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Are you Affected by other People's Behaviors?

Updated on May 15, 2017
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People's behaviors differ. The behavior of each can annoy you or make you want to not see them anymore.

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The people you spend time with, counts for more than where you come from, and of what you know in your life.

Also, of how intelligent you have become in your life

The people you spend your valuable time with, are those who make a difference in your life.

I know that from my recent experiences.

I too could have become that way, and lose thought of what I really want from my life in Croatia.

If you want to be successful, try spend time with the successful people, though sometimes it does not work out for everyone.

You can fight together to reach that set goal.

If you want to succeed in life face up to your battles and be that strong person.

The people who share great strengths like you will lead you along to be that successful person too.

· Do you know who you would like to spend your time with daily?

I have noticed when negative people are together they tend to speak about what hurts them and what pain they had passed.

Their conversations are very stressful to listen to.

Recently, we invited a few people over to our place. It was a great day until I met them.

These individuals just went on and on of how the change in a new government has made their lives even poorer.

I got fed up listening to their agreements, and disagreements, and was impatient to see them leave my home.

I try my best to stay away from such people. Sometimes they do stop by and I don't avoid these people. It is not in me to be rude to anyone.

I respect their odd visits but have chosen not to constantly be with them.

I am with happy and optimistic people. They keep me alive and full of energy.

The kind of people who can make me feel good about my life. At even my worst times they are there to help out and support me.

Those who push you forward are the better choices of individuals.

You can't keep every person as a friend.

Get rid of those who make you feel drained of your energy.

Don't go down with those who choose to live that way.

At one time in my life, I had a long list of people with I considered were of good company. After awhile I realized they are not the people I want to spend with anymore.

I have seen far too many envious, and negative people, and finally got them off my list.

I feel happy and smart enough to have made those choices.

I have made over the years.

I now fully understand the meaning of true friendship, and with whom I should spend my precious time.

I did not cling to anyone.

I had noticed on those occasions when I had I spent with the different people.

The way I felt when I left a room, and when I entered a room, had made me see more than I had expected.

In that aspect I have seen my true friends and successful friends.

  • My motto in my life is to be the leader and not to be led by another person.

What I think and do has got nothing to do with anyone else.

I don't like it when negative people say the worst when I am at my worst moment. I feel annoyed.

A few days ago my business was quiet, and I know that everyday won’t be the same.

I had some excellent days and some very bad days. It did not bother me.

A neighbor stopped by and decided to give his opinion of why my business was not as good on that specific day.

I did not need his opinion at that moment.

All of what he mentioned made me feel stressed out and insecure for that moment.

I ignored his conversations and continued my day in my way.

In such examples life can feel really down.

He did not even try to make me feel good on that day. Instead he poured out his negative thoughts to me.

There was no help from him.

· For example:

Her husband was loser at least to her that is exactly what she put him down to.

He kept on losing his job and was completely without an ambition.

No goals to follow and no budget planned.

He enjoyed playing video games and slouching on the couch.

The same routine daily suited him perfectly.

During all that time this woman battled with her ambitious life.

She was alone in this life and her career felt drained even when she performed excellently

She had to leave her husband. Since then she had met another man who understood her career goals and has become successful and motivated in her career.

She became energetic and less stressed out.

When you choose to be with someone who does share your interests in time all can work out for you.

He looked for his interests while she did not have anyone to share her life with from day-to-day.

You don't have to isolate those who are not like you the key is to just keep your distance.

Be with them but not all the time.

It is not like I don't like the less successful people or the less- driven people.

Everyone can't be successful or unsuccessful.

Maybe they have another talent you don't know about. Learn more about those who are not as successful as you.

There must be some good in them as there is in you.

You can function with all sorts of people it all depends on how you take in their conversations. It is you who can determine who you really are not the less ambitious people.

If you are comfortable with the less successful people then be with them. They can still show you happiness.

Once you like what you do you will be much happier than those who earn six figure salaries.

Be encouraged with your very own thoughts.

I like to spend time with people in my level and like to learn more about the less successful people.

I don't mind being with negative people as I know how to ignore their painful conversations.

I don't pay attention to every word and always think of the good when together.

I do respect their moans but also prefer to not take in every word.

Life for me is not what could have and should have it is about what is for me.

I raised my self-esteem as I was raised and understand not every individual has had my way of life.

  • Success is important if you want it.

Great qualities can make you a better individual.

Enjoying life is the most important for me.

I like to spend time with my son and husband my closest of family and with my very close friend.

You can surround yourself with any individual you choose to be with, the bottom line is to be with who you want to share your positive life.

I have met many people and have laughed with most of these people.

Ditch people who fail to see what you want in your life. If people are an obstacle to what you want to achieve, don't surround yourself with such individuals.

Most important, be with who makes you feel the happiest.

Learn from your experiences.

I have listened from many negative conversations and immediately I knew I had to stay away from those who make me feel that way.

I think of my happy and positive childhood to make my thoughts clear in my head.

When I think that way I override the negative thoughts.

Be Positive

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VioletteRose thank you dear for stopping by here I appreciate all comments from all my followers.

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      VioletteRose 2 years ago from Chicago

      I agree with you, negative people and conversations can drain our energy. And it is also true that most of us are affected just by listening to the negative talk. Thanks for sharing.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Maggie.L, thank you for showing up here as well. I prefer the positive kind of people but also give others a chance of conversation.

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      Maggie.L 2 years ago from UK

      I go out of my way to avoid spending too much time with negative people. People with a positive attitude really lift everyone's spirits. Thanks for writing an interesting hub.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Raine Law Yuen Great thoughts from you and very true thank you for making the time and effort to comment on my hubs.

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      Raine Law Yuen 2 years ago from Cape Town

      Hi DDE - Finally finding some time to settle down a bit and read some of your hubs. It seems that we see life in a similar way. Being around negative people is the one NO NO in my life. It really does drain a person and prevents us from following our true selves. Unfortunately it can be very challenging to let go of these people because they are often those within our inner circle. I've learnt its better to have no friends than to have a negative one - soon we will attract the right people for us. With a place like HP one is never without like minded thoughtful people.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness so nice of you to stop by. I am glad you know the good choices of people. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 3 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Devika, thought-provoking and interesting as always. The people we spend time with can bring us down or lift us up, I know which I'd choose if I had the choice. Nice work, my best.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ARUN KANTI people are different and sometimes you just got to put up with them with certain limits thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron, amazing and so interestingly mentioned I so agree! Thank you for all votes and shared. Have a great weekend.

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      ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 3 years ago from KOLKATA

      Devika-I wish to spend time with people on the same wave length no matter where they hail from but they must be of positive frame of mind and not the envious or grumpy type. Thank you very much for another good hub..

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Devika, my once gave me a poem that would go good with this hub.

      "You were not made from my head to top me, or from my feet to be stepped on by me. You were made from my rib under my arm to be protected by me, near my heart to be loved by me."

      After 30 years I still have this poem.

      Shyron

      Voted up, UABI and shared.

      Shyron

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Janellegems, thank you for sharing your helpful comment

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      Great wisdom in dealing with people who are negative, envious and those who take us away from following our dreams and goals. Life is better with more positive, caring, encouraging people. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Nell Rose so right! Positive people and positive thoughts make good days ahead. Thank you

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi DDE interesting hub, I know what you mean, I tend to have a few negative people around me and it just makes me frustrated that they don't want to do anything, yet my friends are totally different, it's a good balance, but we do need positive people around us, nell

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MartieCoetser great to read a comment from you and take care thank you for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      midget38 thank you very much for stopping by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      “Don't be a pepper on the eyes of people; Rather be the salt on their tongue and make a difference that influences their sense of belonging to the earth.” These are great words and has great meaning. thank you for the vote up.

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      DDE, people rub off on us, whether we realize it or not, therefore, if we want to be happy, we should ignore negative people (losers) and seek the company of positive people (winners). Great discussion!

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      Michelle Liew 3 years ago from Singapore

      A great hub. The answer is yes, sometimes a little too much!

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      Tijani Achamlal 3 years ago from Morocco

      Great article.Voted up !

      “Don't be a pepper on the eyes of people; Rather be the salt on their tongue and make a difference that influences their sense of belonging to the earth.”

      ― Israelmore Ayivor .

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      midget38 thank you for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eiddwen thank you for the vote up and all my best to you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi suzettenaples so glad you came by thank you for making your point even clearer.

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      Michelle Liew 3 years ago from Singapore

      This is why we should never be affected by toxic people!

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      Another gem by you Devika and voted up. Wishing you a wonderful day.

      Eddy.

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      Suzette Walker 3 years ago from Taos, NM

      It is so much better to have friends that are positive, encouraging and successful or at least happy with their lives. There is enough daily negativity to deal with without have negative friends drag you down. You make some great points and I enjoyed reading this.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC, thank you for stopping by and yes ''limit your time with them.''

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora thank you very much for stopping by

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Phyllis Doyle I appreciate you stopping by here. Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. you are so right and always a thought from you that makes me feel more encouraged to write. Thank you for the vote up, useful and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker thank you

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ChitrangadaSharan well thought of and so true about the choice pf people we stand by.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      RachaelOhalloran ''If you are negative, everything else in your life turns a dull gray and you can't help but fail at everything you do.'' I feel the same about negative thoughts and you said it perfectly thank you.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ann, I am glad to read a comment from you.A true insight from your mind thank you

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      Linda Crampton 3 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      The quote in one of your photos is so true, Devika - people can inspire you or they can drain you. I like the fact that you point out that we don't have to avoid negative people, just limit our time with them.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Good thoughts to ponder, as usual. You always present the positive side of every situation. Thank you.

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      Phyllis Doyle Burns 3 years ago from High desert of Nevada.

      "You can function with all sorts of people it all depends on how you take in their conversations. It is you who can determine who you really are not the less ambitious people." (DDE)

      That is so true, Devika. I love your positive outlook on life and Self. I prefer to spend my time with positive people -- yet, even the downtrodden and negative ones can teach me to have more faith in myself and my own outlook on life. There is one person I know that is having a lot of misfortunes in his life caused by outside influences, but his outlook and faith in himself never waivers and he knows how to rise above the negative and learn from it.

      Great hub.

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      Dave 3 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      The old satin Laugh and the world laughs with you,cry and you cry alone springs to mind. No one wants to listen to negative people going on and on all the time .Being a shoulder to cry on is one thing being a target for negativity is another. Another great read my friend. Voted up,useful and interesting.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Well done piece DDE, important things to consider in life.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Nice thoughts!

      Like many others, I like to be in the company of persons with positive thinking. Those having an open mind and not someone who is always critical of others and of life.

      Thanks for sharing this thought provoking hub!

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      Rachael O'Halloran 3 years ago from United States

      Like you, my family is my life. Without them, life is not life as I know it. I need them and they need me. We enjoy each other's company and spend as much time together as we can. Negative people don't have much influence on me or Joe because we don't hold much with that. If you are negative, everything else in your life turns a dull gray and you can't help but fail at everything you do.

      As for the dead weight people in our lives, we don't keep them around too long. lol

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      You're so right that others' behaviour can affect us adversely, can wear us down, especially if we let it. It's being aware of that behaviour that is necessary; then we can choose whether or not to accept it.

      I don't think it's necessarily people who are less ambitious or less successful, just those who have a negative outlook on life and can't stop moaning.

      Great ideas and your positivity shines through as always.

      Ann