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Are There Bullies Here?

Updated on July 22, 2010

First Day of School

I remember my first day of school. I was only five years old. I am forty-eight now, so it was a long time ago. My mother took me to school because all of her children had started to school at that age. This school, however, had no kindergarten. I was thrust right into first grade. I had red hair and freckles, which seems in retrospect, not a good thing. Even though there were two other redheads in my class, we were not like the other children. I didn't know what a bully was.

John Stamper was a bully. He had me so scared by the time I was in fourth grade that I started going to the other side of the school to get in. My school had four doors for students. We came to the school from different directions, and only one door was for buses. The other doors were for walkers. By fourth grade I was contentedly walking to the furthest door, because I wanted to avoid John Stamper. He had made friends, you see. I was his favorite target and that made me their favorite target too.

I would get to school early, before the buses. I was sure that would prevent me from being seen. The doors were locked and this end of the school was close to the woods, that's why I was the only one at that door.

As I turned the corner, I had no idea I would find myself face to face with John Stamper and Maurice Kennedy. They were waiting for me. I don't know how they found out I was using the other door. They were sitting on the railing and one of them slipped down and started toward me, taunting. I was frozen in my tracks. I remember my first day of school, but I don't remember what they said as I stood there, I was too filled with dread. One comment had something to do with me being fat.

Suddenly, (This is all true) Joel Cash appeared.

He was a kid who had also been picked on, he had an accent, I don't know from where, maybe German. I don't know how he knew to show up there, I was always alone at this door, safe; everyone else was afraid of the woods, I had grown up playing in those same woods.

Anyway, he picked John Stamper up by the collar and put him against the wall, he said that I used to be too skinny and they made fun of me for that so I gained a few pounds and now they made fun of me because I was fat. He told John Stamper to leave me alone and never bother me again. He told him what he would do to him if he ever did. As he put him down Maurice was laughing, he turned to Maurice and said "That goes for you too, Kennedy.

John Stamper never said a word to me after that. I don't remember him at all after that day, as if he disappeared.

Years later, I was out of school, and still lived in the same neighborhood. I was about seventeen. I was walking around the school for exercise, when I ran into Maurice Kennedy. It was around the time the movie Warriors was playing in theaters, and he was sitting on the concrete riser, at the door for the bus circle. It was summer, I guess because there was no school, or a weekend. Anyway, he had two switchblade knives and tried to pick a fight. I was older and so unafraid. I was just thinking what a sad little man it is that needs two knives to fight a girl who is just out for a walk. I think I said something to that effect.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, a voice I hadn't heard in years, a face I had only seen from a distance. Joel Cash, riding up on his bicycle. He said Hello to me and asked "Is there any trouble here?" Maurice hastily made his knives disappear as I said "No Joel, no trouble at all."

He said "you're sure." I nodded. Then he looked up at Maurice and said "It sure is a good thing there wasn't any trouble here Kennedy, because I seem to remember telling you not to bother Faye ever again. And I would hate to think you forgot what I would do to you."

Maurice said he had not forgotten, and made a hasty departure from the scene. I looked at Joel and said, "I thought you had forgotten, or maybe I just dreamed it all." He said no, he hadn't forgotten, and it wasn't a dream. He rode away, leaving me with the feeling that he was always watching.

Back to the Present

I don't know whatever became of those guys. I don't know if I care about any of them except Joel Cash. I don't know why he decided to champion me that way. Just a real hero I guess.

I do not like bullies. These two were not the only bullies I have ever known, some were far scarier. But I always remembered Joel. I did not learn until later to stand up for myself, but I have always stood up for others without fear, because of Joel. He did not have to watch out for me. I was just another kid. But I was a kid he knew could not defend herself. I can now. Maybe that is why our paths never crossed again.

I love Hub pages, and I love all of you. I just wanted to know if there are any bullies here.

See I told my best friend about this place and he became a member. After writing two hubs he received an e-mail that someone had posted a comment on one of his Hubs. He excitedly went to see what they had to say. My friend had a comment after being on only two days.

Apparently this person did not like his Hub and so he deleted it. He is going to rewrite it.

 I have been welcomed here. I hope there are no bullies here. I would love to see Joel Cash again, but not that way.

For those Who have been Bullied

 Bullies thrive on your reactions to their bullying. They have such low self-esteem that the only way to make themselves feel better is to make other's feel small. I only say this to empower you.

If ever you are bullied get this mental picture in your mind of a ninety-eight pound girl being challenged to a fight by a teenage boy. Not asked on a date... Not kissed... Challenged to a knife fight.

That my friends is a coward. He is nearly a year older than the girl he is challenging. They are alone on the grounds of the elementary school that they both attended as children.

Now take this new found strength, this image with you every where you go. Only a coward. Tell yourself, bullies are only cowards. Cowards do not deserve your time, your attention or your fear... They especially don't deserve your tears.

About my Friend

 I spoke with my friend and let him know that HubPages is a safe place where all of our opinions count. I told him he can unpublish his hub without deleting it and he also can respond to any comments or not as he chooses, even so far as to deny the comment be posted.

I have been so blessed here. Even when a comment has been less than positive I have approved it as I believe there is more than one side to every story.

Thank you HubPages. There is no place like it, not even Home.

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    • Faybe Bay profile imageAUTHOR

      Faye Constantino 

      8 years ago from Florida

      A comment to all who read, yes dears, there are bullies here. For your consideration I submit a hub you will enjoy by Mrvoodoo.

    • Faybe Bay profile imageAUTHOR

      Faye Constantino 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Thank you bonny. I will send him to you in an e-mail.

      Thanks for asking, and Thank you so much for reading.

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      bonetta hartig 

      8 years ago from outback queensland

      People tried to bully me as a child but they soon gave up when they didn't get a reaction, today I am more prone to bullies because I react - however they only try a couple of times and soon disappear when they discover Iam not soo slow after all - i liked your hub and hope you don't run into any of those insignificant little people I also hope your friend rose above that email - I for one would love to read some of his hubs.

    • Faybe Bay profile imageAUTHOR

      Faye Constantino 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Thanks Sophs, It is important to acknowledge out heroes. I can not believe how many people were bullied, sometimes the bullies had been bullied, which is what turned them that way. Children learn what they live, they say, so why didn't we turn into bullies? Weird huh?

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      8 years ago

      Awwwww I love this story! Good old Joel Cash. Kids can be so cruel :( and adults even more so, it's sad. I can relate to this story being bullied and not fitting in is awful I think everyone's been there at some point, really enjoyed this piece Faybe, very well written great story :)

    • Faybe Bay profile imageAUTHOR

      Faye Constantino 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Thank you AEvans, I did, but he had deleted each cell and could not retrieve it. He has written two more, one I told him he held back on, now he finished a new one that has more of the original content. It is actually very funny, and is now being well received.

      You go, Girl, Punching that bully in the mouth! Wish I'd done that!

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      8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      Being here for almost three years everyone will recieve some type of nasty e-mail, I simply review there comment and then decide if I should allow it or not. There will be some who will push a person to there limit however it is up to all of us not to engage with them. Your friend should have kept his hub published it certainly does not matter what the other person thinks.

      I was bullied when I was a little girl because I was shy and quite, until one day when I was 13 and someone called my mother a very distasteful name, I had gotten off of the school bus and punched her right in the mouth never again did she call my mother out of name, nor did she speak to me either. What I am trying to say is nobody should ever tolerate being bullied, nor should anyone be afraid to publish there work, we are all artists with different creative ideas. Many new hubbers have came to me personally and asked for me to review there hubs, I have also defended many on the forums. Attacks are not allowed on hubpages and people do get banned for bad behavior, tell him to publish his hub as is and ignore the person who sent it! :)

    • Faybe Bay profile imageAUTHOR

      Faye Constantino 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Thank you Mega. I have learned the insidious art of bullying bullies into submission. I hate to say that, but some only learn if they taste their own medicine. I only go after those bullying someone else though, never for myself.

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      8 years ago

      Yep - I used to wish I was a boy so I could deal with bullies the way boys do - but instead there were these girl bullies who are way more devious and insidious - I still have nightmares from some of that shite! well, you are good to remind us of this human condition of natural bully-ness, probably a little of it in most of us! another good hub - three weeks and a score of 91 - you are doing something so right!

    • Faybe Bay profile imageAUTHOR

      Faye Constantino 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Good luck Gabriel, we all have bad habits. It's not about you though. I am sure, eventually, everyone will get along.

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      Gabriel Wilson 

      8 years ago from Madeira, Portugal

      Hey there , thanks for the advice, I have bad habits. I feel like this hub is about me . Glad to meet you .

    • Faybe Bay profile imageAUTHOR

      Faye Constantino 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Thank you Mrvoodoo, I have to say as fantastical as it sounds it's all true. I think I may have ever only spoken to Joel those two times... Makes you wonder. I have an idea angels live among us, we don't always know them when we see them. Some don't even know they are angels. :)

    • Mrvoodoo profile image


      8 years ago from ?

      Excellent story, and quite a fantastical one with your hero always turning up when you most need him.

      I'm sorry to hear you were bullied, but glad to hear you didn't let it ruin your life and now offer advice to others.

      As for Hubpages and bullies, the forums can bring out the best or worst in each of us, I've crossed the line myself here a few times, but have always try to learn from my mistakes.

      Great hub, thanks for sharing your thoughts and advice, and tell your friend to stand strong, and not let others dictate what he/she does or doesn't publish.


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