: "O.K., you crappy emotions, so far you've been a pain in the butt, and now you have my permission to go."
It's like you could almost hear a response: "Yeah, right, thank you, but don't mind me if I hang around a bit longer, I just love it here".
On the other hand, with dropping in mind it's an altogether different mental ball game. It has a dramatic overtone of definitely losing it from our grip. Our brain, especially the right hemisphere works on basis of metaphors, symbols, pictorial aspect of reality, and with little practice it starts associating dropping of an item with dropping of an emotion.
I'd like to suggest that you practice that feeling by actually dropping something like a pen, and then associate it in your mind with emotion you want to get rid of. Feel that loosening of the grip in your hand as loosening of that grip with which your mind is holding onto that emotion.
Practice makes perfect, folks, and sooner than you know it, you will be amazed by what your mind can do.
Repeating Does It
However, the real trick is in the sequence of a repeated mental act of dropping the whole contents of your consciousness, one after another, in what I call "dropping density".
It could be likened to repeating of a mantra in meditation, a single word or a sentence which, repeated, dulls the mind's incessant inner chat, derailing that negative train of thoughts responsible for bad emotions being formed. You see, no emotions can come on their own without some thought, conscious or unconscious causing them.
So we have to keep dropping whatever comes to mind. Not fighting it, but dropping it. Without making stops in between as if to check out how we are doing. If that sneaks into our mind, we drop that too, because we don't need any spying on our progress.
It's like scrambling mental contents into puzzle pieces and dropping them on the floor where the picture can't be recognized anymore---and then doing it over and over again for a while, until we suddenly feel free of that emotion.
Before I mentioned how our brain likes metaphors, so we can further inspire it for the act of dropping by making those shaking motions of head, and limbs, as if shaking a limp rug doll. At the same time imagining everything in our mind being dropped, no matter what appears on that inner screen.
One very promising thing about this trick is that it tends to become automatic, with our mind dropping anything unwanted on its own after some weeks of practice. Remember, it used to be something very natural to us, and now we are only reinforcing a mental skill that's familiar to our mental technology.
All those ups and downs in daily experiencing can be so much less taxing to our nervous system if we get into this habit of dropping whatever feels as an emotional nonsense, not serving any purpose.
You know how many times you just can't put your finger on the cause of those crappy feelings, so you explain it as "being under weather today", or even literally blaming that weather for your feeling lousy. I hear that a lot from folks of my age, but I don't want to play a smart ass to lecture to them how it's only a silly computation in their undisciplined, roaming mind, that has forgotten the skill of just dropping it all.
A Whole New Life Possible
Now, what is the real significance, if any, of acquiring this mental routine of dropping? Do we gain anything in our core belief system by implementing it in our daily praxis?
Actually yes, we do. A whole new horizon of possibilities gets open in front of our eyes, as we stop observing our life in terms of how we are reacting to it, as our emotionality has lost its knee-jerk model of reactiveness.
You may realize in that process that you are holding the key to all your interpretation of reality, because by dropping you can instantly dismiss anything imposing itself from outside.
You realize how everything is droppable, any perception, impression, thought, emotion, attitude...everything that normally gives a suchness to reality--- both outside and intimate. And if it even reaches the depth of spiritual, then you may discover how there is no "outside" reality at all, but only your intimate one.
Which makes me remember that old Tibetan saying: "It depends on only two little hinges to which side the door opens". Meaning in our case that, merely by applying a little new skill of dropping the contents of consciousness, we gain a whole new dimension of mental functionality. It's not anymore that emotions are "befalling" us with ourselves having no say in it.
It helps us to shift the whole perception of living situations from something that makes us victims, to something where it's all up to us how we choose to treat those situations. Consciously. Intentionally, by keeping in focus the outcomes that we want---not obsessing emotionally over what we don't want and so reducing our brain's capacity to think clearly and do its job in our life.
We also stop taking ourselves and others too seriously. Relieved from the burden of nagging emotions we laugh more, we set free our playfulness, while even noticing some health complaints disappearing or being reduced in the process.
Emotions have an enormous power over our lives, and by utilizing this trick of dropping them, we give those positive emotions more energy to make our living so much more pleasurable---if not spiritually inspired as well.
So, try it. Don't think how your bad emotions require some more sophisticated procedures to be taken care of. Sometimes it's good to remember how as kids we didn't need to either meditate, practice yoga, or practice dropping, or anything else for that matter in order to feel at ease, happy, and free.
That's when we knew how to drop our feelings in an instant. We still know it, and just reminding ourselves of that inherent ability removes a need for any sophistication.
Ultimately, folks, life is simple, it's only that sometimes the path to simplicity appears to be a little complicated---while we are trying to un-complicate ourselves.