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Teenage Anger Problems - When Something Deeper is going on

Updated on February 03, 2017

Angry Teen
Angry Teen

Children with Behavior Problems

If you have a child with severe anger problems, anger management treatment may be very helpful! Children sometimes get angry.

They can be moody, secretive and sometimes very unpleasant to be around. This is can become more evident, as they begin to become young adults and desire distance from adults. Anyone who remembers being

This is can become more evident, as they begin to become young adults and want to distance from adults. Anyone who remembers being young knows first hand how difficult those years cab be; and how hard it may have been to always keep a positive in every situation.

In the society we are living in today it is even more challenging for teenagers than it was for us. Many teens have not yet developed the skill set and compassion needed to avoid, confrontations and other social conflicts.

Our children have to deal with competition, jealousy and to try to always be the best. Something like being teased because they don't have a new pair of shoes, could result in a physical altercation.

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”

— ― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Helping Teens Navigate their Formative Years

The world around teens is moving so fast and they are forced to be adults before their time, which can cause daily challenges and pitfalls. All young people are not alike; as some can handle adversity very well, while others are quick to become angry, retaliate or become violent against others.

Developing an anger management plan for these teens is necessary, but the very ones who need it my resist adult intervention in their lives. An anger management program designed for teens must be created that will reach them without being controlling or overbearing.

However it is done, anger does not go away and if you have a teen has anger issues, it is essential to help them understand how change is possible if they are to have a happy and successful life.

Anger has its Roots in Depression



The recent epidemic of bullying by teens, I am convinced is done by children without the ability to have empathy and children who have severe anger problems.

Young people are committing suicide, because of being mercilessly bullied by other children in school, through personal attacks in person, online or through texting. If this bullying is not stopped, I don't want to see what will become of the next generation.

When experiencing anger issues, they may yell and scream, say hurtful things, punch walls, push other people around and even hurt themselves. Effective anger management can help these children, to love and respect themselves and to learn to love and show respect toward others.


Counseling should teach teenagers how to examine, what they are feeling and to take the extra time to ask, ‘why.’ Why do I feel this way and why am I angry. This type of anger management teaches self-awareness.

Teens can learn to practice control, to stop and think about the repercussions of their actions. Juvenile detention centers are filled with young people who never stop to think, "what if?"

Anger comes from wounding and wounded people hurt other people. This is why is it so important to pinpoint the root cause of anger in a teen; so that these issues can be exposed, treated, healed and resolved.

Once they have taken the time to process their anger, the next step is to give them the emotional tools to learn how to defuse this anger and respond is a manner that is more acceptable.

Teen Girls
Teen Girls

Role Reversal and Role Play

Role playing, is a way for teens to learn compassion and empathy, by putting them in the place of the person who is the recipient of their anger.

This type of role play, acts as a mirror to help the teenager to really see what they look like and sound like, as well as how it feels to be a target of someone else's rage.

Family Therapy

Remember many times the source of this anger stems from living in a dysfunctional home or environment. Sometimes that anger comes from something, we as parents are totally unaware.

Many times a child's anger has nothing to do with the parent or home. Anger is not just the child's problem, but a family problem.

Anger management should begin at home, but if it does not, it is not too late to turn it around. Family therapy can help get at the root of the child's behavior and give the entire family the tools they need to live a happier life.

It takes time and patience to help an angry teen successfully live in a hostile world, without resorting to angry outburst or physical retaliation.

Look for Tools that Help

Other tools that can help teen with anger management are exercise, music therapy, or keeping a journal as a method of recording how they are feeling day by day.

Of course, exercise is an excellent way of channeling or getting rid of stress or anger that can lead to situational problems. It is said that music has the power to tame the savage beast.

These are healthy distractions that make good tools in anger management. These are also simple and non-threatening methods of managing anger.


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    • 2besure profile image

      Pamela Lipscomb 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      You are right Sarah. We are not islands unto ourselves. We are connected and within the family unit may lie the answers need to help the teen.

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      Sarah Mclean 6 years ago

      Yeah it's really true that family therapy is the best way to help teens to cope from any conflict or anger. I must say, family plays a big role for their children's development.

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      Pamela Lipscomb 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      True Chris, I was a horror. Glad I straightened up!

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      Chris Eddy111 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      That's a great topic. The teenage years always seem to be the hardest time to cope. Well done!

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      Pamela Lipscomb 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      "When disrespect is show it cannot be overlooked. Our childrens development depends on the lessons we teach them." You've said a mouthful Fred! Great points!

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      fred allen 6 years ago from Myrtle Beach SC

      I have 2 teenage boys. 18 and 14. They are like most teens, they push the envelope to see where the boundary of acceptable behavior extends to. These are cricial teaching moments. When disrespect is show it cannot be overlooked. Our childrens development depends on the lessons we teach them. If they are respectful at home and to their teachers the odds increase that they will be respectful to all. Parents need to be vigilent.

      Great topic! Great hub. Up and awesome!

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      Pamela Lipscomb 6 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      singlemomat52, that you for you comment. I agree. It does not feel good to be on the other end of someone anger. Especially when it is your child!

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      singlmomat52 6 years ago

      Great hub!!!! thank you for sharing. I have a 26 year old son that still has problems with his anger. I have seen him in action and been the focus of it at times. It is not nice!! he has taken several anger management classes it seems to that it helps for a while but that anger creeps back in. He is getting better with time though.

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