Angry Teenagers With Teen Autism: Asperger's Syndrome; ADHD; Autistic Spectrum Disorders Are For Life - A True Story
Yes, Autistic Spectrum Disorders are definitely for life and not just for Christmas. What this hub is about, however, is living with an adolescent who has Asperger's Syndrome. This is our life since Christmas - it is now 12th March 2010.
All teen's are rebellious. Children's behaviour changes and becomes more intensified as they are on the brink of this adolescent disorder called growing up. Problems with teens and living with parents can lead to conflict within the household. Adolescent problems include defiance, moodiness, being withdrawn and head strong. Now, imagine being a parent who has a young person not only with usual teenager's problems, but also has asperger's syndrome or a teenager with adhd. These types of conditions emphasises adolescence further. It almost as if you are dealing with alien being or an adolescent disorder! Don't get confused - mix adolescence with asperger's or adhd, you are dealing with a different beast altogether!
As you will probably know, adhd and Asperger's Syndrome (lots of people under the spectrum also have ADHD, although ADHD isn't classed under ASD on its own) is classified under the umbrella of autistic spectrum disorders. If you want to learn more click here for details. However, this social story has been borne out of frustration and it is hoped that others who are going through the same may feel that they are not on their own.
Dan is a Troubled Teenager... Dan Has Asperger's Syndrome!
Roll up! Roll up! Roll up for the magical mystery tour… step this way…
Magical mystery tour?
More like a roller coaster! Dan
has asperger’s autism. I now find
myself calling him Dan. He was born
Daniel but he is no longer the child that was - Dan is one of those troubled teenagers. He doesn't have ADHD, but he does have much of the symptoms.
He is now a young man, nearly 16, with complex needs. Everyone calls him Dan. Apparently he likes to be called Dan. He was always Daniel to me but he isn't the boy he used to be, so I guess he is now just Dan.
Rebellious Teen - there isn't much you can do about it, anyway!
These last few months have been hell living within the world of an Aspie - adolescent problems are exasperated with this condition. Yes, indeed the magical mystery tour is a roller coaster of emotion. Here I write this in a whirl pit of self-pity. This disgusts me – I am always so strong. Take a deep breath and ready for the big dippppppppppper!
How have we managed over the years? I am thinking as he punches my younger son
in the chest for ‘being derogatory’.
Why do I not feel anything? What
is worse, why does Chrissie just accept the punch? Obviously, I have let him down.
He has grown up to know that this is just normal in his life – he knows
no better! Rebellious teens eh? This is more than that. This is unreasonable abuse! I later asked Christian how he felt about the behaviour and the told me that there wasn't much anyone could do about it anyway! Sad eh?
I have learned not to hurt
but the tear from my eye ooze, so there must be something there?
Adolescent Disorder - You Tell Me!
“Go to your room!” I
command Dan and, with a huff, he goes.
He comes down again and says sorry but I coldly send him back up
again. I really can’t be doing with the
blah blah blah, explaining the whys and wherefores - all the counselling
crap. Done that, been there and worn
the t-shirt! An adolescent disorder? You tell me!
We have had a hard day.
We viewed residential educational establishment for September especially
for young people with Asperger’s and autistic spectrum disorders. Fingers crossed that they can accept
him. He really needs help! We really need to be safe and I need to keep
my sanity, which is kept together on a short thread. Dan is fed up with living with parents - he wants out!
Drunken, Adolescent and Disorderly
Since Christmas, we have had three temporary exclusions (the latest last week where he was nearly permanently excluded), two alcohol incidents, two involvements with police, numerous detentions, an addiction to cigarettes, a ban on the City centre and two violent outbursts, lots of mental torture and a partridge in a pear tree!
So roll up, roll up and step this way… the magical mystery tour is hoping to take you away, waiting to take you away… take you today!
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The Problem With Teens - Blame It On The Parents!
Did you know that we eat two spiders a year whilst we sleep? We leave our mouths open at night and the spiders hide out in there. We then subconsciously gobble them up! How would Paul McCartney feel to learn this fact when he is a vegetarian?! This was one of the conversations that disturbed Dan. He is obsessed with the Beatles… guns… Hitler…and racial hatred. But I guess some might blame the parents for that – well, it has to come from somewhere, after all!
This can be so far away from the truth. I have a happy hippy heart. I believe in life, love and tolerance to all. I know that is still the essence of me. But when I’m around Dan, I’m on the roller coaster.
Teenagers with Asperger's & ADHD Can't Cope with Adolescents
We struggle up to the top. It is hard as you hear the clatter, clatter of the chains pulling the carriages up. Once on top of positive hill, all is fine and dandy. Things will be all right; Dan can actually be good company! Then I hold on tight and doooooooooown we go. The pancreas hits the throat. Flop.
Dan’s done this… the school can’t cope… I have to go to school to escort him to lessons because he can’t trust himself (and frankly, no one else does either!). We quickly rise to the peak on the coaster – things will be better if I take control, this is what he wants! Up, up and away! Back up to positive hill. Dan gets angry. Dan can’t cope. Dan wants me out! Dooooooooooooooooooooooown we go! And the ride keeps on going and going and going – let me off! I can’t do this anymore!
Challenging Behaviour That Challenges The Carer
Asperger's Syndrome... ADHD... Autistic Spectrum Disorder... Behaviours to mystify and challenge those who care for this hidden disability. So... Roll up! Roll up! Roll up for the mystery tour! The magical mystery tour is coming to take you away, coming to take you away... take you today. Errh, no thanks. I think I just want a bit of predictability for a while. Roll on September!
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