Anxiety and Panic Attacks, they are so nerve wracking
anxiety and stress
Anyone who has suffered a panic attack, knows that it feels like pure hell. Chances are you also tend to be a person who has ongoing low grade anxiety, and when things pile up, so does the anxiety. Some people are just more anxious than others, I'd have to say there is a genetic trait for this from the articles I have read in medical journals.
Also a Highly sensitive person can experience far more anxiety than someone who is not as sensitive. I find that when life throws the big curves, and when I am trying to solve the bigger problems, that I am in a constant low grade anxiety state. I use many distraction techniques, to lessen the anxiety and some days they work, then it sneaks right up on me, and i find that it gets too much for me to handle. I find I cannot calmly think out , how am I going to solve this problem anymore and it feels like the problem is going to win. In spite of the fact that I have worked hard, and thought of so many angles to use as tools to solve the problem. When I feel like I am just banging into more walls,over and over I get ultimately frustrated.
Then the thoughts begin, on a more worried slant. "What if I can never solve this problem?" What if it is not solvable? Then I think well it may be out of my control, and I then just have to let it go. It is the What ifs that truly contribute to my anxiety. While working on a problem I like to see it resolve, and if it takes six months, I start to think there is something wrong with me. Anxiety builds again, and if I don't manage it, it can turn into panic attacks.
The problem with solving problems are that, if you have lived a few decades you know full well that the choices you make bear consequences. We all need to pick consequences that we can live with, yet we know from experiences that not all of them can go in our favor.
Growing up I never learned to be patient or believe in myself. This did not help my sense of self assurance and it did fuel the anxiety trap as well. The dysfunction in my upbringing, guaranteed that I would be prone to anxiety. So it has been a battle all my life. I did not know what it even was until it got so bad in my thirties and I had a mini breakdown. That is when I started to learn there was a name for it.
Calming the Anxiety
I did learn that to help slow down the anxiety, as well as the worrying thoughts, that mindful meditation can really help.
This is sitting calmly taking in four or five deep breaths and focusing on the rhythm of your breathing. After about five deep breaths the anxiety should start to relax in intensity, and the goal is to let thoughts drift by, like clouds in the sky, or leaves on a stream, just let them flow past, letting go of each thought. Focus back on the breath. Focus on just these moments. No past, not future, just now, here and now and on the breath.
Relaxing with this for a goal of up to fifteen minutes, can really relax the mind. The anxiety and worry diminishes, and you can decide to regroup and have another look at the issues calmly in time. By putting time between you can often think a little clearer.
Please share your experiences, and how you have handled your own anxieties.