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Are you tired of sacrificing your sexuality because you are overweight?

Updated on March 28, 2010

Do you have friends that ask “are you tired of sacrificing your sexuality because you are overweight?” Are you suffering because of this situation in your life? The first question your personal doctor might ask is “do you know that nutrition goes hand-in-hand with your sexuality?”

Your doctor may even say these statements to you:

  • You can be muscular - as well as overweight
  • You can be supple and limber - as well as overweight
  • You can even have good cardio endurance - and be overweight

But, what you can’t be is healthy and overweight at the same time. They do not exist together.

Wikipedia defines human sexuality as "the way people experience and express themselves as sexual beings". Your self esteem may be high and you may feel well loved and functioning in a very happy relationship. However, if you are overweight, can you say that you feel healthy too? Can you really experience the highest level of physical sexuality if you are not in good shape? This may be a tough question to ask, but it is even harder for some people to answer so they continue to lose out on one of the happiest aspects of feeling alive - feeling good physically.

I’m talking about being healthy so that you can enjoy the benefits of a healthy sexual relationship. Women’s sexuality, as well as men’s depends a great deal on how they feel about themselves. Many people are going to couples counseling because they are suffering from anxiety and depression. They are not happy with their intimacy relationship. They are dealing with anxiety on a daily basis and are seeking depression therapy thinking that this type of clinical help will improve their sexuality. What they do not realize is that nutrition plays a huge part in their ability to improve this situation.

Sexual dysfunction is the degeneration of your body parts. Diet related problems are often tied to overeating, improper choice of foods and the lack of exercise. Although health authorities cannot agree on the exact role that diet plays in this issue, they do commonly agree that diet plays a huge part in many of the serious degenerative diseases that are rampant in today’s society. If you are overweight, then you are not healthy physically by anyone's standards.

When the experts talk about having a high level of wellness, they mean that you are trim, eat properly, exercise regularly, do not smoke, and do not drink excessively. When you improve your health, you can enjoy your sexuality at a higher level. The experts also make the statements that if you want to protect yourself and avoid those degenerative diseases that affect all of your body’s organs (including sexual), then a healthy diet is clearly a “no other option” situation.

They recommend that your diet be low in fats (especially saturated fats) as well as cholesterol. Salt, sugar and other refined or processed foods are also off the list of diet choices. On the list should be fresh fruits and vegetables, as well as protein from a variety of plant sources. Personally, I would like to add that the rule of thumb to use when grocery shopping is that the closer your food is to its original state of being – the better it is for you. Once it is processed, chemicals, hormones and other toxic additives become a part of the food and these build up in your organs and begin to deteriorate them over time. For me, organic is the best way to go, but sometimes the cost can be prohibitive for people with a limited food budget.

Another way to plan your grocery shopping to improve your healthy eating habits is to buy from the perimeter of the store as much as possible. What I mean by that is you should buy your food from along the outside walls of your local store. Produce, meat, fish, fresh eggs, etc. are usually found in this area. The interior aisles are the place to find the processed, boxed foods that are full of the additives that can destroy your health and your sexuality. For some great ideas on how to take advantage of these non-processed foods, see the easy recipes at the end of this article.

Cut back on refined foods with chemicals and additives. Start reading labels so you are not just picking up the cheapest or most well known brands when you shop. A brand name may seem like the right idea, but it can sometimes have twice the sodium content of the off brand. Don’t buy your vegetables from a can just because they are convenient. Buy your vegetables from the produce section. They don’t contain sodium, preservatives, high fructose corn syrup, and other nasty chemicals. You will be amazed how flavorful freshly steamed asparagus or broccoli tastes. It’s absolutely yummy. Sprinkle a little natural sea salt (not table salt, which has a huge amount of sodium) on these vegetables and even the kids will ask for a second helping. Mushy green beans out of a can would choke a horse, but crisp freshly steamed beans are truly a delight.

In case you haven’t guessed it yet, this new method of shopping means you will have to start cooking more meals from scratch. You won’t be able to just open the box, add water, and bang your meal is on the table. Cutting up fresh vegetables (instead of opening the can), peeling the potatoes (instead of opening the box), and learning about how to use spices correctly will all take time. But what is the trade off? Do you want to spend the time in discomfort, in the doctor’s office, or in bed because you are sick all the time and depressed because of your weight? Or would you rather spend the extra half hour or so per meal preparing a delicious diet that is going to improve not only your health, but your sexuality? It’s your choice, and it’s a life choice – one that only you can make.

Diseased Heart

Heart disease, obesity, sexual dysfunction, and cancer are all related to diet. By increasing the quantity of “whole” foods you put in your body you can decrease the chances of suffering from today’s common health diseases. Your goal should be to get the nutrients that your body needs to live and thrive on. Get the exercise you need to help improve your life and reduce the stress that comes with being overweight. A healthy body can mean a healthy sexuality.

I’ve decided to include some of my favorite recipes that use ingredients you can find at any grocery store. They are tasty, quick and require very little preparation time. I’ve also found that I can come up with a creative new meal plan just by using the produce I’ve bought recently. Again, I highly favor organic ingredients, but your goal is to use as much fresh – not processed or packaged – ingredients as you can find or afford.

Let’s start with some vegetable ideas.

Hot Garlic Kale:

2 Tablespoons Organic Olive Oil
3 Organic Garlic Cloves (medium) - minced
1 Bunch of Organic Kale (use only as much as you need for recipe)
Organic Sea Salt Fresh Ground Organic Pepper

Preheat oven to 375 degrees. Rinse kale thoroughly and pat dry with a paper towel. Next, tear the stems off the kale and throw them away. Cut the remaining pieces of the leaves into large chunks. In a big bowl, mix the oil and minced garlic. Sprinkle into the bowl a couple shakes of your sea salt and your fresh ground pepper and stir this mixture thoroughly. Add the chunks of kale to this bowl and stir it until it looks like all of the kale is coated with the mixture.

On a cookie sheet spread out the kale in a single layer. Bake it for 3 minutes, then turn it over and bake it for another 3-4 minutes. It will dry up and get too crispy very quickly, so you want to keep an eye on it the first time you do this recipe. After the first couple times, you will find the exact amount of time in the oven that fits your taste. Serve it immediately as it cools quickly. I personally like mine nice and chewy, with lots of garlic.

Cold Chili Flavored Kale:

1 Teaspoon Organic Chili Powder
½ Teaspoon Organic Sea Salt
¼ Cup Organic Olive Oil
¼ cup Organic Lemon Juice
1 Bunch of Organic Kale

Rinse kale thoroughly and pat dry with a paper towel. Next, tear the stems off the kale and throw them away. Finely chop the remaining leaves of the kale and place them in a large bowl. Take all the other ingredients and mix them in another small bowl, then pour this mixture over the kale. You now have a fresh kale salad with a kick of lemony flavor that will go with any meal.

Paprika Potatoes:

3 Large Organic Red Potatoes
Organic Olive Oil
Organic Paprika (or Organic All Season Salt)
Organic Sea Salt

Preheat your broiler on high. Thoroughly clean potatoes cutting off any stems or dirt blemishes. Cut into large wedges and place on a cookie sheet – skin side on the cookie sheet. Take a fine bristle cooking brush and lightly coat each slice with olive oil. Then sprinkle each piece with the All Season Salt. If you have just the paprika, sprinkle a small amount of it over the potatoes then go back and sprinkle a little bit of sea salt on each piece as well.

You are not trying to coat your potatoes in red; you are just trying to get the flavor of the paprika and salt to spice up the recipe. Place the cookie sheet on the middle shelf of your oven and keep an eye on the potatoes. Every oven is different, so just keep poking them with a fork until they are done, but not burnt. I really like this recipe because I love how paprika can spice up anything with just a little sea salt added to it. The potato recipe can be made cheaply and feed a big family as a side dish.

Now here is my favorite breakfast (or anytime meal):

Nutmeg French Toast:

2 Slices of Organic Whole Wheat Bread
2 Organic Free Range Eggs
1 Organic Nutmeg Nut (whole)
100% Pure “Grade A” Organic Maple Syrup (I prefer dark amber)
Organic Butter

Add a small amount of butter to a large skillet – enough to coat the bottom and prevent burning of the eggs. Scramble your two eggs in a large flat bowl then dip each slice of toast in the eggs. Don’t let them soak up the eggs; just dip them long enough to get coated. Next, place the two slices of bread into the medium heat skillet and let them cook until they are slightly browned on both sides.

Place the cooked bread on a warm plate. Take your cheese grater and hold it over the toast. Scrape the nutmeg nut over the “fine” section of the grater and coat your toast with the freshly grated nutmeg. I like lots of nutmeg, but use whatever amount that you like best. Next, dribble the maple syrup over the toast. Serve and eat. I have never had French toast out of a box that could even compare to the flavor of these “from scratch” ingredients. No chemicals, no preservatives, no high fructose corn syrup. Just incredible flavor the whole family can enjoy without breaking your grocery budget.

Cooking Tips:

When I first started taking on cooking for myself in earnest, I found one of the biggest problems I faced was figuring out how to measure ingredients. I found this conversion table very handy, so I’m passing it on to you.

1/5 teaspoon = 1 ml
1 teaspoon = 5 ml
1 tablespoon = 15 ml
1 fluid oz. = 30 ml
1/5 cup = 50 ml
1 cup = 240 ml
2 cups (1 pint) = 470 ml
4 cups (1 quart) = .95 liter

1 gram = .035 ounce
100 grams = 3.5 ounces
500 grams = 2.205 pounds
1 kilogram = 2.205 pounds
1 kilogram = 35 oz.

Measurement Equivalents:
16 tablespoons = 1 cup
12 tablespoons = ¾ cup
10 tablespoons + 2 tablespoons = 2/3 cup
8 tablespoons = ½ cup
6 tablespoons = 3/8 cup
5 tablespoons + 1 teaspoon = 1/3 cup
4 tablespoons = ¼ cup
2 tablespoons = 1/8 cup
2 tablespoons + 2 teaspoons = 1/6 cup
1 tablespoon = 1/16 cup
2 cups = 1 pint
2 pints = 1 quart
3 teaspoons = 1 tablespoon
48 teaspoons = 1 cup

Well, I hope I have inspired you to take another look at your life style and diet habits. You only have one life to live, so why not enjoy it. Don’t spend another day looking in the mirror and asking “are you tired of sacrificing your sexuality because you are overweight” and getting the same answer – yes. Take charge and start eating right. Use some of my recipes ideas as a creative spark for your own. There are so many cookbooks available, both organic and traditional, that are geared towards simple preparation and require very few ingredients. Remember, you can always convert a canned or boxed brand name ingredient to a fresh one. Quantities may differ, but half the fun of cooking is using your creativity to make a delicious meal. Have fun!


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    • Susan Carter profile image

      Susan Carter 7 years ago

      I agree with you. Love and happiness are a critical part of your ability to enjoy your sexuality. If you feel desired, then that is what really matters when it comes to a happy relationship. I hope you enjoy the recipes.

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      Crystal Hart 7 years ago

      Good article overall. I believe there are those who may be overweight but still have some form of sexual contact making their relationship very happy and health. I will have to try some of the recipes listed.

    • Ghost Whisper 77 profile image

      The IGNITER vs Corrupted Governments 7 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

      Okay..I am back. I am like quickdraw sometimes...I got here too quick to read! And I reread ;)

      This is a very helpful hub to many. I am in shape-closing in on 50! I can hardly believe it!! I was reading and thinking...many probably do sacrifice their sexuality for being overweight and then again....even some who are overweight are not..because their partners like the extra weight. I suppose it may be more important to how we feel about ourselves anyway-our inside feelings. But being overweight is not healthy. Good hub!

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      Susan Carter 7 years ago

      GhostWhisper77 - Sorry, but I was trying to post some pictures like kale and potatoes in my article, but I couldn't get them to load into a photo capsule. I thought if I tried to publish first, then edit afterwards it might fix my problem. It hasn't. You actually read my article in mid stream before it was finished. I guess I won't do that again. Thanks for comment. Hope you will go back and see the final product, then give your review.

    • Ghost Whisper 77 profile image

      The IGNITER vs Corrupted Governments 7 years ago from The U.S. Government protects Nazi War Criminals

      Hey lovely lady-your comments are in the middle of your hub!