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Loving Yourself

Updated on January 21, 2011

Loving Thy Self

It is so important for people to begin loving themselves. Many people walk around dragging their self esteems through the floor like mops. They may say good morning to everyone in the world, except the person in the mirror. How sad is this being that who we see in the mirror every morning is truly the only person that has always been their for us, with us and for us.

Seriously, think about it. You come here with "you", go through every moment of your life with "you", and leave this world only with... yeah, you guessed it, "you!" Therefore, who better to love and to cherish than yourself. Of course we have to love others, but I don't think anyone can truly love another if they don't love themselves first. But, how do we do it? How can we make the choice of loving ourselves when we are not happy with the stupid things we've done in life, or with our physical image, or with our career choices, etc.?

The very first step in this journey, is accepting yourself lovingly and forgiving yourself liberally, realizing that no person in the world is perfect, and that includes you! Why then should you even bother to shed tears over your petty imperfections. Imperfect as you are, you are wonderful. There are qualities that you have that someone else is lacking, great qualities. The problem is that we are quicker to look away when someone else errs, but when it is us putting our foot in our mouth, we beat ourselves over the head as if we had to be perfect. True, sometimes our "imperfections" make us the opposite of another person, perhaps someone we love very much, and this make us feel as if we cannot meet up to their standards. However, I believe that by being an opposite you have now become a complement to that person, rather than an obstacle. Honestly, by being the opposite force in someone's life sometimes we balance that person's life. You may not know it, the person may not know it, but it is true just the same. Just like a battery is not complete without a negative and a positive pole, so is with the world and the people in it.

Moreover, is in this incompleteness that we find the very spice of life! It's what makes us want to go out and seek people who although different from us, make us feel loved, wanted and complete. And isn't that a great feeling! Would we experience this wonder, if we were inside a cocoon of perfection? Very unlikely. So accept yourself just the way you are. You are unique! No other person in the world has the very same set of qualities and experiences that you have. You may even be one to lead the world to a better place because you may know or understand things in ways that others don't.That is why within our imperfections we are still purrrfectly purrrfect, as a cat would say.

Now, this act of loving yourself, is truly and foremost an act of liberation, so go out and do what you like! For goodness sake, how long has it been since you last had a walk in the park among the pines, or gave bread to the pond ducks,something that you loved doing as a child? How long has it been since you last walked hand in hand with your friend, or ran with your dog? These might seem like very simplistic ways to find joy, but these simple things have the power to build great confidence and bring about feelings of fulfillment. Life you see is actually quite simple. What gets a bit too complex though, is trying to keep it that way. Is it not?

Another simple but important way to building self love is through meditation. Meditation stimulates your body to release endorphins, also known as the "feel good hormones." Most importantly, as you meditate, the conversations with your heart keep getting clearer.Just as small drops of water make the mighty ocean, daily meditation will turn you to a storehouse of confidence and love.

Also, find time to practice skills that you enjoy, and while you are doing what you enjoy, contemplate yourself in the process. Become an outside observer to your own life. Realize that these "things" you do, whatever they are, you do because you enjoy doing them and the reason you enjoy doing them, is because you do them so well. Yes, you are a bright and intelligent being! Continue polishing and seeking out your talents, and don't forget to share your talents with others. Whether you are a great cook, an event planner, an artist, teach your art to those interested. Remember,all the beautiful literature, art, and architecture that surround us has been brought to existence by "talent sharers." Believe me, someone out there will love to learn something from you. It is time to free your mind of all the heavy baggage of unnecessary worries, self doubts, and self hatred, and it is time to live again. Make space for positive and uplifting thoughts. You will instantly feel light and cheerful.

One last point, find your flock of birds; "birds of a feather flock together." Yes, you must seek out people with whom you enjoy being. First, because they are certainly the people of your frequency and the energy flow between you and them is as natural as when waves meet shore. Life becomes easy when you are among the people who are more or less on the same plane of thought as you and it is easier to relate to them. They seem to understand you and you understand them, thus creating harmonious conditions for healthy and uplifting conversations. Great conversations are exercise for the soul. We all want our ideas to be heard and appreciated.

As you apply these suggestions in your life, you will see more positivity and love entering into your life. Love will also start radiating from within for love cannot be contained. In conclusion, you will find yourself loving others, as you love thyself.

Tip: Lay down comfortably and listen to a relaxing melody. As you relax think of something you do well. Imagine yourself taking this to the next level. Contemplate yourself smiling as people complement you for your achievement.Feel the satisfaction of giving to others your talents for their enjoyment.


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      Monique Rodriguez 7 years ago

      Thank you all for your comments and support. It really motivates me to write more for this great community!

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      Heavenly Cruz 7 years ago

      This is a very nice article, I love the way you touched on this sensitive subject with tact and humor. Not a lot of people can admit that they have low self esteems, so reading this article definitely helps a lot with what most people keep hidden.

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      Marie Giunta 7 years ago from Sydney, Australia

      How true, mrod, we say hello to everyone but ourselves, you make an interesting point about self esteem in this hub. Welcome to the Hubpages community and if you need further help why not visit the learning center or send me a message and I'll help where I am able. Hope you enjoy being a part of HP, cheers Marie, member of the 'hubgreeters' team.