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Appreciation for Anticipation

Updated on June 18, 2015

Don't miss the view.

Had I not prepared for it I would have missed the hike and missed this moment.
Had I not prepared for it I would have missed the hike and missed this moment. | Source

Just getting there misses an important point.

What have you got planned?

What do you have planned for the near future? What trip or goal do you have planned that you are anticipating? What are you going to attempt to do that you are a little nervous about? What has got you a little anxious just thinking about how it is going to go? What new place are you going to visit? Which old familiars are you going to see for the first time in forever? Is there a new job or position coming up just over the horizon? What goal have you set for yourself that you might just not make on the first try?

Before we get to far into the subject at hand let me just tell you of an ordinary hero. My son is getting ready for kindergarten which starts in August. Now that takes some real courage! We can help get him get ready. We can create in our home a positive attitude about it. We can hide our anxiety so he does not feed off of that. But at one point he will take that step all alone and there will be at that point a no return. No matter what has gone before all things will be different and he sure knows it.

Well is that all there is? Is that first day of school the first and the last time we have or are going to try something where the outcome is forever and not at all sure. There is a popular term floating around out there these days; “game changer”. I like it. To me it conjures up something unforeseen that comes out of left field that tilts the balance of likely outcomes. It suggests either an injury to a player or a player stepping up and making a difference. Of course here we are dealing with that second player having “the game of their life”, you.

Well friends and foes there is one thing certain in this world, you cannot win the game unless you play it! And more importantly, it is a lot more fun playing than watching.

Anticipating!

You just cannot prepare well enough for one of these little ones to come into your life.

There was a moment of anticipation. And then I was wet from head to toe!
There was a moment of anticipation. And then I was wet from head to toe! | Source

Get those juices flowing.

Risk

To really get that lifeblood flowing you have got to plan for and then engage in an activity that carries some risk. Recovery comes to mind. Recovery from anything. Facing a set back and planning and carrying through on the road back. Will you succeed or fail? Taking up a new adventure, from writing a book to climbing a mountain. Plan for it, anticipate it and prepare for it. Let your expectations soar and get into that giddy excitement, be alive. Now don’t get your tightie whities in a bunch I am not saying live for the future. I am not saying to not live in the now. But make the now something about the future.

All this talk is coming from a guy who has spent most of his life poopooing preparation. But a funny thing happened on my way to the grave, I got older first. I can no longer just throw on a pair of skis and ski 8 hours a day for three in a row. I can no longer just empty my bank account to run off on some far flung adventure in a foreign land with no return ticket. And I for sure cannot just go hike 20 miles with a 50 pound pack without preparing.

But another funny thing happened just recently. I started enjoying getting ready. About 3 years ago while travelling to the trailhead of a backcountry expedition I was bemoaning how hard it was to get in shape for such excursions. My much senior buddy got a good chuckle out of what I was saying. I needed a change in attitude. It was high time I started enjoying the “getting ready” portion of our adventures or I was going to be a miserable old man. For the first time in life I was faced with the fact that it would take some work to stay young enough to do what I wanted, and that takes hard work and preparation so I might as well get positive about it.

When I gave this some hard thought I realized that in fact I had been doing a lot of preparing in my life, I just did not look at it that way. I spent 20 good years in school. It never hit me that that was in preparation for life. I was going to school and getting as much out of it as I could. It never once occurred to me that whole time that I was preparing for the future.

A couple of months ago my little family of three travelled across the ocean to visit my wife’s family and hometown in Southeast Asia. Well my darling bride planned and prepared for that trip for a good half a year. What was amazing to me, and I got caught up in it, was how fun it was to get ready. It had never crossed my mind that packing and buying for a trip could be fun. Boy was I missing out. I mean I always got the concept that the journey was a great part of any trip to a destination. But I hadn’t realized that loading up and planning was part of the journey.

Very much in the moment.

In the microcosm he is really anticipating and preparing for his next radical daredevil jump.
In the microcosm he is really anticipating and preparing for his next radical daredevil jump. | Source

Anticipating Heaven.

Don't miss half the fun

I suppose there are good folks out there that have gotten so wrapped up in preparing that the actual event kind of lost its meaning. My mom used to get so worked up about having a dinner party that she was miserable to all those around her. Make no mistake my mom’s dinner parties were spectacular. It was not unusual to have 20 guests, with white linen and the very finest china, silver and crystal all perfectly presented and arranged. And thirty years later folks still remark on her great cooking. But what a toll it took on the family. Walking on eggshells would have been a pleasure, we were walking on live land mines. Perhaps that is why I took no real pleasure in preparation for forty years of my life. So a word to the wise, do not let it get out of control, people are far more important than plans.

It is this idea of getting excited and all worked up about something that I write about today. When I was of a young age I heard my father remark of a man who had tried to build a contraption of some sort and miserably failed. He was laughed at and somewhat humiliated. I just remember that he had gone way out on a limb trying to build a better way to do something. I still recall the overall feeling of embarrassment for the chap. My father, whose father was an inventor, called the man a glorious fool, and right away invited him into our home for supper. He was extremely interesting and full of life. Clearly my father felt that it was more noble to have tried and failed than to never have tried.

How about you?

Are you too worried about the outcome to enjoy the getting ready?

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Just a cool statuette I picked up.

All of these guys represent the future. Prosperity and the like.
All of these guys represent the future. Prosperity and the like. | Source

And the point of all this rambling is?

We spend 90 percent of our lives getting ready for things, whether we realize it or not. Our “moments” are filled with preparation and anticipation of a future event. That is how it should be. So if we look at all that time preparing as a chore that must be done instead of a part of the journey we miss out. If we allow ourselves to take joy in the anticipation and expectations we will be joy filled. And here is a kicker that can make a significant impact on others. Appreciate the preparations of others. Go out of your way to make known your admiration for well-planned things by others. Here are some small and mundane examples. Give thanks to the one who has planned and prepared a meal for you. I am not talking of the results here but praise the effort that went into it. Many men have significant other women in their lives. Many of those women spend a good amount of time getting pretty for their day. Well men you should damn well show appreciation for all that hard work. Let me just say a big thank you to all those women right now. My world is a prettier place for all the work you do preparing for the day.

Here is a fun one. Exercise. We could look at exercise as getting ready for the next day of life. We could say that each day we spend some time getting ourselves ready for the next. But it is a tedious task at best some days. It goes a lot better if we focus on a goal. For some reason it is a more positive experience if we have some event to plan for in the future. We note that those who are just focusing on weight loss go emotionally up and down with loss and addition. Those who are training “for” something seem to keep a more energetic even keel.

And in closing let me suggest another possibility. Each day. Yes each day we live is a precious gift of life. We really should treat each new day special. We probably should plan for it. We should anticipate what glories each day has to offer. As I have a young one, each evening before bed and prayers we go through what we are going to do the next day and allow ourselves to get a bit excited about it. It works, it gets me looking forward to a new day and that is a nice space to be in.

Who! Put all your eggs in one basket and watch that basket.

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      Theresa Ast 2 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      Oh, Eric, I love this, I love this, I love this. You hit the nail square on the head and in just the right way. The journey does matter as much or more than the destination...and planning, preparing, dreaming, working, hoping are all such a good and important part of our lives. I agree with everything you said and have for a long time, but I really needed to hear somebody else say it. Thank you. Blessings. Theresa

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks much whonu. I am pleased that you found this article a worthwhile read. I do try to write in a heartfelt fashion.

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      whonunuwho 2 years ago from United States

      Nice work my friend Eric and your message is so well received...from thee heart. whonu

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jo, your blessings and Angels did the trick, I am just in from standing with my face upwards feeling the rain, actually soaked to the bone and loving it. I hope my neighbors were all still at church as I did a jig in my skivvies out back. I have been anticipating a great rain for months as we surely do need it out here in droughtland USA. Thank you for coming by at such a time of joy.

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 2 years ago

      I really enjoyed this. Loved the photos!

      They grow up so fast. :( Your little guy is on his way!

      So much truth you shared. And facts to back them up.

      Thank you for these Sunday Sermons!

      A Sunday Blessing each and every time.

      Shared & Up to the Angeles.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is a great Proverb, thank you much!

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      Lawrence Hebb 2 years ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      My favorite proverb is Proverbs 16 verse 33. "The lot is cast on the lap, but the plan is from the Lord"

      Your hub reminds us to make the plan so that he can speak to us! Thats whats awesome!

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Fantastic Lawrence, I love it when a plan comes together. It makes we want to hop right in and make a new one. The future is looking bright. Thank you for coming by and reminding me to start my day off right.

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      Lawrence Hebb 2 years ago from Hamilton, New Zealand

      Eric

      We had a 'game changer' happen to us as a family the other day. We knew it was coming but didn't realize how much of a game changer it would be.

      We knew it would be good so we began to make a plan that we could stick to even if the 'game changer' didn't happen. As a result when it came we were ready and maximized the effect.

      Plan for them and the effect is even greater, but you need the plan!

      Awesome hub and advice.

      Lawrence

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora, thank you for visiting and letting me know. Around here we are finding that anticipating leads to preparing and preparing can be a great learning moment. And we are having a blast doing it.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      What a beautiful, healthy, mature perspective! Enjoying the preparing would produce a lot more smiling. Thanks, Eric.

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      Shannon 2 years ago from Texas

      Oh, wow, Eric. Thank you. I don't know what to say in response to that.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Shanmarie, you brighten my evening skies with such a nice comment. I must admit to you that I have read My Prayer for You about 6 times today. It is just fantastic.

      For those who have not read it it is at: https://hubpages.com/literature/Prayerforyou

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      Shannon 2 years ago from Texas

      Eric, is it possible your writing improves every chance I get to read it? I do believe this is one of my favorites from you.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you. What a great insight into aging and planning for something. That has really got me thinking about how it effects the lives of so many.

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      Bronwen Scott-Branagan 2 years ago from Victoria, Australia

      Love this hub, you have so many good ideas. Actually, as we grow older we sometimes like to spend the present thinking about the past, so it's good to plan for something ahead that we can prepare for and look forward to. Blessings for such a thoughtful write.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dana that is exciting just to hear about. I wish you the very best in all your endeavors. Thank you for your great support for my writing.

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      Dana Tate 2 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      I have so many goals that I'm trying to achieve that preparing for them all drove me bananas. I am excited yet a little overwhelmed. I had to slow down and take one thing at a time. That was hard because I'm passionate about so many things. I am more than ready to see the fruits of my labor. this hub was a real eye-opener for me. Thank you for sharing. voted up and useful.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Serenity, thank you for your comment. That fine line and careful balance is a worthy goal for any life.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Faith we are truly blessed.

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      Serenity Miller 2 years ago from Brookings, SD

      Very, very good points... I love this! We can spend as much time getting ahead of ourselves and living in the future as we can holding on to our old selves and living in the past. Living in the moment and being fully present in the present is such a joy, virtually demanding appreciation and gratitude. Thanks for sharing the journey.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Aw, thank you for such a sweet comment back to me. You certainly have a precious heart. I am happy you felt comfortable enough here to share of your humaness for I have no doubt all of us have been right there many times too. I know I have! I am thankful God is not finished with me yet for I know I have a long way to go. That is the sweetest thing about your reset button : ) ...we can know of and experience that peace that passes all understanding ...His sweet, sweet peace. Hugs and blessings to you and yours

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      ahorseback 2 years ago

      Better beef up Eric , You're in for trouble Lol...

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ed, as I sat down to write to you I got hit in the head with a toy! Oh sure, just an accident - I don't think so. This kid has planning down, he reminds me of the sneak attacks Cato used to do on the Pink Panther, and the crazy thing is I just enrolled him in Karate. Oh well

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      ahorseback 2 years ago

      I'm the guy who hit all the buttons including " funny" Eric , sorry , but my wife is the planner - she plans for years for each weeks vacation , one two even three years in advance . Sometimes two vacations at once in the planning stages , Now , I'm kinda laid back and just a go with the flow guy ! So all else , to me ,is just plain crazy ! LOL P.S. , Love that little guys pictures , he looks like a handful ! Great hub !

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      That is so cool Denise, thank you for sharing that with me. It brings me peace just thinking of it.

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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I like that, "people are more important than plans." I just spent the weekend with my 83 year old father. I never know when I will get that phone call that says that his time on earth is done. I decided that he was the most important part of my weekend, and that I wanted him to feel loved. When I walked away, knowing I will probably never see him again in this life, I felt at peace because I had taken the time to enjoy the journey.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Bill. Truly our constant caring of the consequences of our actions should never result in fear. A brave heart is one able to take action and live life out.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm with you all the way on this one. Risk is not something I spend too much time worrying about. Of course, it's cost me dearly at times but still, life is to be lived and not feared. :)

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Frank thank you for your support. I am sure you know that a few well said words like yours can lift a lonely writer's spirits. And in that I have great respect for you, your comments mean a lot. Thanks again.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Faith you are a real good person. Don't let anyone, especially you tell you any different. I needed a boost this morning and you gave it to me. I spiritually blew it last night. A standard "househusband's" refrain. I got all prepared and cooked a fabulous dinner last night. To my consternation my working wife worked three hours late without calling. You know the story. I got all upset because my anticipated expectations were not met. That should not have happened. Happily I have built in a little button direct to my heart. God pushed that button and reset my heart to focus on the good. And I went to bed happy and prayerful.

      But it reminded me there is still a lot of work to do in this lifetime.

      Thanks for letting me rant a bit and for being such a supportive writing friend.

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      Frank Atanacio 2 years ago from Shelton

      Eric.. profound.. your hubs continue to stir .. and sometimes gives me pause.. just love what you've written here voted up and awesome.. Me, I won't borrow any of your quotes.. I'll just read them and enjoy them..

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Eric, this is a most beautiful writing here, so real and genuinely written from your heart. I may be sounding like a broken record here of late concerning your hubs, but each one is so special for each one has a pretty profound message yet told in a simple and honest manner that all get! We get you dear Eric and I know I receive a special blessing when I stop by for a visit on your pages. This is a lovely one to end the day with in anticipation of what tomorrow will bring.

      I may have to borrow some of your great quotes here ...Eric quotes: " ...make the now something about the future." Brilliant!

      Plus, " ...people are far more important than plans." Brilliant once again. We can have great anticipation in planning, but let's not make others miserable in the meantime.

      Your photos are always special and that video is the icing on the cake.

      I truly love, love, love this piece.

      Up ++++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

      Peace and blessings always to you and yours