- Quality of Life & Wellness
Happiness - Great gift to our life
Who is the happiest person in this world?
If anybody ask you 'How are you? your reply will be 'I am fine', if the conversation goes on, then you will start to tell about your problems one by one which will make others to think that you are not fine. So then why we are (including myself) answering ' I am fine'. We can say it as a formality. Is it the only one we are following the formality, No, we are doing so many things in our life for the formality or doing for others to make happy. In real, we are not happy. So who is the happiest person in this world?
Searching for happiness?
Have you answered the question which i was asked in the previous paragraph. What are the answers? Some one will say 'those who are financial free, they are the happiest person'. Some others will say 'those who are healthiest, are the happiest'. Still some others will say 'those who are having support from the family members, either husband or blood relationship or from in-laws, they are the happiest in the world'. So what is shows, can we say that there is no only one answer for this question. In that case, it is clearly shows that those who are lacking something in their life makes them to think, those who are having that 'something' are the happiest. So the list will goes on like, someone who is in rented house will think about the people who are having their own house and they are the happiest person. So the answer will change according to person to person, situation to situation, time to time. This is because we are not satisfying with the things which we got. If we are asking for something, even though we got it later but still we are expecting something in our life. It is a continous process in our life and makes us not to satisfy ever. So what is the solution for this and is there anything makes us happy permanently in our life?
What makes you happiness?
So coming to the question asked about the solution for happiness, do you have the solution. If the solution will be the one and it makes everybody happy in their entire life, how it will be useful for all the human beings in this world. But unfortunately, there is no solution like that. But in sometimes, we can change the situation to make our life happy but it will be a temporary not a permanent. Because in some case, we are not able to change the situation. So if the question for happiness is going on.. going on... what is the solution. The one and only answer is expectation in our life. So can we expect more or expect less for happiness?
What is happiness
It is true that we are expecting a lot and the list of expectations from childhood to the last minute of our life will be changing and increasing. But are we all enjoying our life even we met our expectations? No, this is because we are not having the mentality of a small child. If a child asking for something and if the child got that one, did anybody noticed the joy in the child's face. Did the same feeling or joy are we getting? What made the vast difference between a grown up human being and a child. This is because, we are searching for the next one without enjoying what we got. So it moves on and on. So is it possible to enjoy our life. So just rewind your life to the childhood.
In our childhood, during rainy season, if we saw water on the roadside, we will play in that water and purposely we will walk in the water. But when we are grown up, are we all doing the same. We are all just walking away of the water on the roadside. It doesn't mean that I am telling to do walk in the water now. This is just an example. Like that there are so many happiness flowing in our life as rain water. But we are all just walking away from that happiness. This is because our focus is not that water (happiness). We are focusing on other things which we thought it as happiness. But it will not be real happiness since we may not enjoy those moments heartfully.
Why don't you try these steps to bring happiness in your life
If we prepare mentally to come out of some situations in our life then we can play a happy life. First of all, we have to expect less in our life. As expectations growing more and more, we are losing happiness step by step. But we all know without expectations it is difficult to lead a good life. I agree, but make your expectations less. Expectations growing because of comparing our life with others, either neighbour or friends. Each and everyone's life is different from others by way of structure, financial matters, health, etc. So stop comparing with others and make your expectations list as a small by time to time.
Fill your life with thrills and surprise. How many of you are spending more time with your family. It is acceptable that we have to earn money through spending lot of time in our office or through business. But for what purpose we are all running for money. We are not money making machine. Money is to earn to live a happy life, but we feel that our life is not happy then what is the meaning to earn money. Spend more time with family members especially with children. Children are the best solution to fill our life with happiness.At Least weekly once spend a whole day with family members. This will recharge our mind and body to work for another one week with joy.
If you throw a child towards upwards and catch, what you will see, the child will laugh with full of joy in his / her face. This is because the child likes thrills. So we have to fill our life with thrills. Regular and routine work will not give happiness. So change your way of work and spending time for relaxation. If you are following a same path while going to office, just change the path one day. You will learn some new things on that day and also it will give a new experience. Like that, change the routine works in a different way.
If you are planning for vacation, switch off your mobile phones or avoid the office calls during the vacation period. Business people or work will not convey their happiness, only we get some unwanted things in the communication and it will destroy whole mood in the vacation. It will result in improper enjoyment in vacation.
Like that so many things in our life, we are missing. So try to find out those things and start enjoying your life. Life will be full of problems. We should not focus on problems, we should focus on solutions. Focusing on problems will not be useful whereas focusing on solutions will be helpful to solve the problem.
So simply see a child and how it enjoys life. Expect less and enjoy more in your life. Keep everything in limit and happiness will follow you.
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