Appearance and Presentation is Everything, Or is it?
Appearance and Presentation; A Big Part Of It.
It has been said throughout the centuries that ''A person's appearance and presentation says a lot about who they are''. Even before one opens his/her mouth, people look at you and form certain opinions; these opinions may be positive or negative, fair or unfair.
I have always operated under the assumption that ''in order to be successful, you have to dress for success''. I cannot tell you where I first heard that line, whether it came from my mother , a teacher, a magazine or the news; the one thing I know for sure is that I embraced it ,and it subconscously governs my preparation and choices.
Is Appearance and Presentation everything?, maybe not, but it is an instrumental component of living; it cannot be denied. Only a select few (if any) are exempt from the ramifications of poor appearance; they make up for it however with a strong intellect or physical presentation.
What is appearance? Appearance is the way a person looks, including what they wear. Your appearance tells your a story. A person's appearance can give hints about a persons ethnic background, belief systems, health, level of education, temperament and social status. Appearance can be masked, but is often interpreted accurately (you are often who you appear to be). Nobody wants to be associated with someone who looks ragged, unkept, dirty or smelly. We all want to have family members, friends and co-workers who dress well, are well kept, hygienic, smell good and generally appear stable.
What is presentation? Presentation is a combination of your appearance, the way you talk, conduct your self and relate to oothers. Life is all about presentation, and you may often go as far as your presentation allows. A person will likely succeed if they look good, talk clearly and appropriately (in whatever language they use), relate well, and behave with civility at all times. Well presented people often get ahead and enjoy good attention. A person who does not have these qualities on the other hand, may unfairly so, be met with obstacles on the part to success; they may have few business and/or social loyalties.
People make the claim, that as independent people with freedoms and rights, they can look the way they choose. They also claim that they can present the way they choose. This is the case according to law, but you have to realize that employers and others we meet on a daily basis equally possess the right to think and feel the way they choose to.
Another claim that I hear often, is from wives, husbands and partners who claim that love is unconditional; good luck with that. People have a responsibility to maintain good appearance and presentation during the course of a relationship. Poor appearance and presentation has been responsible for many a divorce, love is not guaranteed. Love is a privilege that should be respected and nurtured, in part by self maintenance. We should not expect to keep our partners to accept and love us if we choose to let ourselves go.
Laws exist to protect people from discrimination because of race, gender, disability etc; most employers honor these laws. It gives an employee an edge however, to maintain a clean and professional presentation at all times. Even when we casually go about our social lives, one should always take the time to attend to ones looks.
So, what is missing today in the way people appear and present? People have become somewhat complacent when getting ready to step out. Ironing has almost become a lost art. People step out in wrinkled, ripped or misfitting clothing; people appear frumpy, sometimes dirty and unkept. It is no longer out of place to see people in pajamas at the malls. Some people, especially men do not take the time to groom themselves anymore, shaving is becoming a lost art. People do not take the time to brush their hairs, get regular hair cuts, polish shoes and wear appropriate body accessories.
This lack of caring is also reflected on the kids, as many of our kids are sent to school looking ragged, unkept and frumpy-not a recipe for alertness. Kids often wear clothing with inappropriate language printed on them. Kids take off shoes and they clear the room. Adults, show the example, throw your clothes in the wash once in a while; it may not fly that you are a construction worker or painter and need to look the part.
It is no secret that American and much of the world is overweight; this is also an indication that we do not really care about our appearance and presentation. Despite the availability of recreational and exercise resources, obesity persist. Lots of people, including Doctors and nurses who smoke and drink, sometimes to excess; this is all bad presentation. Priest and pastors who steal church money and lie to us, all bad presentation. Parents and others who do drugs, lie and cheat on their partners, and the list goes on and on. Appearance and Presentation is mostly a factor of personal choices. You do not have to be rich to appear well; you do not have to have too much time to present well. Poverty should not equate dirtiness. I grew up around people who did not have much, but swept their yards with brooms each morning by hand, and washed laundry by hand everyday. We were compelled to do these things ourselves as kids. Today, kids are sitting around waiting for someone to do everything for them.
Our generation, all generations currently have societal problems that are resultant of this apathy to our appearance. The younger generation is struggling because we have not shown great leadership in balancing of work, schooling and activities of daily living in the last few decades. We owe our kids the responsibility for modeling appearance, presentation and life choices.
Whether you shop at Walmart, AJ Wright or Kmart, or you wear the contemporary stylings of Josef Addud, Tom Ford, Silvia Venturini, Fendi or Yves Saint Laurent, you should always look good. Take the time to iron your clothes, groom yourself and take care of your body. When your physical appearance is good, your morale will be high, your confidence level elevated, and you will feel happier. Oh by the way, do the same for the kids; it will boost their confidence level in school.